how can i convince my dad?

Question

i have long and straight dark brown hair. i'm about to get short layers and cut a few inches off of it. but i really really want to dye the ends of my hair like a reddish looking color. so when i brought this up to my dad he said absolutly not! its my hair! it's not like i want to cut it all off and dye it neon green! it's just a way to express myself and do something that i think i've earned to do. i get good grades and am almost always home by curfew. i do my chores and respect my family and have a good relationship with them. so what's the big deal? i'll even pay for that part myself!! what do you think i can do to change his mind?

Answer 1

when you can pay for it yourself , then do it. your still his little girl and he loves you the way you are and doens't want that to change.

Answer 2

Ask him why he objects. It's no different than choosing your own clothing or jewelry. In fact, given some of the hoochie outfits I've seen on some of the teen/twenty somethings, it's actually a whole lot less important. If he can't give you a reason for his objection, then he's put himself in a position of defending an indefensible position.

If the argument is financial, you may be screwed. It's not a necessary expense and he may be trying to teach you frugality. A worthy lesson, in most circumstances. If this is the case, you may have to demonstrate what you're willing to give up in order to get what you want. Financial decisions are all about choosing what your money is best spent on. I find that most women need to spend some money on their looks or they don't feel right. You could explain this and that may soften his position.

That said, he's the parent and you have to do what he tells you until you're an adult. But if you can make a strong argument, and not descend into shrillness, you may be able to convince him.

I'm curious why you asked permission. It wouldn't have occurred to me to ask permission for something like that when I was a teen. I was always responsible for my own appearance. Probably why I looked so goofy my freshman year... And how I spent my money was my business. Unless it was ridiculous, like the time I decided to buy $100 in chocolate... That didn't go over well.

Anyway, sometimes you just have to do what your parents say because they said so. Goofy, I know, but to ensure domestic tranquility...

Answer 3

Find a pic that is close to what you want to do for the color. Then explain that it is only on the ends and can be cut off if it becomes a problem. You might also want to find out (ask him) what the problem is. You may be surprised by the answer.... maybe he has stereo typed that style to "bad" girls or some such thing. Knowing his reasoning gives you a chance to allay his fears! good luck!

Answer 4

Maybe try a compromise, see if he'll let you do it first with a temporary dye one that washes out after a few weeks

Also you could say that if he doesnt like it you would cut off the dyed part.

I'm guessing your dad has a reason to say no, find out what that reason is, why exactly he is objecting, and come up with a resonable solution.

Answer 5

hmmm- the strict dad is hard to overcome. maybe if you find a picture of the effect you are trying to do (and prove that its not as bold as he thinks it is) you might have a little leverage.

OR

ask him what you CAN do you your hair since he wont allow that. then you can work together on a way to express yourself and by making the BOTH of you happy and not upsetting the person that put the roof over your head.

PS- red is the hardest color to get out and also the hardest color to maintain. it fades super quickly but leaves a red pigment in your hair that is extremly tough to get rid of when you try and do a diff color:)

PSS- getting another family member of authority on your side also helps- mom, aunt, grandmother etc.....

Answer 6

It has nothing to do with good grades or curfew. It has to do with you being his child! I used to do crazy things to my hair. Nothing too bad, but when i look back on it i wish my dad had told me no! I don't know how old you are, but you biting your tongue and saying okay i understand, might actually get you what you want.

Answer 7

I've had problems like this with my mom. she's very old fashioned and hated when i told her i wanted to dye my blonde hair black. i wasnt as responsible as you though. so maybe you could try talking calmy with your dad. i dont suggest going out and getting it done though. i did that with some other things and the punishments sucked. all you really can do is keep talking with him and explain your side of things and listen to his side as well. ask him why he doesnt like the idea.

Answer 8

You can tell your dad that if you can get three adults to agree with you that its a good idea to dye your hair then he should let you. So go to three cool adults and ask them what they think. Have them tell your dad that it is a rockin good idea and presto he will let you color your hair a cool shade.

Answer 9

i dyed my hair blue and my mom had no problem with it becasue she accepted the fact that it is my hair and it will grow out and you could always cut it off or dye it back if your dad doesn't like it

Answer 10

Nothing...you will always be your daddy's little girl and he will always see you as a little girl. Tough it out and hope he changes his mind. Or you can ask him what you can do to help change his mind and ask him to elaborate on why he said "absolutely not"...then go from there...good luck.

Answer 11

I know it sounds nice, but believe me, dying your hair damages it sooo bad, and it doesnt always turn out right