I guess I understand you love them....My guy friend cheated on his girlfriend said he regretted it and then went out with a new girl...A few months later he got back with his ex...People out ther who have taken back cheaters, how and why? I would like to sa I wouldnt if I was in the situation because the trust is destroyed.
2007-11-06 01:31:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many times, this is because they get into the relationship too fast and too easily to begin with and so they cheat but sometimes a person realizes that they made a mistake and is willing to make it up in any way they can to the person they cheated on. There is also a difference between a person who sets out to cheat and someone who can not resist temptation put in their way.
A person who takes a cheater back is often someone without enough self esteem to realize that they can find someone better who does not cheat and so takes the cheater back.
The only reason to take a cheater back again is if they are able to give enough reasons to assure that you can trust them not to do it again. If they are not able to rebuild that trust, the person cheated upon should move on and find someone else but too few realize that and so take back a cheater and get hurt all over again.
2007-11-06 01:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 20yrs on the 14th, my husband told me he no longer loved me after 8yrs of marriage, 2 kids, and a new home purchase. I was oblivious to any cheating because I "needed" him, he made the decisions, paid the bills, told us when & where we were going, how much to spend....etc. My world was shattered and, I was a typical woman that said, "if you ever cheat on me, I swear I'll leave and you'll be sorry" well, a little time apart, ALOT of growing up on my part and taking a stand for what I believed in, which was him & me and our babies plus the 9.5 years that we had shared together and complied alot of memories led me to believe that "WE" were worth it. It wasn't and, at times, still isn't easy but I know that I made the right decision. I've lived it once and he now knows that I'm an independant, strong woman that will leave it before living it again. The trust will come back BUT only if you allow it to. Divorce is the easy way out, working at what you believe in is hard but well worth it in the end.
2007-11-06 09:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by REENIE29906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this with alot of my frineds. it is hard to understand expecaly when you would never do that. it has to do with self pride. they may feel that they can not do any better. what you need to do as a friend is help them feel confident and tell them that they can do better. they may hate you at first, but when there girlfriend cheats again, be there and help them TOTALLY get over them. people always want to help other in the hope that they can change people. it will only hurt them in the long run. never leave your friend b/c of their chioce of girlfrineds.
jackie
2007-11-06 09:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by jackie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because You think the person will change and there is a chance you might still love the cheater...
2007-11-06 09:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by better_than_godiva 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it may be a mistake, but there are guys around who have eyes for any girl who walks past. If you like a faithful boyfriend, you got to move on. If you don't care, an open relationship is for you.
2007-11-06 09:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater and besides an ex is an ex for a reason.
2007-11-06 09:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not me. Anyone with the loyalty of a Mike Vick co-defendant is one and done.
2007-11-06 09:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because in my particular case, he'll one day find out the he needs you if he were to come back
2007-11-06 09:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kay <3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are insecure
2007-11-06 09:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rhys_Malone 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋