His name is Brandon. But he wants us to call him Avery, which is his middle name. Should I go along with this? Why would he want to change his name? Brandon is a nice name his parents gave it to him for a reason.
2007-11-06 05:41:54 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He's my nephew that I have custody of.
2007-11-06 05:53:49 · update #1
Why not? I know lots of people that go by their middle names.
2007-11-06 05:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I kinda have the same problem, the only difference I want everyone to call him by his nickname which is cute and it differentiates him from his father who has the same name. He wants to be called by his proper name but I think it's to "big or formal' right now. I've even heard him introduce himself and I've corrected him. which now I know it's not right But I really think he should choose what he wants to be called since it's not an outrageous name and I did choos it. It will give him a sense of self-respect and it might feed into his self-image. Like many have said kids go thru phases and it will probably pass. I forget how the saying goes about letting them win the battle so we can win the war or something like that. Ask him if it's ok if you call him Brandon--you know--compromise. there's always a reason why - ask him and maybe you can help him thru it.
2007-11-07 21:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Blurp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you gave him his middle name too which is Avery- isn't that a fine name too? Maybe its just a phase. I prefer Brandon too but just let him be called what he wants, its not like its a weird-o name like he wants to be called Superman or something....
I sure its just a phase... He'll go back to Brandon within a year.
2007-11-06 05:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When Brandon is paying his own way, he can call himself whatever he likes. As long as he's living under your roof and is SIX YEARS OLD, there should be no question about what he will be called. You said it yourself: his name is Brandon!
As Brandon's parents, you decide these things until he is mature enough to do so on his own. At six years of age, he is neither mature enough nor responsible enough to make such decisions. Neither is he the parent. YOU are. Also understand that some of the people who are answering your question are children themselves, which means they will respond as a child would. You're the parent. Call him Brandon, which is indeed a nice name!
2007-11-06 05:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
call him by whatever name he is most comfortable. i go by my middle name, and not my first. whats wrong with going by his middle name? it could just be a phase hes goin through. i went sometimes by my first name when i was a senior in high school but all other grades i went by my middle name. ...plus I like avery ..its very unique. hes just tryin to find his place already in this world...let him try it out. the worst that would happen is that he'd be goin by his own name..lol. and if he doesnt like it, he can go back to brandon. make sure you're supportive, he's been through enough, is it really that big of a deal???
2007-11-06 21:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first try to find out why he wants to be called Avery. Is it because someone is making fun of him because of his name? Or is he just going through a phase? Maybe make a compromise, if he still feels this way by January 1st he can go by Avery.
2007-11-06 05:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by thattravelgirl03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. To do otherwise is just a type of child abuse. It is an undeniable human right for ANYONE of ANY age be called whatever they like. It is also respect. If you respect him enough to call him what he wants to be called, you are teaching him the foundation of respect.
It is a fundamental need of children to have at least a few areas where they have absolute control and can make choices. Choose your battles carefully. Would you rather he choose which name to be called or choose to use drugs or illicit sex later on in secret? Those who feel they have control of their lives are more likely to make good choices, and less likely to rebel later. Choosing what to be called, what music to listen to, or what to eat is not rebellion. Just grant kids the right to their own culture just as long as it isn't illegal, immoral, or something that brings shame to the family.
2007-11-06 06:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His name is also Avery. If he prefers Avery, why not accomodate him? What will it hurt? You may need to explain to him that people are used to calling him Brandon, and may still do so. If you don't make a big deal over it, he may find he prefers his first name and go back to it. If not, Avery is still one of his names.
2007-11-06 05:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
It's his name and it's the name that he chooses to be called. I'm 36 and my family still calls me by my middle name. Of course he has to realize that his first name is the legal name that will be used in a professional environment.
2007-11-06 05:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Christine H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see the harm, it'll probably pass in time.
AND...you can tell him that if he gets in trouble you will
call him Brandon. Might be a good behavior modification tool.
Might be hard to make the change at school tho...all the teachers being used to calling him Brandon already...and if everyone isnt calling him the same thing I'm not sure what good it is to him.
2007-11-06 05:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Graham M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avery is a pretty cool name. In the end though, you get to call him whatever you want. When I was 7 I started going by a "drew". My grandparents still call me "andrew" (I'm 22), but it doesn't bother me.
2007-11-06 05:48:22 · answer #11 · answered by drew c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋