i have a stalker please help?

Question

there is this guy in school, he is new this year, he is also very quiet and doesn't talk much and he is quite wierd and ugly looking. right before a dance he came up to me when i was with my friends and asked if he can go to the dance with my group so i gave him my number because i didnt want to seem mean well he txted me and i told i had sprained my ankle so he stayed home. he tried calling then later couple of weeks ahead first he asked if i can pose for his photo class (he asked if it was cool with me and my bf and all that) i said no but i said i would love to but im busy. well then he tried calling couple of times but i refuse to pick up. he asked me in school why i didnt and i had to make up with some excuse and now he keeps on doing this!!! how do i get him to go away and leave me alone?!?!?!

he calls me and when i dont pick up he asks me why i didnt call back or pick up and i continue to have to make up excuses. he asked me if i want him to leave me alone but i had to say no so i wouldnt look like a *****. please help what i do!?!?!

he also has crooked teeth and he is obsessed with photography he asked me to judge a couple of photographs for him.

how can i get rid of this psychopath?

i need more answers, can i have him arrested and put in jail for a long time?

Answer 1

Be honest. He is only followig your lead. dont kid yourself. he is not stalking you. You keep giving him ins. If a cute guy was this persistant ....you would be loving it.

But because you keeop telling him it is ok, he is going to keep doing it.

it is great that you did not want to hurt his feelings. But secretly saying he is a staker when he is only following your lead, is wrong.

Take him ot the sid and let him know...youre not interested!

Answer 2

You are confusing...
You could have simply told this new student that a lot of the kids come solo to the dance and you already have arrangements and maybe you would bump into him at the dance. No obligations, no mixed messages.
What were you thinking giving him your phone number.
Next, quit being so shallow; so he is ugly in your opinion and has crooked teeth. Does that really mean he couldn't be a fun classmate to get to know. School is hard enough and not everyone is beautiful with straight teeth. Give this guy a chance.
And if someone is asking your opinion be flattered that someone thinks highly of your opinion. Be honest and kind in what you say. You don't have to be hurtful because you don't hit it off with that person. Try to include others and maybe this guy will find a friend and leave you alone.
You are being a drama queen and creating your own problems.
Now do the right thing and have a talk with him and be honest about how you got off to a bad start with him and tell him you want him to stop text messing you. Start fresh and be cordial with him in class. If he continues to text message you change your number. And try to be a better person; don't gossip about this situation to all the other students.

Answer 3

I think the best thing is to be honest with this person in a kind way. He already asked you if you wanted him to leave you alone, so he's sensing that. I would definitely text him or talk to him or something and say that you don't appreciate his behaviour and want him to stop calling you. I don't think he's necessarily a stalker, I think he might be lonely and not have many friends, and since you gave him your phone number maybe he thought he could be yours or ever more than that. Who knows? But you need to step it up and be honest with the guy no matter what he looks like. He's still a person and still should be treated like one. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

He doesn't quite sound like a stalker, but you do want to be careful in what you say to him. First thing, you "MUST" be straight up and honest with him in a respectful way to insure there will be no hurt feelings. You may not have realized what you were doing, but you caused this problem yourself.
You are giving him a false sense of hope that one day, you will go out with him or at some point the two of you can hang out together when in fact, you have no intentions of ever spending any time with him.
If indeed he is a stalker, you could have a problem on your hands, but it just sounds to me like he may really like you and just wanted to get to know you. You did say he was new to the school, so maybe he wants to make friends... It's hard being the new kid on the block and maybe you were the only one that appeared approachable to him.
Whatever you do, Do Not say anything to embarrass him or hurt his feelings and whatever you do decide to say to him, tell him around others (to avoid being alone) but in private where only he can hear what you have to say. Because "if" he is a stalker, which I just don't think he is, (but I could be wrong) then he already has underlying issues and you don't want to set them off.
There is a way you can try to ease yourself out of the equation, but a bit risky... Try bringing him around you and your friends to hang out. So what, he's not the cutiest guy around, but come on... you can't be that shallow to judge someone simply because of their looks are you? He could genuinly be a very nice person.
Anyway, try introducing him to some of your other friends and he may make a connection with someone else and you can just ease out of the spotlight. It may be that he just wants to make some new friends... think of how you'd feel if you were new and everyone thought you were wierd, but you knew you were just a shy person. If that's his case, it took a lot of courage to make the first move, don't kick the kid in the balls before you even find out what he's about.
Try it (really)... You may just save the school from another columbine shooting... (kidding) but you just never know. Think about it????

Answer 5

CREEPY and i dont think that whole jail thing is gonna work but here is what i would do

when he asks you about why you didnt answer your fone tell him your grounded or broke your fone or something tell him that you dont feel comfortable with him calling you all the time and that you have a bf that you like very much and that you stay busy and dont have time to return unanswered calls

if he still calls alot have your bf answer the fone and tell him to back off

if that doesnt work change your #

when your at school make sure you always have at least one person with you all the time dont EVER let yourself be alone with him

when you see him coming try to turn and go a diffrent direction if possible

i hope this helps and if you feel threatened tell your parents the situation and ask for their advise bc if they answered your fone i dont think he would call back

Answer 6

the poor guy probably has never had someone pay attention to him before, let alone a girl give up her number to him. Hes not doing anything illegal but he is becoming a nucence. This is a tough one to correct, but you need to start by asking him nicely, not to call anymore. if he calls again, you need to be more agressive and tell him not to call or youll get the school officials involved. I seriously doubt he will continue with this but if he does. start keeping a log of when he calls and how often. Get your friends involved (including your BF) not to physically trouble the guy. But to ask him Straightforwardly not to call you anymore. Also do not talk to this guy at school, except to tell him not to call.

Answer 7

Arrested and put in jail? For what? You have acted like he has a chance, and now you want to jail him so you won't look like a b*tch?

You need to grow a pair and sit down with him, tell him he is a great guy and real nice, but you are "in love" with your boyfriend and his constant attention is freaking you out.

Why can't you just be his friend? Or can you only be friends with good looking people?

I would guess you are pretty young, but in this instance you need to grow up. Learn how to politely say no. It is a skill that will help you throughout your life.

Answer 8

He doesn't know you find him grotesque. On of the reasons is that you gave him your pohne number. The first thing you need to do is send him signals that he isn't your type, since you seem to have such a hard time being direct. I know you know how to send out negative signals. Roll your eyes at him, sigh heavily like he's working your last nerve, give him attitude, just evolve into a ***** for him. Sooner or later, he'll get the hint.

Answer 9

so he did ask you if you wanted him to leave you alone? That was nice of him. Next time when you see him tell him: "Do you remember when you asked me whether I wanted you to leave me alone? Well I didn't want to hurt your feelings, but the answer is Yes! Thank you for your interest in being my friend but I don't think I can. Take care"

If you cannot say it face to face, just send him a text message. Being sincere helps a lot, and saves you a lot of trouble as well!

Take care.

Answer 10

Why are you writing about a STALKER in Singles & Dating? You're sending the wrong message by giving him your number and not telling him you're not interested and you're sending the wrong message "To ALL of US" by posting this info about a stalker in a dating category. Are you just playing hard to get with this guy or do you not want him to pursue you? Which is it? No you can't send some guy to jail or have him arrested because you gave him your number to call you.

Get real or go home.

Answer 11

Just because his teeth are crooked he doesn't qualify for having friends? He's new in the school. He's obviously wanting to make friends. You've been very dishonest with him by lying to him and making silly excuses. I don't think he's a stalker but how would you know?? You are treating him badly without giving him a chance. Why don't you include him in a group activity and see how it goes. STOP lying!!