My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and he doesn't have a picture of me anywhere. We recently moved in together and he always tells me how much he loves me and that he is happy. However, he still has a ton of pictures, love letters, pics on his cell and MySpace from his ex-girlfriends and he says he doesn't want to throw them away. I don't want to sound jealous by telling him why he doesn't have a single picture of me anywhere nor has he kept any of the cards I gave him. I have been going out with him much longer than his ex's! Help!!!
2007-11-06 07:44:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I would feel really upset if my boyfriend kept pictures of his ex-girlfriends! You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Express your concerns to him and tell him how much it bothers you by having him keeping pictures of his ex-girlfriends and he doesn't have a picture of you. I understand that he wants to hang on to those memories, but he needs to understand that his ex-girlfriends are in the past and he should continue to move forward-with you. Good luck!
2007-11-06 08:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are over-reacting, it is wrong for her to be calling you these things and he is still friends with her and isn't saying anything about it to her. Talk about it with him, tell him how hurtful it is to have her say this and also that it is hurtful for him to be friendly to someone doing this to his girlfriend. Just try and stay away from facebook for a while honestly and let things sit and also find out why his ex is targeting you. If he continues to do nothing, you might not want to stay in a relationship with him.
2016-05-28 03:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by freeda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him because that's not right. However, he is serious about you because you guys are living together, that's a big step for him not to care. But what you may want to do is to coax him a little. You should plan to go somewhere that would require taking pics like to a party, club, the zoo, etc. ANYWHERE....and then he wouldn't have any excuse to say he doesn't have any pics of you guys to post.
2007-11-06 08:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by PLEASURE pUPPY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty big. It would be one thing if he also had pics of you, as well as kept your cards. But to hang onto old ones claiming that he doesn't like to throw something away is a load or crap. Tell him it pisses you off, and you have the right to be jealous. Big red flags swaying in the wind here...
2007-11-06 07:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by takemymulligan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he doesn't put them on display until he dumps them lol so I guess you should be happy. No seriously that's not on, he has to know how much that hurts you,maybe in his mind its because the others were not serious relationships he sees it as no big deal but he has to see that for YOU its a big deal.
Talk to him calmly and rationally though, and explain how hurt this is making you, say you wouldn't mind so much if he had some of you on show.Perhaps you could reach a compromise.
2007-11-06 07:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving him the same treatment. You start loading up on ex boyfriend's pictures (as long as he thinks they are ex) Then tell him what is good for the goose is good for the gander. He will either get rid of the pictures or he will tell you the real reason he keeps them.I think
2007-11-06 07:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you enjoy getting played? Because you are. Can't you see that the time he is not giving to you he is giving to these others. I feel sorry for you. You are a prime example on why talk shows like Dr. Laure Sleshinger thrive. I hear of girls like you who never "wake up" and then have kids with guys who care not of them, and the children suffer. pains my heart.
Time to grow up. or suffer the consequences.
Love is never enough. especially when used so loosely.
2007-11-06 07:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ray E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why did you move in with him? -And you really BELIEVE he loves you? -And he has "tons of pics, love ltr.s,, etc." of old girlfriends he insists on keeping?
Charming.
However long you've been dating this guy babe, it wasn't/isn't long enough to move in with him.
I suggest you pick your self-esteem and self-respect up off the ground where it clearly is starting to lay heavily - create a life of your own - instead of it revolving around his feelings for you - and move out!
You two aren't ready to live togther, yet alone marry...NOT EVEN CLOSE.
Ever so sincerely,
Grace
2007-11-06 07:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u should ask him the question of why is that girl pic's still around and their is none of you or Ur cards if he say he love you then he needs to get rid of her or is it that he loves her still or they got a connection and he still got her on the down low you need to find out see whats really happening with him
2007-11-06 07:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I will worry if I was you. To me when you break with your girlfriend, you will just get rid of everything that might remind you of her and by him keep in.............it does look like he loves her. Unless he is in love with himself (looking at himself through the old pictures). Still he is normal.
2007-11-06 07:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋