has anyone ever loved someone so much but hated them at the same time? I need to leave him, but the pain is too much...nothing can stop the pain but it can be forgotten or to a lesser value, what can i do to leave him and let him know i'm not coming back this time. and how can i forget and stop the pain
2007-11-06 01:28:20 · 14 answers · asked by shawrtia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the same situation except with 2 children so I don't have the option of severing all ties. I definitely recommend to cut off all communication because if you keep leaving and coming back then he will know what buttons to push to bring you back and because you are vulnerable after the breakup (its called grieving the relationship) you will fall for all of the promises and it will feel so comforting to be around him...it will only last for a few because trust me things will go right back into the same cycle as before and you will start to hate him all over again. Just remember that if he's not treating you the way you deserve to be treated then LET HIM GO!
2007-11-06 02:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by LoveMyself1st 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart. Or maybe look at the reasons u want to leave him and see if u can help him change those ways. Just make sure u wont regret it. Think it over and talk to him about it maybe. It will take you a while to forget but thats what happens with almost everyone and the pain will go away. Just will take time like everything else. :]
I hope this helped.
2007-11-06 09:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by AlexisLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It is harder to leave than to stay. Obviously, you have left and always come back so he doesn't take the threat seriously. Make you plans ahead of time to leave. Know where you are going and what you are going to do. Then leave and don't look back. Have NO contact with him at all from that point on. There is someone out there you can love and trust. You won't find him unless you free yourself from his relationship.
2007-11-06 09:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure have
the pain will go away eventually give it time
apparently he hurt you and you cant get past it tell him you love him and dont want to leave him but he has hurt you too deep and you cant get past it lay it all out and tell him how you feel let himexplain himself and then take it from there i dont think you can have a healthy relationship with someone you also hate i know it happens in the movie but this is real life
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2007-11-06 09:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~Secrets, Lies & Alibies~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only u will know when enough is enough. I felt this way when me and my ex husband was going through are issue and he had an affair I love him but hated him. One day I just said enough is enough pack my **** and never look back. I feel like a ton of brick have been lifted off my shoulders. Sometime I question if I did the right thing but u get pass that.
2007-11-06 09:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by KORIN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is to cut all ties with him. After you leave, don't accept phone calls from him, or meet him at all. It will be hard but if you keep any type of contact it can drag things out and if you don't want the relationship its not fair to either one of you.
2007-11-06 09:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha, i had the same problem before. that feeling was confusing isn't it? i think that you should need to rethink again. Ask yourself: do u love him? if u dont , then it is better to leave him. you can actually hint or meet him at places which is more quiet and tell him gently, dun hurt his feelings =) time will heal all wounds ^^ good luck and god bless =)
2007-11-06 09:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by water_pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes we need to make a clean break.. and do it for YOU.
You don't owe him any explanations or excuses.. you have left before, and probably for all of the same reasons. If he doesn't know "why" by now, he never will.
Take care of YOU, no one else will.
2007-11-06 09:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever the facts and reasons are, sounds like u need SPACE to breathe and do some thinking.
when things are too near, our sense of it is distorted.
get some distance and then u can better judge it for what it is worth.
2007-11-06 09:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aswell as it not being fair on him by staying, you're not being fair to yourself. I cant imagine what he may be doing to make you want to leave so desperately...You have to leave and sever all ties. Good luck sweets
2007-11-06 09:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋