my girl has a dead fetus, help pls?

Question

Hello guys and thanks in advance, this is whats happening my girl was weeks pregnant, but when she went for a check up today they told her that the fetus was dead(no heart beat), they told her that she needs to have an abortion, but the problem is that she does not have any type of insurance to cover that and it is to expensive ($450) now my question is is there a way like a government help or any institution that can cover for the abortion, I really feel like **** cause we wanted the baby, and now look what happened,d pls is there a way to get like Medicaid or any help or a pill that can help her expell the fetus? thank you again guys

Answer 1

Hello -

I was just searching on google about D&E and i came across your message.

First of all - I'm sorry that you are in this situation and I know how you and your daughter are feeling. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and was just told yesterday that my baby does not have a heart beat and I need a D&E. Fortunately I do have insurance, but I'm sure there are ways your daughter can get medical help. It is very unhealthy to carry around a dead fetus - partially due to infection. I have an appointment tomorrow at Northwestern in Chicago. If you would like, I can mention your message and ask the doctor what options your girl may have.

Again, I'm so sorry to hear about this. It is unfair for those who want and are willing to have a child and are forced to go thru this process.

Take care and I will say a few prayers for you. Feel free to contact me via email if you would like.

Answer 2

At 3 weeks a heartbeat wouldn't be detected... even with an ultrasound you can't see/hear one until 7-8 weeks. So first, you need to find a new doctor.

Second, it's not an abortion, it's a D&C that you need after a miscarriage, insurance DOES cover that if the doctor deems it nessacary, but that early in the pregnancy, it rarely is.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry about your situation.

State governments offer programs to help women who are pregant with the medical costs involved. If she was already on this they would help, if she is not, it will take too long to get on the program, and the operation needs to happen soon. Go to the health department, and ask them what they can do for her. If nothing else, you could always get on a payment plan with a local clinic, or with the doctor/place that told her there was no heartbeat.

Answer 4

I'm so very sorry for your loss. As a woman who has lost 11 babies to miscarriage and 1 to stillborn, I know all to well what you are going through. My suggestion is to have her go to the county hospital and tell them she has had a missed miscarriage, and she needs to have a D&C or D&E.

If she has not miscarried naturally then she will have to have this procedure done. If she does not, she will have some serious health problems, that could lead to her not being able to conceive or carry a child to full term in the future.

Good luck

Michelle

Answer 5

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

PP uses a sliding scale, they determine your cost based on what you can pay. In a situation like this I feel sure they would work with you.

Also, many public hospitals will do the procedure (since it's a dead fetus) and will let you make low monthly payments.

I would contact Planned Parenthood first and go from there. If they can't do it, they probably know someone who can/will.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Make sure you give your gf the support and care she needs.

Answer 6

First of all very sorry to hear this...no matter what she has to have this done go to your local hospital and get it done i dont know why the Dr. you were seeing didnt schedule it already but go get it done while u are there they have people that will help you get the bill paid for whether its through state medicaid or a payment plan but either way they have to do it for you snd considering the situation they will help

Answer 7

I'm so very sorry for your and your gf's loss.
Just so you know, it's not an abortion when a baby is removed after he/she has died.

A D&C would be done, or, if further along, labor would be induced.

I wish I had some words of advice. I'm sure that payments would be accepted, she or you need to speak to the ob/gyn about it. I wish you all the best, and again, I'm so very sorry.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry!
I agree with most people, go to the ER and explain what is happening, they can't turn her down, and she can pay for the procedure in low monthly installments. There is no time to look around for different solutions to her situation, she needs to be seen by a doctor and needs to be take care of quickly. She can get an infection and she could die from it, or might even affect her chances of conceiving later on.
Call her doctor, and discuss what options she has, unfortunately there are no pills she can take, and even though the body will eventually clean itself, she is better off seeking medical help, take her to an ER or a doctor ASAP.
I wish you the best, and hope everything goes well for both you.

Answer 9

She can find out how to pay at a free clinic. They should have government sponsers, especially if she is having a miscarriage. She will need a D&C to remove the fetus, otherwise she can be exposed to infection. She might be able to apply for Medical.

Answer 10

Its not an abortion, its a medical procedure to clear and clean the uterus, its not something you have an option on. She has to have it done, and the hospital has to treat her for it. It can kill her to not have it done- because of that they cannot turn her away.

You can call your local government and ask about assistance, but so long as you're making a payment however small it may be per month on the bill it doesnt matter, the hospital cannot do anything to you.