For various reasons, if we don't do it in May we won't be able to have the wedding in December or later. Not wanting to have a wedding in the winter or wait until the next Spring (2009), we decided that this coming May (2008) would be the best time for us. But several, rude, people keep thinking it's because she's pregnant. Which she's not.
What's the best way to deal with this kind of ignorance? Is there even a point?
2007-11-06 06:22:12 · 25 answers · asked by Rob A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People are going to speculate no matter what you do. I would suggest that if you have told them it is not due to pregnancy and they are still pushing the issue to not waste your energy. Sorry that they are putting a damper on your mood, but best of luck with everything!
2007-11-06 06:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by vaya 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore these ignorant people. It is none of their business anyways. What on earth is wrong with planning a wedding in 6 months? Now 6 weeks is a different matter, then people can probably wonder about the rush, but 6 months is ages and why would she want to get married in 6 months if she was pregnant....she would be showing theN!
You need to get a thicker skin.
2007-11-06 07:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were planning on a long engagement and then suddenly changed our minds and moved it much closer so we had the same thing. I think a few people might have thought that but most just get the invitation and don't think about it that much.
By the time the wedding comes people will be able to see that she is not pregnant anyways.
2007-11-06 06:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will be obvious enough that they're wrong when she doesn't deliver a baby in the next nine months. People are rude and presumptuous, and there's not much you can do about it. The truth is the best revenge. It's also incredibly rude to say such a thing to you, or her. I would simply stare back with an incredulous look. Most people understand then that they've crossed a boundary.
2007-11-06 06:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me say that I am very sorry that you are having to deal with that kind of nonsense, and congratulations on your engagement!
The best way to deal with these people is to flat out tell them that, no, she is NOT pregnant and that May is the best time that it worked out for the two of you. If they choose not to believe it, I'm afraid that there is nothing you can do about it, but becoming defensive and angry is only going to convince them that they are correct.
Tell them the truth and leave it at that. And, personally, I wouldn't invite them to the wedding, but that might be a little passive-agressive. : )
Best of luck to the both of you and congratulations again!
2007-11-06 06:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by ruinrunner82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not entretain rude comments and do not let that get to you. Try to make a joke out of it and brush it off without futher drama. If people are reallly mean to either of you, then that would just make your wedding guest list even shorter, no need to feed people that are intrusive and rude.
You can answer:
-We're not thinking about kids until X amount of years.
-No need to change the white dress. We're not pregnant.
-WOW! Now I know how celebrities feel with all sorta vicious untrue gossip going around.
-It just happen to fit in our schedule better at that time but there is no particular reason.
-Isn't just love what bring people together? I can't wait another minute to e her husband. I love her and soon is not soon enough for us.
-I refuse to dignify that question with an answer.
Good luck
2007-11-06 06:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with that kind of ignorance is not even justifying them with any type of response. People are going to talk, and they always will. Why? Because they have nothing better to do. Don't worry about what others say. Focus on your upcomming wedding, and your fiance'. Congrats to the both of you!!!
2007-11-06 06:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't even waste your time on it... you'll already have plenty to worry about with all the planning you have to do in such little time. I agree w/ the person who said not to invite them to the wedding. I hope they feel stupid and embarrassed in a few months when they see that there is no baby. Like I said, don't even pay any attention to them, those people must be unhappy w/ their life and are trying to put a damper on your joyous moment.
2007-11-06 07:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just want you to know that i can relate. my fiance and i got engaged, and after a couple weeks of thinking about a date, we decided on one (which is in 5 months- no other day/month would work for us either). i've been asked several times if i was pregnant- as if i didn't know better or something. it's very frustrating, but people are going to speculate regardless. just be happy in your engagement, and let them know that she's not... that's all you can do, unless you want to get worked up every time someone says something! congrats to you both:)
2007-11-06 06:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is rude but no one comments about the couples who live together at least you are making a true bonafide commitment to your intended.
Tell them no she is not pregant and kindly mind your own business.
Just ignore people and do what is best for the both of you.
2007-11-06 08:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋