don't you just find it INCREDIBLY rude when other co-workers go out to get lunch and don't offer to pick you up anything, when you always offer to get lunch for everyone when you go?
2007-11-06 03:16:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it happens to me ALL the time. I honestly don't get it. It's like the nicer I try to be, the more my co-workers seem to ignore me. Maybe if I start acting like a biyatch they'll pay more attention, LOL!
2007-11-06 03:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once worked in an office where that would have been an issue... where YES, it would have been incredibly rude... do you watch The Office??? because in fact, it was about that size (<20 people) and it was a paper company too... but everyone was so impacted by what everyone else did, on a group level and an individual level... I now work in a much bigger and much more prefessionally diverse place and those problems don't seem to exist. It seems like the smaller the group of people the more intensified are the office politics... in the smaller company that would have been incredibly rude and it also would have been a way to send seriously rude signals to the individual left out on lunch plans... here it is not so much an issue... by professionally diverse I mean here there are accountants, and finace people, HR people, Engineers, Sales & marketing people, Administrative people, IT people, Assembly & manufacturing people.... where at the paper you were either sales, finance, or administrative....
2007-11-06 11:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is somewhat rude given that you always offer them, but it is probably an unconcious rudeness on their part rather than a deliberate one. The way to fix it is to stop offering to get lunch for everyone. While being nice is a great way to be and I applaud you for it, sometimes it causes people to take advantage -- and whether they take advantage deliberately or not, it can cause hurt feelings and resentment that could otherwise be easily avoided.
2007-11-06 12:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I don't see reflected in the previous answers is COMMUNICATION. You've expressed your frustration very well here - why can't you do the same with the people involved??? Talk to them privately. Tell them politely that you make a habit of asking if they'd like you to pick up their lunch, and that you would really like it if they would reciprocate. Be sure and phrase it in a kind way, such as "I'm sure it's just an oversight, but ..."; I know you're busy and probably just haven't thought of this, but . . ."
You'll be surprised how often people respond well when you are honest with them.
2007-11-06 11:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very rude, that is if you always ask them.
You also could speak up and say " Oh I heard you were going to pick up lunch today, and place your order. "
Try it next time !
Lunch is about due.
2007-11-06 11:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by cocoamoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not stand that. Then they come back and you can smell the food and the whole time your just smiling, maybe making some small comments that go completely over their head because they are that dumb. And then you realize that maybe im not going to ask anybody anymore, but those are the people who will chase you out the door asking where your going and can you pick this and that up!! Trust me im right there with you!
2007-11-06 11:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond In The Rough 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please. I used to work in an office where they would ask for everyone's lunch orders except mine. (I wasn't so well-liked, if you couldn't tell.) Even when I announced that I wanted to order lunch too, I was told that it would take too long to get my order. My boss went and asked if that had really happened, and the other employees said, yes, we didn't get her lunch, and he came and told me not to get upset. Guess how long after that I continued working there.
2007-11-06 21:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is! That really pisses me off. I would say something, maybe mention you would like it if you didn't have to leave for lunch all the time, they might offer to do it for you next time.
2007-11-06 11:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking everyone what they want when you go out for lunch. Have everyone be responsible for their own lunches.
2007-11-07 17:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is very rude of them to treat you that way. The only thing you can do is complain about it. If it doesn't change, then you have to stop doing favors.
2007-11-06 11:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋