And why?
2007-11-06 06:17:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I suppose it depends on the circumstances. I stayed with my mom for a few months when I had some financial troubles.
2007-11-06 06:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with one of the other writers, it depends on the circumstances. If the kids are moochers and just use your house as a place to crash, they don't help out around the house and aren't working towards getting their life back in order - to a point of moving out - then no, they shouldn't have that opportunity. They need to learn that life is work! If however your kid is normally a good, responsible person who just has encountered some problems, then by all means, allow them back home. Usually in those cases, the kid sees it as a last resort and are kinda embarrassed to return home. I know my mom has said that if I ever needed to, I could return home. I would really rather not but it's nice to know that I have that support should I ever need it.
2007-11-06 14:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by elementoflife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances.
Both of our children moved out and now are married with 1 child each.
We do help each child out from time to time financially and we would not be opposed to them moving back in as long as some rules are set and followed by all.
1) Must be working
2) Must be actively searching for better housing
3) Must set and stick to a budget
4) Must have a savings account
5) Must have their own babysitters lined up as we won't always be available.
6) Must contribute to the household expenses - food, phone, etc.
It really does depend on the circumstances and what brought them to the position of needing to move back in. If they are just looking for a "freebie" then no. If they truly want some help, then yes.
2007-11-06 14:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by palmyrafan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course! I mean, if my son moved out for college and then moved back after graduation, I'd let him move back in while he looked for a job or stay for a while while he saved up money for his own place. Or if he was just down on his luck and needed to stay with us for awhile to get back on track. I guess the only time I'd be upset about it was if he was just a total mooch- not working or in school even though he was capable and not contributing to the housework...then we'd have to have a talk and get him out on his own! But under most other circumstances he'd be more than welcome here.
2007-11-06 14:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Melody 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Not out of laziness (ie:don't want to work, wants a free ride, etc). If they truly are going through a rough time though, sure they can move back home for a bit. They are ALWAYS my children no matter how old they get.
2007-11-06 14:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Of course...that's what families are for. You're there for each other through thick and thin. My dad has always told me that the door is open for me and my brother if we were to ever fall on hard times. The only rule would be that we'd have to help out and not treat their place as a hotel (which we would never ever do anyway).
2007-11-06 15:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope they would--my parents took me back in for a while after my first marriage. I was at the point where I wasn't able to support myself yet, and they wouldn't even let me pay rent--just save up the money until I could afford to be on my own again. I hope I wouldn't be like one guy I knew--he was a nice kid, but the day he turned 18, his father kicked him out of the house.
It might depend on why they left in the first place, though, and why they wanted to come back--if they left because they "hated" me, or I ordered them out because they were using drugs, etc., and they wanted to come back without changing, I'd be more likely to draw the line.
2007-11-06 14:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 children i say children they are grown up now, but yes i have always said the door will always be open for them. Mind you i did get abit fed up when my son came back for the 4th time , my husband thought he had some Auzzie in him , you know like a boomarang anyway he is happy now and a place of his own touch wood
2007-11-06 15:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by longleggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i moved back to my parents home (with a husband) because we moved and didnt have job or apartment. THey helped us out so we wouldnt be on the streets! It kept us motivated to seek employment so we could afford a new place on our own.
2007-11-06 15:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will always have a place in my home for my kids! I think it's important for your kids to know that no matter what (hard times and so on) they have their parents to fall back on/help them out, when needed. I have always been able to count on my parents and have needed them at times, but never taken advantage!
I would hope my kids are the same!
2007-11-06 14:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by lacykeirakaine 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why they are moving back in... I would do everything I could to keep that from happening, but they would not be out on the streets..
2007-11-06 15:03:10 · answer #11 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋