Hello, Im 25 and I am living with my boyfriend of 2 years , i feel like im not living my life, i feel like i live through him. I have been in a abusive marriage before and i just feel right now i never had any freedom.
My life has been really boring.
Yesterday i got offered the
chance to move to the city with a friend ...(right now i live in a trailer with my boyfriend in his dads yard )
im wondering if i should. I would be leaving my boyfriend who loves me and is ready to settle down, he would be so hurt if i left. But on the other hand, i sometimes feel like im missing out on life, like i need to go live! Should i listen to my gut, leave my "comfy" life and go to the city, or just stick it out, get married and get on with life....
so confused, really need some advice...thankyou
2007-11-06 03:27:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can he not come with you? You can still experience life while being in a relationship.
Take up new hobbies, spend time by yourself. Take a holiday. Do things for you. The only reason you are living his life is because you are allowing yourself to.
If you think leaving him and starting a new life would be the best choice, then go for it. But, you can still have a career in the city and keep your relationship.
2007-11-06 03:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settle huh? Your life is full of choices that have consequences. Your everyday life is what you are living. If you are not satisfied with what you are getting out of life you cant blame it on your bf who loves you. Don't live in a fairytale world that you think you should have a fine sports car or the nicest clothes. Live your life.If you don't like your life, change it. Find what really makes you unhappy and fix it. Don't place blame on someone, when you are a grown lady. YOU AND ONLY YOU, CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!!!
2007-11-06 11:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by True 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him exactly what you just told us. If he knows you aren't happy, and he really loves you, then he'll do whatever it takes to make you happy...even if that means he has to let you go and move with your friend.
Just tell him how you feel. You never know, he could be very unhappy in his situation as well and knows exactly how you feel. Communication is what keeps a relationship going. If he doesn't understand how you feel, then thats when you just have to make a decision and do it for YOURSELF!
Follow your heart! And DO NOT settle b/c you want to make someone else happy.
2007-11-06 11:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Blondee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its' always hard to make decisions when that nagging little feeling of "What if?!" is screaming at you in the back of your mind.
If your boyfriend really does love you, then he should be willing to wait for you as you try out this great opportunity thats' been presented to you. If things don't work out in the city, you can come back home to him. And if they do, maybe he'll want to move out there with you?
2007-11-06 11:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only read your subject line and my answer is NOT.
Been there, done that. I realized I'd rather be single the rest of my life, than to 'settle' just to have a partner. Being in a relationship doesn't guarantee happiness or lack of loneliness.
2007-11-06 11:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go with your gut. This is your life, and no one can make you happy but you! You might love your boyfriend, but you are not satisfied with your life yet. Consider the possibility of him moving with you. Make sure he knows how much you love him, but you need to do this for you. There is so much out there that you are eager to explore. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
2007-11-06 11:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we can hurt someone so bad they cannot accept us back. We are only human. Ask your boyfriend what he thinks if you think his feelings should be taken into account. I know, if my wife did this to me, that would be IT. The hurt would be too much for me to take and I would never do that to her.
The grass is not always greener either, and there might be no turning back!
Healing be unto you and yours and me and mine
~skahhh
2007-11-06 11:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut.. Posting this question in the first place shows you question your relationship
Its better to end it now then get a devoice down the road
2007-11-06 11:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut and get out of that trailer in your boyfriend's dad's backyard. If your boyfriend really loved you, he would've done something to better himself.
2007-11-06 11:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you feel the need to go, by all means GO! You obviously aren't happy with the way things are right now.
2007-11-06 11:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋