My boyfriend told me this, and I'm not really sure why. this was by the time she was 22 or something. I'm not sure what to make of it. I mean, me and all the girls I know haven't slept with even close to that many people, so it came as a shock to me. I mean, she must be quite, er, flirtatious to have done that, or at least a bit easy. Does that mean that's the sort of girl he usually goes for? I feel worried that his ex was this big aggresive experienced sexual predator, and that I'm totally boring and inexperienced in comparison. Either that, or he'd prefer someone a bit more...erm...slutty or something? He said she was tested for stds and she was clean, so I have to trust him on that. he also said that he had only slept with 5 people. Should I be worried that I'm not experienced enough for him?
2007-11-06 05:54:47 · 46 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because his ex was a slut doesn't mean that you have to be one too. If I were you, don't just take his word that she is clean. Get tested! And don't be worried that you're not experenced enough for him. If he truly loves you, that shouldn't matter!
2007-11-06 06:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by CENT174 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You needn't worry about not being experienced enough for him. Like riding a bike, sex is something you get better at over time, as long as you are enjoying what you are doing.
What you should do, however, is to not take your bf's word for it that his ex was tested. You both need to be tested before you get too intimate. Either one of you could have an std from a previous partner and not be aware of it - and that means any previous partner, not just the "slutty" one.
2007-11-06 06:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sim - plicimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that will eat you alive for a long time if you dwell too much upon it. She's had 30 guys, it doesn't mean that you should too. He was with her at the time, now he is with you. If you are worried about being too boring in bed, there are a million things that you can do to spice it up. Instead of focusing on why he was with someone who had 30 men, focus on ways to spice up your relationship. It is a lot more fun then to worry about an ex.
2007-11-06 06:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't any of your buisness, or anything you should worry about. And really, 30 isn't that many people. More than others, but it's not that bad. Just because she's had more, doesn't mean she's more fun. If he can't appreciate what you can do, is he reallt worth dating anyway?
He probably didn't know how many people she had slept with when he got with her, so it's impossible to tell if that's the kind of girls he gets with.
Are you that kind of girl? If not, well, he's dating YOU, so he obviously doesn't.
This really isn't something to look into at all.
2007-11-06 06:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for the other woman, you don't know her and are not in a position to judge her. She's had a lot of partners. That's her choice. As for your boyfriend, the fact that his last girlfriend was very different from you means nothing. After all, he's no longer with her, so he's obviously looking for something different. Don't try to remake yourself to be like someone you think he might like better. Be yourself. Then when he tells you he loves you, you'll know that he loves you and not some character you are playing.
But both your boyfriend and yourself should be tested for STDs.
2007-11-06 06:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie149 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think the amount of partners you've had is an adequate measure of your sexual experience. My fiance has had 40 or so. And I have have 5. But I was much more experienced than him when we first met. Most of his numbers, were drunken acts after being out in college and my experiences were with long term boyfriends with whom I was comfortable enough with to experiment sexually.
So don't let that bother you. Also don't fixate on his past. Who cares if his ex had 50 partners, or if she looks like a supermodel, your boyfriend is with YOU for a reason and NOT WITH HER for a reason. Believe what he says to you until he gives you reason to do otherwise. And it's always a good idea to get tested on your own, just for you. Just enjoy your time with him. :)
2007-11-06 06:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have your boyfriend tested!! next thing you know you have an std like the clap or some disgusting STD ive seen it a thousand times LOL but just ask if your satisfying him enough or if is ok with girls being complete whores and sleeping with thirty ppl thats a mouth full
2007-11-06 06:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, if he enjoys being with you then he isn't worried about it. But the fact that you blindly trust that he is STD free just because he said so is something to worry about more. Some guys will say anything to get laid and not even think twice about the life endangering situation they are putting someone else in.
2007-11-06 05:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by John E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i understand somebody on the threshold of me it relatively is interior the appropriate comparable predicament. regrettably, they wont understand who the dad is till finally the child is born... Then they are going to do a blood attempt to verify whose DNA is the babies. Honostly, too, this is confusing to tell through fact in the two cercumstances, there replaced into no protection & 2, even in case your ex did no longer ejaculate into you, there is usually a extensive possibility of pre-***. maximum do no longer understand, yet pre-*** won't be as acidic as standard sperm, despite the fact that it does contain sperm and might get a woman pregnant. My advice, get a blood try after the child is born. Im no longer too effective that any wellness practitioner can examine while your pregnant.. despite the fact that this is well worth asking. goodluck.
2016-10-15 06:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeez....Well I have all the oposite problem....My husband never forgot the fact that I wasnt virgin..But I didnt have sex with that big amount of people, thats slutty and dangerous. He is having a relationship with his "very pure" virgin girl and as you can see, he is happy....me, I will be filing for divorce soon because I dont believe in his bullshit. He even say he "loves me". You know, if your man wants a slut for girlfriend, he can just hit the road and find one and you should do what I am doing: living my life and accepting myself and if someone else dont like me, he can beat it!
2007-11-06 06:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends ex is a garden tool and I don't mean a rake either! She wasn't being flirtatious she is just a H0E! Is her nickname Loosey Goosey? Sex is something that should be between two people who love each other not just for a booty call. I would go get tested. It's toooooooo many STD's in the world for all that.
2007-11-06 06:04:44 · answer #11 · answered by Bree 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋