This B*&!# my fiance has kids with is so crazy & jelous of our family we have, she is alwats trying to start stuff. Well I normally dont care but she is 25 yrs old and went to the extreme of calling my little boys names. They are only 6 yrs & 20 months. they are so innocent and dont know anything. She was calling them mutherf's and saying they are ugly (which I KNOW is out of jelousy0 b/c my boys are sweet & so adorable. But as a mom I just want to really flip out on this heffer or something. I dont care what she says but I dont know what to do b/c she has crossed the line but I dont want to get arrested for going to her home but I feel I need to stand up for my boys. How do I handle this in a mature way as a mother should?
2007-11-06 01:16:02 · 11 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know as a mother myself my first thought would be to f-A-B!#ch up but you got to be better. It only makes you do exactly what they want you to do if you react....I had the opposite situation where my sons father called himself moving on and I didn't like it but that's because he would come to me behind her back and tell me how much he loves me and he would still try to keep me thinking he wanted to come back.....At first I was thinking... see he don't really love her and I hated her...but then I realized he was playing us both or should I saying trying to. I finally told him you chose her so be with her.(I could have been crazy like that girl but I got better things to do than worry about some two timing man) .....The morel of this story is ..women can be crazy but usually there's a reason that they are.
2007-11-06 05:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like her, gather your dignity and act like a lady. IGNORE her...
You are giving this woman just what she wants -- a reaction to her behavior. The sooner you stop reacting and letting her bother you, the sooner she will get bored with trying to cause problems...
If she called your kids names to their faces, maybe talk with the six year old.. he or she is not too young to learn that some people are cruel and say mean things without considering feelings. I'm sure there are children's books written on the same subject, and there might be something at the library you can read to him which will help.
If you didn't care what she said, you'd never have asked this question. The mature thing to do is avoid and ignore her, and live YOUR OWN life...
2007-11-06 09:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job here is to act in such a way which reflects how you would like your sons to react in a similar situation. For you, I think this means ignoring her comments & keeping the boys away from her as much as possible. Speak with your fiance about this & encourage him to politely ask her to stop upsetting your boys if he is on reasonable speaking terms with her. Apart from this, there really isn't anything you can do to stop her crazy-lady behavior, so stay positive & get back to enjoying being the mother of two wonderful boys. Good luck.
2007-11-06 09:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Richos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sink to her level. If you are the one to hear her call your kids a name, then call her out on it, but don't get into a fight with her. Really, she isn't worth it, and you don't want your kids to see the whole blow up.
Be dignified. You may even want to just ignore her completely, which may bother her more. Perhaps she wants a confrontation?
And your fiance is the one who created this situation, so really he should be standing up for you as well. Why did he choose to start a family when he was not married to her? This is a situation he caused, so make him tell her the names are inappropriate! He should be furious.
2007-11-06 09:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to the kids, she has no right to say anything to or about them. Those are your kids, and as a mother myself, if someone says something to/about them, I will be pissed and I will say something whether they like it or not. The other stuff that she starts, it's her way of just letting you know that she can. Don't fall for it. You have to stand back and let her say what she wants. She envies you hon because you're with the guy now and she lost out. But as I said, say something about the names she calls your boys, but let the other stuff go... just think...she has nothing better to do than to talk about you..You're famous!!! Breathe...your boys need you.
2007-11-06 09:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother instinct is to reap apart anyone who would in any way harm your child. So what if you get arrested? In worth case scenario you'll pay a fine but that b*tch will think twice next time she want to approach your kids.
2007-11-06 09:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anderson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would listen to what she has to say, yes she is obviously jealous, but your partner is 25 and has multiple children with 2 women? Maybe her shouting at you should be triggering alarm bells in you about this guy.
She is just jealous, just be glad you have more than her
2007-11-06 09:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm young and I don't understand the bond between mother and child yet, but I can imagine how angry you must be. She has no right to call your children names! Tell your fiance about it and hopefully he'll tell her to back off. And if she tries to bother your family one more time, tell her off like there's no tommorrow!
2007-11-06 09:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Erin has a crush on Brandon♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** the *****. Any1 who says nasty comments to little boys is a nutter. Dont let her get to you, rise above all her bullshit and u will come out smelling like roses. And roses love bullshit, it helps them grow.
2007-11-06 09:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for your boys????? What harm has these names done to them? You are just looking for an excuse to kick on this woman's @ss. The least you could do is be honest with at least yourself
2007-11-06 09:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋