i told the guy im casually dating (aka NOT my bf) that im going away for the weekend with my best friend (who is a guy) and he suddenly announced at his work that he wants to go to the casino (which is where we are going!) 1 of my friends works with him and just called and said that hes planning on going down saturday which is when i am going but when i texted him and asked what his plans were for this weekend he said he was gunna work all weekend so hes obv trying to come down and crash my weekend. hes upset cuz my best friend is 1. a guy and 2. my ex boyfriend. he doesnt get that me and my ex broke up for a reason and that if i wanted to be with him then i would be. he has thrown fits about it before and we ended all contact in the summer over it. he wants to "work things out" but this is not the way to go about it..what do i do? should i tell him i kno about his plans or what? i dont want to be spied on when im doing nothing wrong!!
2007-11-06 06:51:14 · 17 answers · asked by jennybean7985 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he goes through my phone (i have caught him doing it before) and my sister said she sees his car drive down the street all the time to see if my cars there or not but he denied it. i told him if he doesnt trust me then we have no business being together and he says he trusts me but then he pulls this crap..i have never cheated and i wouldnt do that to him...obv he doesnt trust me if hes acting like that right
2007-11-06 06:52:50 · update #1
the weird thing is the guy im dating hangs out with alot of girls and i dont care. my ex is my best friend and that will never change so its not like i refuse to let the guy im seeing have friends who are girls..i encourage it!!
2007-11-06 06:59:30 · update #2
Run, don't walk, as far away from this guy as you can get. Lose him. He's a major controlling personality and he's not likely to stop. I see others telling you the same thing so I'm just adding in with the majority, get away from this guy and don't take no for an answer. Once you are away from him, break off all communication and don't respond to him anymore. If he comes to you personally for it, tell him you don't want to talk. If he won't accept that, you may even have to involve higher authorities. Best of luck. You can contact me if you have any questions, 19 years security experience.
2007-11-06 06:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Salam
Walk away from something like that, that is always a very bad sign. Why would you allow such a thing is a question for me to ask. They tried to follow me and found themselves tried and on every good chase they could have imagined was done and yet I am still the same person as I was before they began to scratch their heads LOL! Hallarious cause if you didn't do anything wrong then why the hell are they spying on you. That is the pathetic ways of mankind to spy and never reveal the intentions they have its truly sick! Keep searching I will send them on another goose chase that they will never be able to find the answers for.
2007-11-06 06:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that if this guy is just casual dating-who cares if he's upset!! Maybe you should just let him go along with you
and your "best friend". If you ever did become a couple-
where does that leave the best-friend? Either you all accept
it -or your going no where! Well, maybe you should still go
on with your plans and if he shows up -greet him nicely-let him hang out a few minutes and then tell him you gotta go!
You had prior plans, but he can give you a call soon.
If he feels insecure, it's easier to show him where you and your X stand!!
2007-11-06 07:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Been there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to involve the court system and get a restraining order against him if you have spoken with him about his behavior before. Sometimes these types of people cant take no for a answer and things escalate quickly and could end up causing you more suffering or even injury if its let to continue. Protect yourself and steer clear of this person before something happens
2007-11-06 06:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by ambermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you're in a relationship, it isn't entirely kosher to be spending time along with a member of the opposite sex, especially if it happens to be your ex. While your man is clearly jealous, and obviously doesn't trust you, you aren't making it easy for him to do so.
However, you guys are still casually dating, so, it's none of his business what you do.
2007-11-06 06:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, this casual date sounds very possessive. Obviously has security issues. I suggest slowly pulling away from him and letting him go. He's got some stuff to resolve.
Believe me, it works. Look at me . . . well, I'm not so great, but the girl that left me is doing great.
2007-11-06 06:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, about this weekend, change your plans with your friend and don't tell "the guy". And just stop contact. This guy isn't secure about himself and isn't ok with your friend. You guys just don't work. That's ok, but don't torture yourself or him.
2007-11-06 06:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to cut this guy loose. He's bad news. Now he's snooping, tomorrow he's demanding, next thing you know he's threatening, and you know where that leads.
2007-11-06 07:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to separate as far as possible from this stalker. RUN!! If he is acting like this and you are dating, imagine how terrible it will be to be his girlfriend.
2007-11-06 07:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by hoopstar231 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put a end to this and if that means going to the cops than do that males dont realize that until you do things like that
2007-11-06 06:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by eboni m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋