My 14 year old daughter did not study well for an important test in an honors class. She wants me to pick her up from school because she feels unprepared. Do I pick her up and save her grade? Or, do I make her learn her lesson and take the hit on the huge test grade?
2007-11-06 00:45:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is old enough to learn the lesson. Mommy will not always be there to bail her out when she makes the wrong choice. Tell you you love her but it was her decision. You would be reinforcing a lie taking her out of school for this reason. She is not ill. What kind of example will that set?
2007-11-06 00:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Teddy's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this is the first time ok then if she can't retake it then no she should have studied I think she had enough time to be prepared.I would yell at her when I take her back home tell her that this is the first and last time.Make sure your sure that she not lying about the test. Ask her why she did not study those test are mainly patterns so normally there's nothing to expect or study for!If you think that she is slaking off and if she doesn't get a good grade on this test she will fail then take her home.She should learn to be responsible for her actions!If she is taking the test i hope her good luck!
2007-11-06 08:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by I need some answers :! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to sound harsh, but yes, you should make her learn her lesson and take the hit on the huge test grade.
In life, your daughter will not always have her Mom to pick her up when she is unprepared, and I think you should teach her that when she´s prepared, she can face any challenges.
You´re a good Mom-some Mom´s would simply pick up their daughters, and the daugher will never learn persistance.
2007-11-06 08:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her take the test and learn a lesson. It's more than just a lesson in studying. You are making a statement that you won't lie. The world does not end if she gets one bad grade, however, if you let her get away with it, she will always try to get away with it, which will not help her in the end.
2007-11-06 13:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Liza S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bail her out. She'll just do it again and again if you do. Let her get the bad grade- she's got time to make up for it in later tests and assignments. Do you really want to give her the impression it's okay to not study because Mommy will come save you?
2007-11-06 08:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She knew she had to study for the test. She chose not to. This is a perfect time for her to learn that choices have consequences. Let her take the hit!!
2007-11-06 09:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is usually a good student and this is unusual for her, rescue her this time. Then talk to her to see what problems she is having. She may be in over her head with school work and need help.
Better to communicate your love and support than to teach her a lesson.
2007-11-06 08:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go for Mommy lessons if you post a question like this. Let her learn her lesson and tell her why you did it. She is at a critical stage now that will for m her whole future.
2007-11-06 09:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick her up this one time, and make her study, if she has learned her lesson she won't do it again. If not however don't pick her up the next time, she may have not studied by accident, forgetting there was a test.
2007-11-06 08:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by omen 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm all about personal responsibility. If you pick her up, all she's learned is that she doesn't have to pay for her procrastination.
Let her take the test...if she does poorly perhaps that'll be a reminder next time to get her priorities straight.
2007-11-06 08:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋