i am 20 at the moment and me and my partner have been together for almost 7 years, since i was 13. my partner is 23. we love each other dearly sand want to spend the rest of our lives together and i couldnt imagine life without him. we are planning on getting married spring 2009. i will then be 21 and he will be almost 25. is this wise?????
2007-11-06 01:52:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have been together for awhile and are taking things slow. So theres nothign wrong with it. Being together as long as you have, you knwo eachother and know you want to be together. Be mature about it and realize that its a big step and just make sure you are absotely ready for marriage before you do too much planning. Good luck and congrats!
2007-11-06 02:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i realize you are in love, but I think you should wait. You've been together since you were 13. That means both of you didn't have time to play the feild and see what is out there. Do you really want to wake up five years later, and wonder if you made the right choice? I would wait a couple more years, and try seeing other people to see if your really in love or the idea of being in love. Most socilogist say it is better for woman to wait until 24 when they have more life experiance and can make better choices. Right now you should focus on a career.
2007-11-06 13:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it's wise to wait. In fact, I would wait until you were a bit older then 21. I would say 24 even, and he would be 27. That would be more ideal. At 21, I feel you still have a lot of stuff to in terms of setting up a career and building a solid future.
Do both of you have stable, long term careers?
Do you have health benefits?
Do you have a retirement plan?
Where will you be living? If you rent, how long do you plan on doing so before buying a home?
2007-11-06 10:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by J'adore 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you have a well thought-out plan. 2009 gives you plenty of time to plan & save. Also, by then hopefully one of you will be done with school or already working now which is crucial since you will be supporting yourselves. Really though, you should decide if this plan will work for you & your partner and then don't worry so much about what everyone else thinks...someone will always find a way to criticize you. If you feel you will be emotionally, financially, & mentally prepared at that time, then I say go for it!
2007-11-06 16:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you through college,financially secure? alot of people go through many changes in their early 20's.. That's why i hesitate to say go for it. I made a big mistake when i was 18.. and married my first serious boyfriend. We were divorced 4 years later. if your happy with the one your with..Wait until your closer to 25.. and really make sure.Good luck.
2007-11-06 10:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh yeah that is not a big deal my sister and her husband hhave been married for 3 years. and have been dating since she was 15. he is two year older then her. they are great and they are still just as much in love as they where when they met.i never knew that young love that was 9 year ago would last.
jackie
2007-11-06 10:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by jackie b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes! it is good that you set the date in distant future just to ensure that you can deal being with each other all of the time! i have loads of respect for your relationship considering that you've been together for so long! i hope you relationship continues to blossom and works out fantastic! and congratulations=)
2007-11-06 09:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by haley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a good plan to me.... then you will have the time to make sure that you are making the right decision for yourself. Getting married is HUGE, and it would be better to be 100% sure than to have any doubts.
2007-11-06 09:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Nursy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sure. You guys have been together long enough to figure out if this is what you really want. Go for it.
2007-11-06 14:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you found your true love, your soul mate. You have been together for 7 years and you still say you love him and he still says he loves you. Congratulations! Good luck on your endeavors!
2007-11-06 09:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋