hw will i know if ma partner is cheating on me?

Answer 1

You will notice changes in their attitude and all around..

Answer 2

They spend less time with you; they nit pick your faults and according to them you never do anything right; always "working late"; getting over dressed to "hang out with friends"; they become more secretive with their activities; react in a hostile or defensive manner when you ask a simple question such as, "how was your day?" or "who was that on the phone?"; money becomes more of an issue than normal; they start accusing you of cheating on them; sometimes at the beginning of an affair the cheater will be pay a lot of attention to you but as the affair continues they ignore you.

Why they do it? They're not getting the attention they want at home; they are feeling old; they are thrill seekers; they are bored; they are afraid of getting too close to someone and this is a way of driving their partner away; a sick need to "test" the relationship and partner--that is, "if you really loved me, you wouldn't leave me over this."

If this is just a dating situation or a short term relationship, dump the person and move on to someone better, you don't need the drama. If this is a long term relationship, try to get the person into couples counseling to help decide if there is something missing in the relationship or if this is just the cheater's personal issue and also to see if this is a fixable situation.

Also, remember 3 things:
1. both parties have to want to make the relationship better for it to get better.
2. if you choose to forgive, really forgive and don't throw the affair back into the cheater's face everytime you have an arguement. If you can't do this, then the relationship is over.
3. just because you forgave once, doesn't mean you have to forgive repeat offenses. When something was only once or twice and is in the past and the action hasn't been repeated, then the person is truly sorry and has changed, but when they continue to cheat--it doesn't matter how many times they say they are sorry, they haven't changed and aren't going to change.