For some time...I have been having this feeling that my girlfriend of 5 months is interested in someone else. I don't have an idea on who it is...it is just a feeling I have..and I don't know why. So would it be wrong to ask my girlfriend if she is interested in someone else? Or would it be a good idea?
2007-11-06 00:36:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go have a conversation with your girlfriend about it.
2007-11-06 00:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by JustANiceGuyHere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard because it is only a "feeling".
If she has never given you any reason to actually wonder, if you do ask and she really isn't, she will believe you do not trust her. Are you completely sure that it is a "feeling" you are getting from her and not your own doubt about the relationship?
If you are going to approach her, be sure to do it very carefully. Bring it up when you are alone and talk about your relationship in general (don't just zoom in on this one thing as this feeling you may be getting may be for other reasons).
During your conversation simply tell her that you would hope if she was not happy for any reason or felt she was interested in pursuing a different relationship, she would discuss it with you and you would do the same with her.
And whatever answer she gives you, you will need to either trust until she gives you a reason not to or decide to move on.
Good Luck.
2007-11-06 00:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if its been bugging you then you got to do something about it don't tell her exactly if shes interested in someone else or she will think you don't trust her. So you kinda have to ask her about something else that brings up that subject... like so how many boyfriends did you have before? And then says Yeah (Says what you want here) so who was the last guy you been crushing on you know before me haha. And then the persson she says will probably maybe be the guy shes interested in know. Don't make things complicated also maybe you can ask a friend of yours and her's and they can ask her for you but make sure they don't says it has anything to do with you wanting to know. Good Luck! :]
2007-11-06 00:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you passed the three month trial of fire ( first three months ) that means your relationship and communication must be pretty good. Remember that trust is the most important part of a great relationship and your relationship with her is doomed if you think her heart is set on another person because you're gonna limit yourself.
Also consider this, us guys we tend to get a little nervous and insecure when it comes to starting to realize that we are caring a lot about a person or starting to love her, so our mind starts to play tricks with us.
So what I would is ask her, but be careful with her feelings and the way you ask her, and if the answers seems sincere maybe is just in your head. Then you have to deal with your insecurity and ask her if she could help you feel more secure about the relationship.
2007-11-06 00:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Alucard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to ask yourself why you are feeling this way. If it's just because you are insecure about the relationship or if she has given you reason to think that. If she has given you reason to think that then you could ask her about whatever it was that makes you feel that way and just say "you don't want to go out with anyone else do you?".
2007-11-06 00:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by BAMA a.k.a. K~E~G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, it will do the world of good, cos your suspicions, ill-founded or otherwise have prob been making themselves only too apparent to your girl so it'll clear the air.
If she is (& you must accept that there's a chance of that) she might have been trying to gear herself up to telling you, but if she isn't she may have been wondering why you've been acting so weird around her all this time.
Best of luck, & whatever she says (yes or no) accept it as is, be strong & if she says no then try & get over it & show her how happy this info makes you.
2007-11-06 00:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a good idea because it would fuel paranoia in you both. Anyhow, if she does, she does. The real issue is whether or not she cares about you more and, enough to stick around without subsequently fooling around.
2007-11-06 01:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea, otherwise u will spend ur time trying to figure it out for urself and ur relationship will be under alot of pressure. Tell her u love her (thats assuming u do?) and tell her ur fears. make sure you dont accuse her of anything coz u dont have solid proof.
You should be able to tell from her reaction if you have anything to worry about.
good luck
2007-11-06 00:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is very important in a relationshio, so you should be able to ask her straight out. trust the second most important thing in a relationship, it seems you are questioning her loyalty to you. so ask her and then make a decision on what she has to say if you continue the relationship or not. good luck!!!!!!!
2007-11-06 00:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two can't communicate then your relationship is missing a big part of its foundation. No reason you can't ask her if there's someone else on her mind...just realize her answer may not comfort you.
2007-11-06 00:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this is bothering you...
talk to her about it.
if you let it pester up inside then it will get worse and you'll have unexpected trust issues.
talk to her.
i am a girl and i would want my bf to talk to me if he was having this idea.
but dont act like you are blaming her just say "are you feeling okay about us because i kind of feel as though you may be liking someone else."
if she reacts really badly and blames you then i would deff. say that she is having doubts about you guys.
2007-11-06 00:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋