i am dating a man who is divorced. Now , am a virgin and he wants to do it with me..i like him but not so sure about losing it to him..am not gonna marry him as its not possible n thats why i feel i should lose it to the one I'll marry.
Now i wanna ask, is it worthwhile to wait for "the one" or should i go ahead with this man. I am attracted to him anyways.
Please help me solve through this situation.
2007-11-06 01:22:16 · 36 answers · asked by aint_i_hoot_madonna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's very simple
if you're not sure
DON'T
2007-11-06 01:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by akathepurplecow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT, WAIT, WAIT-You may not want to hear it from my perspective but I have to say b/c it's who I am. God had specific reasons for having men and woman wait until they're married for sex b/c when you have sex with a person you're not only having sex with that person but with everyone that person has had sex with and every person that person has had sex with and so on. Sex isn't just physical it's also spiritual which is why it's so hard to forget the first person you had sex with b/c your spirits connected. I know you're asking yourself well did you wait the answer is-YES! I am 27 now with a 5yr old daughter and pregnant now, was married at 21. HOLD OUT DON'T GIVE IN.
2007-11-06 01:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by madeam3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity to a guy I did not love but was seeing at the time I thought it would not effect me, I wish I had waited untill I feel in love and got married. B/c they will say they care just to get into your pants and you will not see them much. I say wait, because you want it to be special and you will always remember your first, so do you want this man to be the one you remember?
2007-11-06 01:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by lucky lady 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with this guy...he just wants to have sex with a virgin he could care less about you. Your first time should be with someone you care about and love or someone you are married to. I wish I waited for marriage but instead lost my virginity to a guy who was 10 years older than me and just wanted to break in a new virgin. JERK!!!
2007-11-06 01:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is best. You already answered your question by saying you wanted to wait for the one you were going to marry and this guy was not the one you wanted to marry. That answers it right there.
2007-11-06 01:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Taco Muncher 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you like him go for it but is he the one you want to loose something so special to? You can't get this back so be careful. Why is it impossible to marry him? He's divorced so he could marry again if he so wished. Maybe you should talk to him about it. Is this a serious relationship that may lead to further things..?
2007-11-06 01:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by CP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definitely WAIT FOR THE ONE. You'll be forever sorry if you don't. And it's not something you are ever gonna get back. Remember you can always loose your virginity at any time, but you can never, ever become a virgin again
2007-11-06 01:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question, then my gut reaction is that you are not mature enough to be sexually active yet. Sex is a big deal, especially your first time. It should be special, not just with somebody you "find attractive." Save it for somebody who really melts your candle, girl. It is worth the wait.
2007-11-06 01:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Red-eared Slider 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it is the right time, you won't be asking this question. You will know. Wait till you sure and don't let this man pressure you into something you aren't ready for. You will regret it.
2007-11-06 01:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to "solve" -- you have already made up your mind that you don't want to have sex with him. You made that statement in your question.
Please do not say "yes" when you mean "NO".... doing something you don't want to do may be a set up for a lot of regret.
If the guy only wants sex, then he can go find some?
2007-11-06 01:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT till marriage
its worth it
dont lose your virginity just because you feel like you have to
you have waited this long why give it up for just anyone
2007-11-06 01:27:09 · answer #11 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋