My ex & I broke up 5 months ago. I hadn't answered his calls since, until last week. He said he'd missed me & I had missed him as well & he invited me out 4 drinks. He told me that he wanted to spend time with me & try again starting the next day. Well the next day came & he hadn't called me all day 2 make any plans. When I called him & said that I thought we were going 2 spend time today he got irrate & said he'd been busy in meetings all day & was just gettin' out of 1. I said ok got off the phone then he called back & canceled. I was highly upset, I asked y. He said I hadn't changed, y couldn't I just except that he was canceling. I told him that there was no need 4 us 2 try again cause it wasn't going 2 work 4 me.
I later found out he hadn't been in meetings but was registering 4 school & that had ended at 3. It was 6 when I called him.
Did I do something wrong or where did this go wrong. Y would he make up with me and then mess it up the very next day?
2007-11-06 08:14:37 · 13 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he could have been lonely, or thought things could be different but then was reminded of why things didnt work
2007-11-06 08:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by glamourr37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get away from us, we feel as though we screwed things up and we want desperately to undo that mistake. So, we enthusiastically try to show them we've changed or that we're attempting to make amends...and it works! Now we're thinking more realistically, and questioning ourselves...."was it her I was in love with, or the idea of her?", so we schedule a date or two to see what's real. During the date (at some point in time known only to him) he might've had a flash of memory or recognition of a "look" on your face that let him know he didn't really want to go through this again...he just didn't want to have gone as a villian.
Now, before you get depressed by this scenario, realize it's just that: a scenario. I could easily be wrong about all of this; it was just a guess and a plausible explanation of how something like this could happen. I would recommend talking about it together, but you've already told him basically not to bother. So, make your peace with this and move on. This is sort of a no-fault circumstance that sucks and hurts anyway. I hope you feel better soon.
2007-11-06 16:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself, as women we always try and figure out what WE did wrong. He's just confused and doesn't know what he wants. You are way better off meeting new people, or even just spending time with people who do care about you. Maybe even change your number so you don't have to be tempted because I'm sure he will want to contact you again when he's feeling lonely.
2007-11-06 16:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oy i'd be pissed off - maybe he was scared, but regardless he screwed up. He needs to figure out what he wants and not give you mixed messages... sounds like he's a little unsure...
Tread carefully, I wouldn't blame you if you didn't give him a chance, but if you do and blows that too then I would move on- unless you really think it's worth some pain to re-ignite the relationship...
Why did you break up in the first place? I hope it wasn't his flakiness...
Good luck
2007-11-06 16:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest he's the only one that can answer this cuz we weren't with him..i mean i can give u my opinion...ok here it is
he works for the CIA and was busy trying to catch the escaping aliens from area 51.....c every story or suggestion we tell u doesnt mean anything and how do u know what he was doin? anyways this sounds like to much drama move on
good luck PEACE
2007-11-06 16:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn’t seem worth it. If he's going to play with you like that them let him alone. Move on, I'm sure you could find someone who is capable of treating you a whole lot better and NOT acting like a total and complete a**.
2007-11-06 16:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a bi-polar @ss hole if you ask me, and your question shouldnt be "did I do something wrong?" you should be thanking your lucky stars that you almost got stuck with that jerk again and didnt!! you are way better than that skip the drama and go find some one that will love you and treat you with respect an HONESTY!!! good luck sweetie!!
2007-11-06 16:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Workaholic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to control you. Cut him off, block his calls and get on with your life.
2007-11-06 16:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by It's a secret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a player
2007-11-06 16:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cecilia ♡ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wanted to see if he could get you back and once he realized he could, he did not want you anymore!
2007-11-06 16:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋