am I wrong?

Question

My bf and I have been dating almost two years, throughout this time he has continued to talk to his ex wife through texting. I have expressed MANY times that I do not like it, yet he makes out like it is nothing, and continues. I had checked his phone records and confirmed many times that he was indeed still talking to her, and he gets mad for that, so I said I wouldnt do it anymore, and he said they wouldnt talk anymore, well, I got the notion that they were still talking, so I went and checked again, and I was right...am I wrong for checking up on him even when i said I wouldnt? What should I do?>

Answer 1

if they have kids toghether, then they need to talk but if they don't you kinda do have the right to question him, if you have expressed to him how this makes you feel and he is still texting yeah you do need to bring it back up to him because he is not respecting how you feel.
first ask him if she has tried to text him latley. if he lies to you, then you know what you need to do, you must always go with that gut feeling, never ignore it!!!
good luck

Answer 2

Well, I don't know if they have children together and that is the reason for there conversation. If they have kids then you are not cut out for dating a man with children as the ex wife will always be in there lives as well as the kids. If he has no children with her then rather then try to stop him from talking to her you need to stop talking to him and let the relationship die. What is the point of being with someone who you can not trust and feel the need to check up on them.

I would not date a man who I had to check his cell and see who he is texing.

Answer 3

If you date a man with an ex-wife, you date a man with baggage. Accept that, or move on. And stop lying to him, if you said you wouldn't check his phone records, don't.

If you have told him you don't like it, and he continues, he doesn't care much what you think about it, does he? That should be a pretty clear indication of things to come.

Answer 4

Unless they have kids together what business do they talking, doesnt sound too good, if u have expressed to him how it bothers u than y hasnt he stopped? Doesn't he care about u? I think its time to sit down and have a serious talk, lay your cards on the table, if it happens again then how much is he really considering u and your feelings?

Answer 5

Hmm, i guess you shud just let it go. I mean, its his ex-wife after all. So u shud just trust him when he says he wont do nething. So nah, just make sure u tell him and make it clear to him, that u want to knw everythin that is goin on and dont shut u out of this whole communication-with-ex thing. Cuz then it gets really annoyin and u might only end up getting hurt and jealous about it. So just make it clear to him.

Answer 6

You shouldn't have checked after you said you wouldn't. He shouldn't continue talking to her after he said he wouldn't. You don't deserve to be treated like that, he may just be using you to get his ex jealous. Find someone you can trust and who won't lie to you.

Answer 7

Well, it's not really WRONG that he's still talking to her. Because it's just rude if you divorce someone but NEVER talk to them again. But if he does it too much, yeah. That's not cool. Tell him that it hurts you that he's talking to her so much. And if he still ignores your feelings, take his phone and stick it in your pocket, them pull him into a quiet room where it's easy to concentrate. no tv on, no radio playing. then talk to him, and be forceful about it. not YELLING to the extreme. just show that it upsets you, and also tell him that you don't really MIND that he talks to her, but that you DO mind that he talks to her TOO much.

Answer 8

You have no power and apparently you're not a top priority for this guy. This sounds like something that happens in grammar school. You should woman up and move on.

Answer 9

Why are you trying to control who he talks to? She's his ex-wife. Just because they couldn't make it as a married couple doesn't mean they can't be friends. Let me remind you that she is an ex for a reason. He CHOOSES to be with you.

Answer 10

If he has to text her for a reason like their kids etc it's okay!! But other than that you have every right to query him. Sounds like he's still hung up on her for some reason.