she's my best friend. she has been for years. but i've secretly loved her almost as long as known her. and i didn't think i was good enough. so i worked my @ss off over the summer. i lost 58 lbs in two months (and gained fourty back as pure muscle), i stood up straighter to fix my posture (and gained 6 in., bringing me to 6'2") i fixed my hair (no one liked my hair in my eyes. i looked like a mushroom). im at the age where my face is finally clearing up too, and i thought i stood a chance. but since she joined the wrestling team last year, and lost 39 lbs, her standards are higher. i was there when her boyfriends dumped her, and when they were cheating, and when she thought she was pregnant. still im not good enough. now i just want her to feel how she made me feel. i dont care what you think of me. i want to be netter. too good for her. and i need help. what can i do?
2007-11-06 06:01:43 · 12 answers · asked by Grimace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have sex with her sister or best friend...and stop being the good guy...good guys never win....
2007-11-06 06:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by urstruly 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
: ( Have you told her this? Maybe if you tell her that you don't want to be her girlfriend anymore, that you would rather be her boyfriend, she might understand. Talk to her! Women can't read minds any more than men can. Tell her! Maybe she's just a little thick in that regard (some girls don't notice it when guys like them...I never did!), and she doesn't realize you feel more for her than friendship. Take her out for lunch (somewhere casual) and spill your guts. Calmly and without accusation.
If she is truly not interested, it's better to find out definitively. If she's not, let her go graciously and don't stoop to trying to hurt her feelings for hurting yours. Yes, even if she tells you that you aren't good enough. That would tell quite a bit about her character, and that is not the kind of girl you would want to be serious with. Feel sorry for her if that's her attitude but don't avenge yourself. You would come to regret that and it would ruin any chance you may have with her in the future if she was to grow beyond that attitude.
Good luck! And even if she doesn't want you some other lucky girl will snap you up sooner or later.
2007-11-06 06:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Eyed Christian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should change for YOU, not for someone else. Sounds like you did all the right things to change your outward appearance, but what about how you are on the inside? Right now, you're hurt and vengeful; that's no way to win over a lady. You are probably in her friend zone, and she can't view you as anything but a friend. And if you've never told her how you feel, she probably doesn't know!
Either tell her how you feel or go find someone better. Don't get even with her; that's childish and immature, and it's a sure way to turn off women.
2007-11-06 06:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you honestly think trying to fix your appearance would make her like you more? You must have known she was shallow before you even went for it! NEVER EVER change the way you look for someone. Do it for yourself. In the end, it comes down to the person you are.
She is already better than you, because she isn't being petty. Why is it so wrong for her to not be interested in you? She has a choice, just as you chose HER!
Grow some balls. Deal with rejection. Don't be petty.
2007-11-06 06:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think long and hard before taking any actions. You may not appreciate it, but her friendship has also been good for you. It makes you feel wanted and needed. You also loose out if she rejects you as a boyfriend as you cannot be the friend you have been.
Best luck with your life.
2007-11-06 06:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by R R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It actual hurts. You actualy go through actual discomfort. you may no longer focus, you may no longer functionality in many cases. I truly do no longer think of a broken heart thoroughly heals. The scars from being heartbroken stay with you on your destiny relationships. The discomfort does fade, and you study to go previous the harm. yet you will continuously keep in mind the crushing feeling. sturdy success to you.
2016-11-10 11:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you seriously gained 40 pounds of "pure muscle" in a short period of 2 months without steroids use, then you should forget her and become a Body Builder, because you my friend, achieved a near impossible feat....
2007-11-06 06:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did you at any stage tell her that you liked her. If not why not tell her now!!
So basically you want her to feel like you do now.. well what would that achieve.. nothing!!.. perhaps if you attitude changed and you stopped acting like a child she would be into you
2007-11-06 06:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong with you. Get some help before you turn into a monster!
2007-11-06 06:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its better not to be in a relationship with your " bestfriend" but why change you for someone who doesnt see you in any other different way than just a friend?
2007-11-06 06:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by misz.lala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-06 06:06:05 · answer #11 · answered by cleo s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋