if you really liked this guy and you know he is seperated from his wife but is trying to work things out with her and he says he likes you alot would stay or step out of the picture I want to do whats right, help
2007-11-06 02:18:11 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
step out because getting involved with a married man is really really difficult, you will feel guilty, if he wants to work things out with her then let him he will come to you if he doesnt want her.
2007-11-06 02:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by ~welshy~ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally--this is just me so don't hate on me. I think you should just step out of the picture. I have been on the other side and having marriage issues and had some other woman (good intentions as you may have) been even remotely in the picture, it would have been more difficult for us to work through the issues with another person in the mix. I would say to you: step back; let him work through or end his mess. You don't want to be the cause of further detriment to his marriage (not that you would do that on purpose but it might be viewed that way to others.). You seem like a person who genuinely cares about doing the right thing and this is what I feel is right.
Good luck and stick by whatever decision you make.
2007-11-06 02:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have speifically summoned Women to answer this question. I presume that this is because you feel that only a fellow woman can best appreciate the situation and give proper advice.I do not think it means that men are prohibited from responding. However, if that is what you mean you better just ignore the following answer.
I feel that the very fact that this man is trying to make up with his estranged wife shows that he loves her.As such his display of interest in you can only be a stop-gap arrangement tobe terminated the moment he makes up with her.If you do not have any moral compuction(if I were a woman I would not have touched an idea of being a step-wife of an estranged woman even with a long pole) and feel the need of sexual relief you may by all means respond positively to his overtures. Not otherwise.
2007-11-06 02:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would step out of the picture! If you care for him and it sounds like you do then let him try to work things out with his wife, other wise he could always blame you in the long run for not trying.
2007-11-06 02:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by taurus_lynne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step out of the picture and let him try to work things out with his wife. Seeing someone on the rebound is not good because if they still has feelings for each other there's always that chance of him going back. Let him work things out or get her out of his system once and for all. In the meantime, get on with your life.
2007-11-06 02:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you REALLY like him and he REALLY likes you, then nothing else matters. However, I would wait to see what happens just pause things - don't completely step out because you'll never know what could have been. But if he isn't going to be able to mend things with his wife - stay in the picture make him get a divorce and go for it. Best of luck!
2007-11-06 02:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Happily Hippy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already answered it yourself. He is seperated from his WIFE and trying to WORK things out.... Step out now. Before his wife puts a death warrant on you. I would.
Also consider... there is a reason they are having problems, chances are you only have his side of the story which blames her right? And if he considers straying WITH you. Will he stray ON you?
2007-11-06 02:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by night_of_mystery29 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is trying to work things out with his wife, then he is not over her, step out of the picture for a while and see what happens
2007-11-06 02:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by A***n G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
step out, you dont want to be the reason why he seperates but you dont want to be the 'fill in' he sounds a bit confused if he says he like you but is trying to get with his wife. for your and his peice of mind id try to stay away from each other for a while whilst things settle.
2007-11-06 02:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Step out of the picture. I was in this situation 2 years ago and ended up getting pregnant. He decided to stay with his wife and pressured me to get an abortion. Now I'm single and she's pregnant.
2007-11-06 02:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Star 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to work things out with his wife, step out of the picture. Wait till he has his divorce papers before you get involved.
2007-11-06 02:21:13 · answer #11 · answered by oj 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋