My 4 yr old son turns 5 at the end of this month. I asked him what he wanted for his birthday several times, and he always says he wants a stroller and a vacuum cleaner (the toy kind). I know this is because his friend next door (who is a girl) has these things, and he loves playing with them with her. I don't think this is a big deal. My son's father is freaking out though. We are divorced and and he rarely sees his son, but when he called I jokingly mentioned what he was getting for his birthday and he just lost his mind over it. I see nothing wrong with getting him these toys. He has a house full of cars and other boy stuff he loves to play with, and I see no problem with him getting girly type stuff if he wants to play house so bad. Really, does it matter? Any other mothers out there have a boy who wanted girly type toys before, and did you get them for him?
Please, no mean answers. He's very boyish except for this one thing.
2007-11-06 03:24:24 · 12 answers · asked by Eraserhead 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Get him a stroller and a baby boy doll with all the accessories, there is nothing wrong with that! It is teaching him to be a loving Daddy and amazing husband one day!
2007-11-06 03:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Born Country 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You son"s wish is your command!!
I bet his wife will some day thank you when he is wheeling his son down the street after he finishes up the vacuuming. With any luck the girl next door will know how to change her own oil.
I have 4 yr grandson, his daddy is a bit like your ex and would get upset when he noticed his son (who is very tall for his age) loved mommy's shoes ... well he happens to have a Nana who is real girly girly... one night after mom and dad went out for the evening they came home to find young son and Nana dancing around the house in high heels, hats and scarves laughing up a storm all while big sis was putting his truck back together.
I can assure you that playing with toys in no way creates anything but a well vs child. Let him play with what he wants and watch his creativity grow ... : )
2007-11-06 04:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by lostinsantamonica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I'm not a mother, but I am a father...
Young children are typically gender-neutral, so him associating with the girl next door is not harmful in of itself. I grew up with 4 sisters and playing house came with the territory when I was your son's age. I grew out of it when I discovered that playing Cowboys and Indians was a lot more exciting.
The only harmful influence you may wish to consider before moving forward with buying your son these toys would be that from older kids and/or ignorant adults that may ridicule him for owning "girly" toys. Your son would be a ripe target for a couple of 8-10yo gender-aware boys.
It's also very tough raising kids in separate homes. How would you feel about your ex getting him a cordless drill or BB gun for his birthday? Even if you don't agree with your ex's position, is the battle worth fighting?
2007-11-06 03:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by foolhardly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son loves his sister's stroller & he also loves to vacuum. I say go for it. It doesn't mean he is not a boy (mine is 3 btw) because my son also likes to mow lawn with his toy push mower & he likes to use his play hammer just as much as the girl stuff. My nephews like to play with girl stuff too. It's normal to want to try different toys I think.
I would down play it to dad, because you don't want him to make your son feel silly for liking that kind of stuff.
(Also, I would not let him take it out of the house either because he probably would be made fun of by people he doesn't know.)
2007-11-06 03:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...believe me I understand. Guys get so crazy about this tough. They want they're children to be all masculine...playing sports, wrestling, cars..etc. I don't think there is anything wrong w/ getting him a stroller, but I don't think I would get it for his birthday. Not really a girly thing, but my oldest did want training wheels for his bike when he was 9 and still couldn't ride his bike. We got it for his bday present, but he was really embarrassed when all of his friends saw this and started kidding him about not being able to ride his bike. He learned to ride that bike fast tho, and never used the training wheels.
So maybe you could just get one of those umbrella strollers and keep it around the house for him to play with. Just don't give it to him for his bday. And as far as the vacuum cleaner, that's a great idea. Maybe he grow up to be a man that cleans house...woohoo! Don't we always wish they're were men like that...haha
2007-11-06 03:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by supermom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's ok you can get it for him. I don't see what the big deal is? Does it matter what a five year old plays with? i think it's good that he likes that kind of toy. At least he doesn't want toy guns or other stupid violent toys like that!
2007-11-06 06:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matter's boy or girl if your son wants it then go ahead and get it for him. My son who is 5 got a doll and a stroller and a car seat for Christmas last year and he loves it. He also has alot of boy stuff, I just feel that if it something they want and it doesn't look girly like pink. Then go ahead and get them what they want, it doesn't hurt anything.
2007-11-06 03:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting him those things! I got my 5 year old a play kitchen for Christmas last year, my husband wasn't thrilled, but he loves it. If it's what he wants, I say get it.
2007-11-06 05:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get them...the world has changed now and your husband will have to get used to it...let hubby buy his own gift for your son...my sister just bought her 4 year old boy a Bratz styling head! He loves doing her hair and makeup....it's ok...he is what he is, it doesnt mean he's gay...he's 5! Let him be himself and good luck to you.
2007-11-06 05:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SON HAS BABIES HE CARES FOR AND HE IS ALMOST 5 TOO HE WANTS A WHOLE DOLLY HOUSE OF FURNITURE AND WE PLAN TO TRY AND GET IT FOR CHRISTMAS GO FOR IT. GIRLS PLAY WITH TRUCKS AND CARS WHY CANT BOYS PLAY WITH DOLLS
2007-11-06 03:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋