He said he would end the dating website searching and would do anything to trust me again but no matter how much I tried, I feel so betrayed.
2007-11-06 02:29:31 · 20 answers · asked by D G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said I should not let his mistake ruin us. but I still don't feel that is a good reason to why he was even looking in the first place. I feel so betrayed and hurt.
2007-11-06 02:55:50 · update #1
Oh! I'm so sorry for you dear. This happens to the best of us believe it or not. You deserve someone who will treat you like a princess. Girls are precious so we deserve a man who will respect us and treat us like we are the only one in the world. I know the feeling, and I am fortunate to have a man that also wants a "one and only", too. The perfect guy is out there! So don't give up. Good luck! Best wishes to you and your future
2007-11-06 02:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, break it off. There's no other reason for him to be actively looking on a dating website unless he felt there might be something "better" out there.
Take some time apart, see if he changes. The only way you can really trust if a person has changed is if they act different not just towards you, but other situations as well.
This situation SUCKS, I feel for you. Best of luck!
2007-11-06 10:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel betrayed. Did you discuss why he was doing that? What was he searching for or what void was he wanting to fill? Knowing the "why" may help you two get past this issue...
If you can't get past it and trust him again, then breaking up would be the most logical option. Don't just throw away your relationship though, until you are sure it's not salvagable.
2007-11-06 10:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. You sign up to that dating site using an anonymous account that he can't guess is you. Put up some pictures of a pretty girl he hasn't seen before on the profile then message him and show interest. If he responds to her in a way that shows interest you know he's lying and you can dump him, if he rejects you then you know he's telling the truth and will be faithful from now on.
2007-11-06 10:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by sillywhiz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably beginning to feel "trapped". Did he cheat on you? Does he look at other Woman in Public?
I would not chalk that up as a dismissable offense, you have only been together for 10 months. If you spend your time worried about him cheating, then maybe you should leave him. That would be because of your own insecurities, however.
2007-11-06 10:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by rotirado 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did he do that? He obviously is not ready for commitment to you. I would feel very betrayed also, you need to let him go and find someone that will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
2007-11-06 10:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Freakalicious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might not be the marrying type or want right now I know men married and single that still check out the Internet go with your heart take babehearts answer it made me get up and take action!
2007-11-06 10:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by saltshell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you do, its sounds like he was hedging his bets whilst with you.
I would not be able to trust him, he sounds most unloyal.
You deserve better, not forgetting that he IS supposed to be your fiancee and therefore has made a commitment to you.
Get out before its too late......Good luck.
2007-11-06 10:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is not into the relationship like you are. If he is engaged, why would he be looking for others?
If you really love him, have a heart to heart, maybe he was just curious, and never meant any harm by looking.
2007-11-06 10:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by charm1936 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel the way you do. He's out of order, you know that. Don't give him another chance he blew it . You deserve better then that. MEN Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
2007-11-06 10:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by beverley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋