Is 18 too young to get married?

Question

My fiance and I have set a date but the details still need to be worked out. I'm just want to know if anyone has any regrets about getting married too young. I plan on going to college and he is thinking about it. His mom is fine with us getting married, his dad isn't. My mom doesn't believe that we are getting married and I'm not sure if my dad knows.
We've been together for over 2 1\2 years and haven't done the break up, get back together thing. I just want to know if anyone has any regrets about getting married when they were young.

Answer 1

Dear Eldridge,

18 is not at all too young to get married. As long as you feel you have matured enough to handle the ups n downs, ready to have more responsibilties, you are all set!

I got married when i still had to turn 17 and i dont regret even a moment of it. Every day is beautiful. You will have your ups and downs, it will not be perfect as no marriage is. But you will have to keep in mind that its not about being young or old, everything is part of marriage, its part of compromise. There will be times when u feel this is it, this is the end of it. But remember taking short way out is not answer to life. When you go into this marriage ,you go with a positive mind, that younger or old, for better or worse, you will make a go for it and this will be Forever! There will be times when you may think this doesnt happens in every marriage, this is too much & you ll feel alone, but remember you are not alone, this is part of all this package. These all ups n downs are a way of making you learn about ur husband and yourself more. These expriences will mould your personality and you will learn for it.

There will be times when even a hour without him is difficult to pass. Just those laughs together, of sharing your day and your life itsy bitsy detail together, will mean so much to u, and you cant wait for him to come home. When he will call you just to say he misses you or he loves you. When he ll just do little little things just to show he cares. When he will hold you and the silence would be comfortable, without the need of words. There will be times when you both are tired of your day's work but the company of him/her would take your tireness away.

Its all about loving each other, understanding and compromising. For both the sides.. you willing to do this, know for sure this is what marriage takes to make work NOT age.

Tip: just when u get married, make a pact with your husband whenever you have a fight never sleep without making up with each other...no matter how angry you are..remember life is too short for these bickeringS! Every night sleep in each other arms and not with your backs turned to each other :).

Have a Happy Married life!!!!

Answer 2

Well I haven't been married
but I have been in a relation for 6 years
and we had decided to get married but a couple months
away we didnt think it was the best idea. .
I believe that no one can tell you if they regret it or not
because eveyone has a different point of view
I think that you should decide about if you think you are not prepared for a marriage why or why not?
A lot of couple have been married a they end up working it out and some dont but this is what you really want then go for it but if you are not sure the give it a second thought
and I believe that's all I can say!!

And always if you are in love thats the way to go!!

Answer 3

getting married that young is a terrible idea for most people. Where I come from, it's common for people to marry that young because premarital sex is a big no-no. Most of them get divorced after a couple of years. You change SO much between ages 18 and 25 that you're likely to no longer be compatible with your partner after a few years. Also, you will be going through college married - that adds an enormous amount of stress to your academic life as well as to your marriage. Several studies show that couples who get married at age 25 or older are much more likely to stay together than those who get married younger. That's not to say that young marriages *never* work, it's just saying that the odds are not in your favor.

Just wait. If you think that this guy really is the person for you, he'll still be right for you in 5 or 6 years.

Answer 4

Hi.

You certainly are old enough to make up your own mind. But, yes, I was married young (21) Sometimes I regret it...sometimes NO. I was (and still am) more of a "home body." As in....I don't mind being home.

My sister-in-law was married at 18 (now divorced). She did not have all the fun of going out, acting crazy, until she was about 25....then she decided she liked going out and, well, that was the end of that marriage.

I'm not saying not to....but you do give up LOTS of your "youth." You both should go to college, then....after a year or two....if you are still together, then I would say get married. Things may DRASTICALLY change once you get to college. Please go away to college and be on your own!!! I did and I NEVER regret that for one minute!

It's all fun planning a wedding and such....but after that...how will you afford to live and go to college being married? You will have all the bills, etc. that go with having an apartment, etc.

Good luck with your decision!

Answer 5

i got married when i was 18 and (8yrs ago). I'm totally in love and happy. But my education got pushed to the back burner. I didnt start college until i was 24. I had to take last year off because i got pregnant for the 3rd time. So this January im starting back. I wish I was finished with school, thats a regret. But also, I don't know what it's like to have my own apt. I dont know wthat its like to date someone while im not living with my parents. It's a teeny bit sad when u realize that u will never again know the thrill of a first kiss or the excitement of someone new. But i wouldn't trade my life for any of the things i sacrificed. If i had to do again. i would be sure to finish school before I had babies. But I wouldnt not undo my marriage. But also, my husband has no problem with my spending the weekend at my girlfriends, or going clubbing, dressing however I want etc. so consider the freedom that hes going to give you. I was married with children young but I still get to party a lot

Answer 6

Maybe you could go ahead & get engaged, but plan on a long engagement, I would say at least 1 1/2 to 2 years. It may seem far away right now, but if you two are meant to be together, it will only help your relationship grow stronger before adding the stress of a marriage. Go ahead & start college, make some decisions about your career goals & one of you needs a job so you can support yourselves. Then see about getting married. That way, you will have no regrets about starting off too young or being unprepared. Basically, i just think a few years can make a big difference.

Answer 7

First of all, you're gonna get a lot of snotty answers to this question, Ignore them.

I got married the first time when I was 22 & my wife was 19. The first year was great. But when the honeymoon was over, she realized she hadn't done a lot of things that she wanted to do as a single person. So she started doing them behind my back, including cheating on me & we ended up divorced.

My grandparents got married when she was 15 & he was 18. When my grandma passed away, they had been happily married for 58 years.

So my answer to your question is that only YOU can truly know if you are ready for marriage. You have to do a lot of soul searching & be really honest with yourself. You and your guy could both change alot in the next few years. Hopefully you'll grow closer together rather than apart.

If you're the praying sort, give that a try. You might get some helpful answers there.

Either way, best of luck to you & God Bless.

Answer 8

I got married the week after I turned 19. We've been married for 31 years, and have had a pretty great marriage. Absolutely no regrets

I do agree that 18 is young. So is 19, 20, 21, 22,23. Where is the line that says you have to be 26, 27, 30? I have friends that waited until their late 20's. That's right, they're divorced.
I don't think age has anything to do with it. Finding the right person has everything to do with it.

Answer 9

Yes, I believe 18 is too young. You change alot between the age of 16 and 25. I met my (now ex) husband when I was 19 and he was 22. We got married two years later and after 5 years of marriage are now divorced. We found that we are better friends than husband and wife. We both grew up and changed alot in the 7 years we were together. It'd better if you two got an apartment together and lived together for awhile. If after a couple years you still want to get married then go for it. You need to learn how to be adults before you get married. From personally experience I would say wait.

Answer 10

My wife and I got married very young too. She was 18, and I was 20. We'd only known each other for 3 months! We've now been married for almost 7 years. We have a 3 year old daughter, and a 5 year old son. I cant tell you if this is the right decision for your situation, but I am very lucky to live the life I live. IT WILL NOT BE EASY! IN FACT, ITS MUCH HARDER THAN WAITING! You do miss a lot of life lessons, which your friends will all learn (independence, etc). However you will also learn a lot of different lessons, and enjoy a lot of different experiences, than your friends. I've seen it fail miserably, but I personally cant imagine life any other way.