isnt this a huge INSULT?

Question

My friend from college(were both girls) asks me if i want to go to Vegas, she says oh me and my friends are going and we needed one last person to fill the room spot, wanna go?
I feel really insulted, like shes just asking me to fill a room spot. of course i said no,

Then before that i was sending around one of those quiz things on myspace.
One question was "say something about the person who sent this to you"

She writes well "Some say me and Linda (me)have a werid type of friendship"

I think shes trying to tell me were not friends,, for someone i have hung out with every weekend for 2 years, got her a great job, i feel insulted.

im thinking of cutting her off

umm shes asking me to go not because she wants me to but to fill a spot, no thanks

she planned it all along with her friends, never telling me and now im being invited to fill a room spot because it would cost her less money-no thanks

it was all planned and they realized they fell one person short.

No one has commented on the myspace message which she basically called me weird

Answer 1

I think it was nice of her to offer you to go in a group with people to Las Vegas. What difference does it make it you were first or last. Maybe she worded it poorly and maybe it sounded different when she said it than reading it here in typed words.

I don't think much of these myspace, etc type of forums. I think people are putting stuff out there that anyone can read that is too personal.

You have to go by your gut feeling about how good of friends you are or are not.

Answer 2

Oh wow you are way to sensitive and dramatic. So WHAT if they planned a vacation without you. They are allowed to do that, and so somebody cancelled and they have a spot. I mean, they obviously want you to come if they asked or they would have asked someone else. I would go and have fun! It would be a great opportunity to get closer with them.

As for the myspace thing, I think you are taking it the wrong way. Doesn't sound like she's insulting you; it sounds like she's making a joke. I have a lot of wierd frienships, but they are some of my best friends.

Chill out and relax, talk to her about it, and decide from there. Breaking a friendship over something silly like that, especially when you didnt' take the time to find out what's really going on, might be regretful.

Answer 3

I've been the one that "filled the spot" - it doesn't make you feel very good. Just like, oh I needed another bridesmaid so I asked you because so and so couldn't do it. Aaahhh....

Just step back for awhile, cool off the friendship, don't respond to her emails for awhile. That should help put things in perspective for you... is she truly your friend, or is she truly just using you? Some friendships also just don't last. There are others that stand the true test of time. This one sounds like it doesn't.

Answer 4

I say talk to her about it. I have a friend that says things like that sometimes and we have been friends for 10 years. She has kind of a dingy personality and honestly she doesn't even realize that what she has said hurt my feelings until I call her on it. Some people just don't think before they speak and their words just come out wrong, they really don't mean anything by it. Just talk to her, then if she is still acting stupid; find a new friend.

Answer 5

Cut her off if that's what you want. Otherwise just ask straight up "Look, you asked me to go just to fill a room and then you said we had a weird type of friendship. What's going on?" Beware, though, you might not like the answer.

Answer 6

My friend from college(were both girls) asks me if i want to go to Vegas, she says oh me and my friends are going and we needed one last person to fill the room spot, wanna go?


this says it all , i dont think a lot of the people who answered your question read this

if she counted you as a " friend " you would have been asked already

she wouldnt have said " me and my friends are going "

DO YOU WANT TO GO !!!

i think you are right this is not only an insult , its a veiled way of telling you that you are not even counted as a friend , even after everything you did for her

if it was me , i would tell her i was going and then not go just to screw up her plans

all the best
Ian

Answer 7

I suppose you have heard the expression "cutting your nose off to spite your face". I think this is what you are doing, you are being to sensative, dont fall out with this girl, just go to Vegas if its not too late, and when you get the right opportunity make a joke out of what she said. Lighten up luv or life will hit you hard......Good luck.xxx

Answer 8

Personally I don't see a problem.

She must have wanted you to go to Vegas if she offered. So what if they wanted to fill an extra spot?! Just go.

Ask her what she meant by "weird type of frienship." That sounds a bit ambiguous, and doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't see you as a friend.

Answer 9

yes, i totally agree that is insulting. the same type of thing actually happened to me this summer and it hurt me as well. if i were you i wouldn't tell her off or anything like that but i wouldn't spend my time and energy trying to keep the friendship either. people change, friendships change and maybe she isn't the kind of person you need in your life anymore. try not to take it too personally, i'm sure it has way more to do with her than you.

Answer 10

I would feel insulted as well!!! Before you make such a rash decision ask her what she meant first. She might just be holding in some problems that she's had with you....and this is the only way she knows how to approach it.