We've been dating for almost two months. he had been letting me play games on his cell phone, until one day i was reading his text messages. He had been texting another girl, and they were kinda "talking" while we were dating. SO I got her number, and texted her asking what was up, and what was going on...etc. Of course, he was pissed when he found out I went snooping around his phone, but we we're dating, so there shouldn't be anything to hide, right? And now everything on his phone is on private, although I still had all the phone numbers to the girls he talks to. Last night we were argueing, and he wouldn't let me look at his phone, and i told him i thought he was hiding something from me, and he told me "believe what you want". I forgave him for talking to another girl while we were dating, but how should I know he's not doing it again? Why is he so secretive? Is something going on? What should I do? He's mad because I txted those girls...but i shouldn't have 2, he should be honest
2007-11-06 03:18:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea i want to trust him...but when i say "talking" I dont mean normal conversation..I mean, they were a "couple" while we are a "couple". and he says he loves me...but why did he want to be dating someone while he was dating me?
2007-11-06 03:31:20 · update #1
You have every right to feel upset and curious about his behavior. Ask him that if you were doing the same thing how would he treat you.....would he feel like trust is a big issue?
It sounds that he is secretive but why? It sounds like you are handling things the way any girlfriend should. Stand up for your feelings and let him know you won't stand for it.
On the other hand you should let him know that he is entitled to a little secrecy but there are boundaries as to what is allowed to keep a secret. And if he don't think you're being fair then tell him to hit the road since he obviously don't respect how you feel.
2007-11-06 03:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by squishy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump this guy and tell him to go talk to the other girls instead. Not only is he probably cheating on you but he is pretty dumb for giving you his phone to play with if he didn't want you to see something on there. Perhaps there may be a thing or two kept private when you are still dating but after two months if he is still secretive you should be him be secretive with someone else.
2007-11-06 03:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You violated his privacy he violated your trust he let's you play game's on his phone and he trust you, so he's either the stupidest person in the world knowing you may have discoverd thoes texed messages
with another girl or he jusy may have meant you to find out . . .
Now your in tottal suspicion every time he's using it, but you have something on
your side, it's call wanting an honest relationship not a covert one . . .
You need to call him on it, cause if 007
james bond is into espianoge now while
your just going together, i think you can
guess what's coming down the line . . .
You have what is call in leagal term's
probable cause, so in essence you
did not violate his privacy, as much
as he violate your trust . . .
And like any one who has something 2 hide
he acted accordingly when you told him you
were on 2 him . . .
2007-11-06 03:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ben 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You violated his right to privacy, and now you're blaming him? Where is it written that anyone can't contact someone else when dating? Trust is a two-way street.
2007-11-06 03:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jolly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him. if that dosen't work i guess it's time.....to break up sorry hun look for a trusworthy guy!
2007-11-06 03:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Keep your head high. :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋