We are close to breaking up and I am close to moving out. I would not intentionally be a deadbeat because I would still spend money on my son; I just would not be giving it to her. This is solely her choice and she wants to sign an official paper stating that she doesn't want support from me.
I am thinking that even if she signs anything, her parents will still try to get the courts or police or whoever they can to get me to pay regardless of what she says or signs.
So my final question is would I still have to pay child support to her if she signed papers stating she doesn't want money from me? I am not giving up custody; it would be joint custody because I don't give up on my son. He is still my son. Her parents do not have any custodial rights, although I am thinking that they may try to force her to get money from me anyways.
2007-11-06 01:50:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she(we) still lives with her parents too
2007-11-06 01:53:33 · update #1
no I am not asking where I should put money away for him... wrong direction with the first answer...
2007-11-06 01:56:12 · update #2
sorry I did not state that we are not married...
her parents are real bastards too... they have helped me out a lot but I am sure they would think I forced her to sign something...
I can support him myself as far as giving her money for him to spend on something he needs or wants, but I am talking about being court-ordered...
2007-11-06 02:25:57 · update #3
it is not a divorce so courts won't be involved unless she wants them to or her parents make her get the courts involved...
I know my state is 17% of gross income... I wouldn't have to pay above that unless the courts mandate that I pay for health insurance or something like that...
But there should be more definitive answers here cause there are more and more couples who have kids who break up and were never married so people have to know the answer(s)...
I just don't know the specifics... that's why I am asking...
2007-11-06 02:29:47 · update #4
Ha! I would make sure that the paper she signs does not make me give up any rights. I would not sign any such paper giving him up either. My son knows who loves him and who his dad is. He is old enough. He is 7.
I don't want my son to be upset at me in the future by saying you should have left because Mom and Grandma and Grandpa treated you like crap and you just stayed around when you should have left all that.
I just don't want my son to even think I am giving up on him. That is never my intention.
2007-11-06 03:20:35 · update #5
As long as she gets it notorized by the court system that she is waiving all child support rights for youthen they cant make you pay child support. Her parents have no right so there is no worries there. The only thing I can see you need to worry about is later on down the road if she gets mad at you or finds another man she may say that you have not been paying child support so you have no rights to him. Be careful on this one you may get swindled into giving up rights to your child.
2007-11-06 03:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The courts would mandate child support and explain to her that it's for the child and the child deserves the money. Now what she chooses to do with the money is totally up to her. But most likely you will Have to pay and she will Have to accept it. And if I were you, I'd be very careful. If I were you, I'd insist. Also, the amount is determined by a state mandated calculator. No one can force you to pay more or less except the judge and it's based on very specific items, such as is she going to need child care, insurance, etc. Otherwise, they take the amount of Both incomes and divide based on who has more parenting time with the child. So don't worry, her parents can't force any increase in anything and it's all based on the state calculator. Good luck! Spend as much time as you can with the kiddeos, they need daddy too!
2007-11-06 02:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't seek it then the court can't impose it. You say breaking up instead of divorcing so I'm guessing your not married. If you're not divorcing then the courts wouldn't be involved anyway.
However, if you really don't give up on your son, and you really want to support him then let the court garnish your wage. She may not want support now or for today, but down the road she may need it. If not she can put into a savings account for him, or 529 plan for him.
Besides, who knows what's going to happen once you find a new woman and start another family.
2007-11-06 02:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't get the courts involved the only way they would make you pay child support is if she applied for state aid of some kind. Ex: food stamps, health insurance, things like that.
2007-11-06 02:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing you have to realize is that it's NOT HER PARENTS' DIVORCE, IT'S YOUR DIVORCE... and her parents can't petition the court because they are not legally involved.
unless your wife is retarded, and needs a guardian to help her make adult decisions, she has to stand for herself, alone in court.. her mommy and daddy have no 'say' in the matter, and never will.
that being said, you can ask your attorney or mediator about your agreement regarding child care and support... when two people agree in a divorce, things can be worked through without continuing court involvement.
take care.
2007-11-06 02:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bottom line. Pay the child support regardless of whether she wants it or not.
2007-11-06 03:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Rivergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put into a college fund for him............
2007-11-06 01:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋