is it okay??

Question

things have been really rough for me lately. i need some advice. my cousin who is in second grade, fell and hit his head, and he is now in a coma. the doctors arent sure whats going to happen. there was a great amount of swelling in the brain and it hasnt gone down a whole lot. this is especially hard for me because i take care of him most of the time so i am very close to him. its like he is my little brother.
i also just found out that my aunt has cancer of the liver, and im scared. i lost a friend a few months ago to cancer, so i am afraid of that word. i dont know how to handle myself. the doctors dont know if they caught it in time, it has already started to spread throught her body. they dont know if the chemo will work.my home life completly sucks, so i have no support coming from there. i feel myself falling apart, and i really need a good cry. i was raised my whole life thinking crying is a sign of weakness. is it okay to for me to let myself fall apart and cry??

Answer 1

Hell yes, it is okay to fall apart and cry...it's never good for you to hold a lot of emotion in like that. It sounds like life is really downhill for you right now...my heart goes out to you. When it rains, it pours, right?

Unfortunately, these are issues that are out of your control. So, the best you can do right now is take care of you so that, if your cousin or your aunt do need you, you will be able to help out with a clear head. Is there anyone in your life right now that you are close to? Have a sit down with some friends and just let it out. Cry, scream, beat up a pillow, do whatever you need to do. Once you've done that, then try to do something that will take your mind off of things, something you enjoy.

Just remember that while all good things come to an end, so do the bad ones. Things will get better and you'll come out of this okay in the end.

Answer 2

Let it out. You have to take care of yourself. I know it can feel that if you start crying, you might not stop. That might happen, but it's good because then you can get the help you need to get through this.
Are you still at school? ~Can you talk to a counsellor there? If not, have you got a good friend who is not directly affected by this situation that you can turn to?
You might find that if you cry, it gives you a release and you can start again, refreshed and able to support your loved ones.
I think that perhaps you need more support and help than you realise. You have made a step by approaching strangers on Yahoo, but now you need to get more personal help.
We can't pretend that cancer isn't serious, or tell you that your cousin will come out of his coma, and I think you are possibly still grieving for your friend and very frightened to see these things happening.
Look for that person who can help you. Have a cry but don't fall apart.
Take care.

Answer 3

I LOST A CLOSE AUNT TO BREAST CANCER. I KNOW ITS NO JOKE, ... IS IT??? It's completely ok to CRY believe me. It said that crying is a part of healing. you are telling your body that you acknowledge that there is stress and giving tit permissio to release its reation to the problem. Don't think that it wrong in any way because it is completely natural. Im not trying to convert you or anything like that but my GOD says " cast all you burduns on the Lord for he is the true comforter and way maker." When you are hanving a bad time He is right there beside you. When you cant reach your friends on the phone and family is too busy to deal with your problems God is there saying " I'm right here can't you see I want to comfort you? He wants to show you it will be o.k. Trust in the LOrd with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul. He will make a way out of no way. If you need cocnsoling hit me up at truleeblessed07@ yahoo. or just call on the Lord for real

Answer 4

First, let me take a moment to express my heartfelt sorrow for your misfortunes. I too was raised to view crying as a sign of weakness. I have since learned that God himself put that mechanism in us to relieve the pressure that life can sometimes place on us. And after all you've described, you deserve a good cry. But I would say to cry with a purpose. Join a grief support group; volunteer. When we look outside of our own pain to help heal the pain of others, we heal, too.Just remember, that we need people, not robots in our lives, so don't be afraid to cry. You are not alone. May the God of your understanding give you comfort.

Answer 5

You really need to start taking care of yourself. Taking all of these burdens on yourself will only break you down. If you can't release the stress on your own by finding a new hobby or reconnecting with old friends, see about getting into counseling. Even peer counselors at your school or the professional there. Do something for yourself and then you will be renewed enough to help others again!

Answer 6

Find some place private and cry all you want. Yell and scream, too. People who hold in their emotions are a pain to be around and die of heart attacks. You're feeling overwhelmed right now about things you cannot control. Hold good thoughts for your cousin and aunt.

Answer 7

it is okay to cry. its a form of therapy.

re your sick relatives, pls check if they sleep in the northeast of the house. or if the house/main door is located/facing northeast. if their bedrooms are in the northeast, move them to another bedroom. let them wear white all the time, never red or brown. caregivers should not wear red or brown either. if the main door is in the northeast or facing northeast, close this door and use another door. if impossible, hang 5 tube metal chime on the door but be sure the chimes will ring or make sound at least 5 times a day. do not light incense or candles. have a taste of feng shui. there is nothing to lose. pls do not calculate directions, use a compass.

if in doubt or you dont have compass, you can send me the exact address of your cousin and your aunt; will check the direction of their house at google map/ google earth. email addresses to [e-mail]

Answer 8

yes crying isnt a sign of weakness. also praying may help and ill pray as well. Also see your doctor maybe he can help by prescribing you something for the stress and try to find a support group or a good friend to talk to. I hope everyhting will be ok and you will be in my prayers. My husband is deployed to afghanistan and belive me praying works

Answer 9

Go Ahead Let all your feelings and emotions flow out its OKAY For anyone to Cry no matter how tough you seem to others cry cry cry bcuz if you dont then your emotions will be bottled up iniside you :( Im sorry and Take Care

Answer 10

yes. it really is.
and i know how terrible it must seem, but sometimes all you need is a release. and if crying is that release, let it go. crying is a cleansing process, and it is a natural human reaction to the things you are going through.
this might not mean a thing, but i will keep you and your family in my prayers. i wish them all the best....good luck.