What exactly is a personality?

Question

How can you tell what someone else's personality is?

What makes a fun/good/boring/bad/etc personality?

To me, a person with a good personality is a person who I feel comfortable being around. They could be quiet, loud, sweet, blunt, whatever. As long as I like to have that person around, then she or he has a what we call a "good personality."

Answer 1

Personality is the unique energetic signature or vibration of an individual. All living things are vibrating with energy, that is what makes them alive. Each living thing has a vibration that is different from every other thing. When you are in the company of another person, then your vibrational energies come into contact, whether you are aware of it or not and this happens through the feeling sensors you have in your body. You can touch them, hear them, see them, smell them and can also sense the emotion they are projecting which comes from what they are thinking - spoken or not.

When you are in conversation, for instance, the words each expresses affects the other. You receive a feeling impulse from what is said, then you think about what was felt and then you respond back according to all that. This interchange causes changes in both vibrations, yours and theirs.

So how you feel around another person, has partly to do with yourself and partly to do with the other person. So you even give your own answer that a good personality for you is someone you feel comfortable around, and I think this is true for all people.

The next question that might arise is why does someone make you feel comfortable? For you, I see it goes beyond their outside behavior, because you are saying a good friend can be blunt with you not giving you confirmation, but still it feels good.

I think the difference between what makes someone feel good or bad to a person, has the most to do with the attitude and intention of the personality. If with another person and you feel like you are equals - that you each accept each other with their positives and negatives and you each feel that the other is wise in their own way and has something of value to offer, then there is mutual respect. This is what creates the feeling of comfort, because for the most part there is the absence of competition between you. Neither one of you has the need to prove oneself as being superior and thus putting the other person into an inferior position.

People pick up & can feel very easily the kinds of people that need to get their confirmation from others by proving they are superior. They can't remain in their superior way of seeing themselves, if they can't find someone around them to knock down and prove is inferior. People who need to see themselves as superior to others will quite often behave like the following because they need to get constant confirmation:

* I can see more clearly than you
* I can answer your questions and help you
* I have meditated longer than you, therefore I am wiser.
* You are still the same ignorant and silly person
* You are acting like a child
* You need to have another past life before you'll get it.
* You will never understand, get it, etc.
* acting like a teacher & needing students to teach
* strong need to tell others what is wrong with them
* rarely turns the eye on themselves
* telling people they are impossible
* feeling like they are the only ones who can see clearly
* telling you that you are stupid
* telling you that you are hopeless
* telling you that you won't amount to anything
* telling you that you are impossible
* need to tell others they are smarter
* need to control the group energy in living situations
* need to get people to do their bidding
* often are in positions of being bosses or leaders

Well, I guess you get the idea...

Oh Wait! There is one more... I just came across one recently that shows the highest claim one can make of one's superiority:

"I'm a visitor on this planet (so I can ensure you that there is life on other planets!) and that makes it that I see things going on here clearer."

Now, how can anybody beat that??? It must be someone who knows everything better! Oh, your humble presence -- thanks so much for coming back to earth and giving us this opportunity to learn from your holy emminence. Your sacrifice is great and I know how hard it was to come down to this low level planet. Thanks so much, I have a zillion questions to ask you!

All joking aside, when you are around someone and they genuinely respect you then you can feel it deeply, and for me this gives a good feeling. When I'm around someone who is all the time pointing out my faults and showing me how much better they are than me then I feel bad. I also see that these kinds of people don't reciprocate or ever see faults in themselves and rarely do they value my point of view. If I share one, then I'm usually told how theirs is better. Another way to detect these kinds of people is that if you point out their faults, they will accuse you of attacking them, it's hard for them to accept that an inferior one might give advise to someone so superior. And the last way is that you find out that the way to get along with them the best is to follow their orders, never question their rule, never criticize them, listen to them and give them many compliments. This they love very much.

Betsy

PS: okay, sometimes people with superiority complex give you confirmation and think you have something wise to offer. But usually they do this only for one of two reasons: the first is they know you need some confirmation otherwise you will leave so they dish out a little sugar. The second is that they do recognize the wisdom that other people have, but mostly what they do with this wisdom is take it, collect it and use it as a stepping stone to make themselves even greater.

Answer 2

Personality. Well it means character. Character, something unique. Does things others don't. Personality basically sums up the physical, mental, emotional and even social charcteristics of a person. The way they look, the way they think, so if they're intelligence which is sexy, emotional, nobody likes a cry baby, social, if they're outgoing and out there, they're funny not afraid to be in a crowd. Hope that helped

Answer 3

What is "good" and "bad" in this regard is subjective...but the characteristics that make someone who they are makes up their personality.

Answer 4

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