i talk to a psychologist once a week, and i have to admit that i have not been completly truthful with her. its not that i have lied to her, i just havent told her a lot of things. i have been seeing her for stress and anxiety issues, but i have been very down and have been having some suicidal thoughts. how can i tell her these things without making her feel like i have been hiding stuff from her?? i really havent been its just that i havent felt comfortable until now to tell her these things, but i dont want her to get angry with me or anything like that. i have an appointment with her today and i want to tell her then. any suggestions on how??
2007-11-06 02:03:10 · 10 answers · asked by ~Citlalia ~ 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She wont be mad at you. Not everyone is comfortable about talking about everything at first. Its hard to lay everything out on the table when you are just getting to know someone and how they will react. I think they expect that. Just be honest with her and I think that she will appreciate you putting your trust in her completely and feel comfortable with her. I think you will feel better in the end as well. Good Luck and Best Wishes!!
2007-11-06 02:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by LindyN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for asking. Psychologists hear this stuff all of the time. She will not be angry with you or criticize you. Like me, she will be concerned about your depression and suicidal thoughts. She is not there to judge you, and she won't. You might say "ya know, we've been focusing so much on the stress and anxiety issues that I haven't gotten around to telling you some of the other things I want to deal with..."
Then just tell her how you have been feeling. None of your feelings are wrong. None of them make you a bad person in any way. Life can be really overwhelming, and stress, anxiety and depression are very common. The good thing is that you are dealing with it. You are doing the right thing to get through it. You can be proud of yourself for not taking heroin or something! Keep working it out. Things may or may not get better, but YOU will. You will learn how to deal with your feelings. and then when the harsh realities of life come at you, you will be able to handle them without fear. Keep doing what you are doing! The more honest you are the less you have to hold inside. Recognizing the problems, and talking them through keeps them from building up inside you. Good for you!!!
2007-11-06 02:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her just like you did to us. Tell her that you have something you want to tell her that you have not felt comfortable talking about until now. She will understand its her job. I'm sure she see's this stuff all the time and she will know its hard for you to talk about these issues. Trust me she will not be mad at you or suspect you of hiding these things. She will be happy that your making progress and feeling more comfortable talking with her. She is there to help you, not judge you.
Good luck!! And remember she's only there to help
2007-11-06 02:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by fairylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that You haven`t been really comfortable comming to her, but now you feel like you can tell her anything and she will not be judgemental toward you. So I want to tell you the rest of what is going on with me. Then start to tell her.
She is not allowed to get mad at you. She should understand where you are coming from and being the professional psychologist that she is, should feel good that you finally can trust her.
2007-11-06 02:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are used to people not being completely honest with them. It is part of the job. Just be honest and tell her you have been with holding information because you were not comfortable discussing it at the time and feel like you would like to discuss it now. Psychologists realize that you need to become comfortable with them before you really can be fully honest.
2007-11-06 02:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she'll get mad at you. And trust is a huge thing with phychologists, perhaps it's best to bring it up right away. You technically didn't lie to her, your just unsure of what to say to her at the moment. You can talk to her...about it, especially if (and I know you will) she asks you a simple question like how your doing. You can answer slowly, and tell her maybe begin with "over the pass several weeks..." If she happens to ask why you did not tell her, you can say that you didn't feel comfortable with telling ANYBODY at that time.
2007-11-06 02:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by [[chasing_nightmares?]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be honest like you just were with us. If you haven't felt comfortable with her until now...let her know. Tell her that. it's her job to listen and not to judge you on your lack of spreading everything into the open immediatly...
2007-11-06 03:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't help you unless you give her the tools to do so.
Tell her you haven't been completely honest with her, and fill her in on the rest, no matter how bad it is.
She won't get angry. It's not professional.
Otherwise, you are paying her for nothing. She can't help you unless she knows it all. It's a waste of your time and hers.
2007-11-06 02:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by scottclear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth you were nervous- she will understand and tell her the truth from now on she will help you trust her you really dont want to kill yourself! stop being down only you can make yourself positive try hard life is beautiful if you stop and smell the roses! good luck
2007-11-06 02:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by pugs5678 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a professional and honestly it is kind of expected that you're not going to be completely upfront until a trust is built.
2007-11-06 02:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Proud Navy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋