Is it okay to spoil yourself after a break up?

Question

for 2 weeks all I did was cry and fall apart, and said this will never get better. than I decided why should I allow him to do that to me. I decided to take my anger out by working out and at the same time I'm getting in shape, and got my hair done and realized I can use this time to focus on college and work and my friends and a guy will come later. I keep telling myself this and realize each day is a little easiar. And why should I give him the gratification of if he sees me as a mess. I want to look good so it sends out an I dont need you to be happy vibe...Is it okay to do this

sitting around to mope got old fast and it wasnt helping me at all...my friends are what help me so much

i dont want him back hes a jerk but i refuse to let him bring me down

i look it at as if hes dumb enough to walk away be smart and let him go!!!

Answer 1

three words: YOU GO GIRL!

It's perfectly fine revamping yourself after a break up. Why let yourself wallow in what has happend. It's good to pick yourself up and move on.

Answer 2

Yes. I am glad you finally came to this realization. Remember that in the end you will find the one and only guy for you. So what if it happens later. Also, a fun thing to do is to make the guy you broke up with jealous. May I suggest flirting around him and acting like the break up didn't mean a single thing to you. Also, getting a guy friend to act like your new guy for a while infront of him seems to always work. Good luck with school and working out.

Answer 3

What you described in your question as "spoil yourself" I would think would be better described as being a better friend to yourself.

I hope that you can truly feel proud that you didn't waste one more minute than you needed, to finish grieving the end of your relationship.

I so often see individuals who can only feel bitterness, and anger and end up wallowing in a sea of self-pity.

I often say to these people that the best revenge is living well.
You are the best example of what that means that I have ever seen.

You aren't spoiling yourself, you are just treating yourself the way you know you deserve to be treated.

GOOD FOR YOU! :-D

Answer 4

You are in exactly the frame of mind that you should be in. You should be proud of yourself. The way that you are focusing on yourself and your future is what's going to help you endure and get through this break up. Besides the best revenge is living well. Make sure that if your ex ever sees or hears from you again, that he sees and hears you are doing even better without him. Congratulations on taking care and doing right by you.

Answer 5

I would most definitely say yes! The only person who is going to take care of you is really only you. You are so smart to focus on the positive things in your life that matter the most.....college, work, friends, family, etc., instead of the negative energy the breakup caused. If he is stupid enough not to want you in his life, I would say that it is his loss, not yours. Keep looking on the positive side of things and yes......spoil and pamper yourself a little.

Answer 6

What do you mean "is it okay" to do that? Why wouldn't it be? Bravo you for taking a great path to get over your pain...I'm just puzzled as to why any intelligent person would feel the need to ask if such behavior was "okay" (do you really think moping and grieving for months and letting yourself go to shiot is a requirement after a breakup?)

Answer 7

Honey go spoil the hell out of yourself. Just because you had a break up doesn't mean that your life should end. And sooner or later you will find some one much better than your ex!

Answer 8

well yeah!
Work out and get sexyyy, make him want you back [but dont take him back, because youre better]
Get a massage, dye your hair, buy new clothes, get a cat, Take a vacation to jamaica, go on a cruise, buy some sexy lingere
SPOIL YOURSELF SILLY!
Dont let him see you as a mess.
Flirt with other guys. Laugh at thier jokes, smile.
You are beautiful and you dont need that guy, so just wait for a new one.

Answer 9

actually spoiling urself is the right thing to do That what I did............. Treat urself don't punish ur self with bad foods or sad movies its a fresh start a new beginning and thats the best test to get a new hair cut and focus on ur school workout and take out all ur anger or depression on the tread!

Answer 10

Wow!
Get you!
I think after what you just said of course you deserve something!
Its also made me think and feel better about the **** of a guy i just had some trouble with.
So thank you for that!
Also it shows to him, not only that you don't need him but also what hes missing out on.
I hope you do well at college and that guy is the one who's missing out... not you!