Are inter-racial families so uncommon now-a-days that people have to stare?

Question

we have 10 children. we had 3 of our own and adopted 7. The 7 are of different nationalities than that of our own. Nahlia is from Kazakhstan, Carlos and Javier are Mexican, Maylin was born in America but is 100% Chinese, Akeyla and Reggie are African American, and Isabel was born in Spain. i love my kids, and when i look at them, i don't see 10 faces that look different, i just see 10 wonderful children, all alike in some way or another. i just don't see why when we go out as a family, we get more stares than the guy walking around in a clown suit on stilts. are inter-racial families so uncommon in todays time?

Answer 1

I actually hope not. I grew up in the 80's and i joke that Interracial relationship was my first big word I learned. My aunt married my uncle (who is black). They have 4 beautiful children together who I love so very much. I don't really care that my uncle is black and my cousins are mixed. I love them even if they were purple. My sister is a lesbian and her and my sister in law (her gf) now have a beautiful son of their own. I think love comes for all nationalities. I hope people arent rude to you and your treasures. Personally I like people. I love seeing different people and think about how their life might differ from mine. i hope i don't stare cause if I do I mean no offense. It's the psychology major in me. ;)

Answer 2

Ten children!! how do you manage? I'm sure that people aren't just staring at the race diversity in your family, I'm sure they are staring at the size of your family. It's not very common these days to see BIG families like yours, I know I would stare in disbelief (I wouldn't stare rudely). I think it's wonderful that your family is so big, you'll never be alone, I can only imagine how wonderful Christmas and other special holidays are in your household, and when they ALL have children, you are going to have a house blessed with son many grandchildren, those are going to be awesome family gatherings.
People will always stare, not just because of the amount of people walking behind you, but also because of the diversity of the race. I've seen couples where the woman is white and the man is black and they have a one baby, and I've noticed how people stare, it's just something that will always happen, some people can't accept or fully understand why people like to mix races, you just need to learn to block all those people out.
I personally think interracial families are great, I like to see mixed couple and their unique looking babies, it's awesome. Congratulations for having such a wonderful and BIG family, and also for having such a BIG heart full of love for all your 10 children. God bless you ALL!

Answer 3

Maybe they're staring at how beautiful all of your children are. Since you have 10 kids, they have to stare longer to get a good picture of each child.

I'm sure it's because you have 10, not because they're "different."

I get the stares too. My children have autism, and public fits are common.

You could always make little business cards explaining your family. Turn it into a positive. Every time someone stares, have one of the children give them a card explaining everyone's nationality, and how you came to have 10 children. I know I would read it, and be interested.

Answer 4

i dont think interracial families are as uncommon as they used to be. those people that stare i just write off as being undereducated, and unwilling to accept different cultures.
when you look at your family, im quite sure you say things like Carlos and Javier have dark hair, and dark eyes, Maylin has dark hair and almond eyes, and im quite sure the last thing you say is that they are from different parts of the world when describing them to people who havent seen them. (or maybe you do? i used to live in a place with many different cultures, and the last thing i would say when describing someone, like my roommate, who was korean, the last thing i would say is that she was korean. if you do, really enforce their cultures, teach them about it! they should know their heritage, even if you dont openly disclose it.) i think people are more suprised that you have such a large family, rather than an interracial one. today, large families are so hard to come by, that peole are shocked when they see a group of twelve coming down the street. im sure those bundles of joy keep you busy, and you wouldnt trade them for the world. meet those stares with a great big smile, and keep on walking. they do not need to be justified with anything more.

Answer 5

BRAVO! that you and your spouse have done this. Bravo to your children for being a great family. My Mom and Dad had twleve children. I remember being stared at a lot and was curious as to why. I got my answer in different ways. One man said after he found out we were all one family" God Bless you for having such a beautifil, loving and large family" Another said " What happened, couldn't afford birth control?" and one woman stated in a very humble manner to my Mom, after staring intently at us all "I wish I could have had at least one child, I can't bear any, but I enjoy watching yours"

Different people, different reasons. We recieved many compliments and few derogatory remarks over the years. But now that we all have children of our own and my parents are still alive and we all go out somewhere, we really get stared at!!!! We just enjoy the attention from the strangers and wave or smile. But mostly we focus on enjoying eachothers fellowship.

Answer 6

wow you are def. blessed with a pretty good size family. people are prolly just noticing the size. but they could also be amazed at the difference in it as well....its not uncommon at all to have an inter racial family, its just that most are like 2 races, and not 7. which is great. dont get me wrong. i think its absolutey amazing that you adopted these children and are giving them a home

Answer 7

It's because you have TEN kids lady!! why do people automatically assume the worst of everyone?It is odd to see a family of ten children-that's probably the main reason for the staring-they are in awe of your wonderfully huge family.Try not to be so down on folks all the time.Bless you for giving all those babies a home!

Answer 8

they may have been looking at the size of your family and not so much the different races. large families are very uncommen now. my mom has 5 kids and she often gets alot of stares and some comments about "overpopulation." i think mixed families are beautiful and you are doing a wonderful thing by adopting kids that need homes!

Answer 9

I agree w the first poster, theyu're probablly looking at the size of the family and wondering if you're babysitting or if those are all your kids.

Answer 10

Good work !!! Don't mind these people , they are only curious of what you have done and those are people who didn't have the courage to have big family like yours !!! Even Angelina Jolie did the same thing !