i have never been baptized and stll don't want to be but i dont have a problem if my fiance wants to have our children baptized in the future... he's really adamant about being married in church but since i've never been at all religious i didnt want to suddenly convert to a catholic from never having any faith at all just to get married. please help!!!
2007-11-06 05:53:56 · 12 answers · asked by Lindsay B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes.
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-baptized persons. You will have to get permission from the bishop. This is because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge you have ahead of you.
Make an appointment with your parish priest and talk to him about your situation.
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 1633-1637: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2chpt3art7.htm#1633
With love in Christ.
2007-11-06 17:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance wants to get married in a Catholic Church then you will have to meet with a priest several months in advance of your wedding date.
And one of the first things a priest is going to ask you is . . Have you been baptized? Are you a member of this church? Are you a member of any church? And when was the last time you attend a church service?
I strongly suggest you and your fiance consider some alternative wedding plans because it is doubtful that you will be permitted to marry in a Catholic Church (or any church) if you have not been baptized and wish to remain agnostic.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-11-06 17:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he belongs to a Church, he NEEDS to talk to his Pastor. It will be up to him, really.
I know that for us to get permission, they asked if I had denounced the Church at all. I was baptised, I just never finished the rest of the Sacraments and never was raised going to Church. So it wasn't like I was atheist or agnostic.
If you do not believe in God at all, have no faith in any religion, and simply believe that we all just turn to dust and that's the end, you MIGHT have a problem getting married in the Catholic Church. Having NO religion is different than having a DIFFERENT religion. I mean, how can you make a promise before God if you do not believe there IS a God? It's really not possible.
You may be turned down... but if the Pastor is not too old fashioned, he might agree to meet with you before making that decision.
2007-11-06 14:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were baptized as a christian (of any denomination) it's typically not a big deal so long as you can provide a baptismal certificate.
You will not have to convert to Catholicism but the priest will typically ask you to promise to support your husband in his religion as well as to raise any children according to the Catholic tradition.
You will also have to take classes, sometimes one per week for a series of weeks, or sometimes in the form of a weekend retreat.
You should ask your husband to contact his parish office to gather the specifics for his church and diocese. You should then be prepared to discuss whether or not you are comfortable promising to support his Catholicism and to raise your children as Catholics.
2007-11-06 14:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by granittany 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can get married in a catholic church... provided you attend the pre-marriage counseling in the parish and agree to openly raise any children you may have in the catholic faith.
2007-11-06 18:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can absolutely get married in a Catholic church if your husband is Catholic. The church requires that you agree to help your husband raise the children (if any) as Catholics, though.
2007-11-06 14:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sue DeNym 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a huge issue in a marriage especially after you have children. Sounds like he wants to raise them in that church so if youre against it you better find another guy. You dont have to convert to get married, they will still marry you but be prepared for your children being raised in that church. Certain things do matter in marriage on what you should agree on and religion and politics are huge ones. Some people can deal with the differences so you need to ask yourself if you can.
2007-11-06 14:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You two should go talk to his priest.
A ceremony can be done with only one Catholic, however the other spouse MUST agree to raise the children Catholic - and agree with the values, morals, teaching, etc.
2007-11-07 07:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be Catholic to be married in the Catholic Church. Trust me. If you don't believe me, call the head priest of your fiance's church.
2007-11-06 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Irish Darling 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You have to attend some classes first!
2007-11-06 14:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Wounded Duck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋