2007-11-05 23:36:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not alone! I've experienced the same thing with my three kids. I've come to the conclusion that they just don't know where to start or even HOW to organize in the first place. I finally helped them by working with them to get a system started. I bought different sized stackable plastic totes with covers, and labeled what goes in which. I made sure that there was a place for everything. Anything that he'd outgrown or no longer had an interest in, I gave it to Goodwill or someone else that could use it. I also use labeled totes for seasonal clothing, and rotate them as the seasons change. Winter out; summer in. When you get a system in place, using their help and input, they have a hard time finding an excuse for not keeping it clean. Use a reward chart with stickers to motivate him, or take away privileges if he doesn't stick to the system. It's really pretty easy once you get it established. Good luck!
2007-11-05 23:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most 9 year old boys don't make cleaning their room a priority. It's no where near as much fun as playing on the computer or playing games with his friends or watching TV or whatever else he may be into. Watch what he's interested in and see if you can make a game of it. Tailor the game along the lines of what his interests are. Get him involved so it will mean something to him.
In the grand scheme of things, how important is it that he keep his room clean and organized all the time? If you find you spend more time nagging him about cleaning his room than you do taking an interest in him as a person, let the cleaning go and get closer to your son.
2007-11-05 23:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any 9 year olds who keep their rooms clean and tidy -- i had two sons who didn't and neither did I at that age.
What you can do is make a day every week to help him.. just take an hour to help organize. Maybe each night before bed, have him take a few minutes to put some things away, so that it won't be a complete disaster by the weekend.
You can also reward him for helping in this way -- maybe start a small allowance?
take care.
2007-11-06 00:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start him out on the right track. Find a free day, a whole day because if you are really going to clean & organize it you need to really work at it. Get some Tupperware containers to keep seasonal clothes in. Go to Target and get some kids tub organizers. They are colorful and have lots of places to put things. Put everything in its place and let him help you. Once its done make it a nightly routine for him to clean up his floor, maybe a half hour before bedtime. This is also good because it will calm him down some and help him sleep instead of watching tv right until bed time.
2007-11-05 23:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to have that problem with my 11 yr old. Right now we have it that he can have it as messy as he wants but by Friday (he goes to his dad's for the weekends) before he leaves his room must be cleaned (mom-style which means until I say it's clean enough) or he can't go. That's that. There's been a few times he's refused so we stuck to our word. He didn't go. Allowing him a messy room during the week seems to give him some freedom and yet it does get cleaned every once in a while :-)
2016-05-28 02:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by cari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nine year old son needs to be TAUGHT how to clean and organize his room. He needs to know WHY keeping his room organized and clean is important. Give him guidance and encouragement when you see him attempting to do things as you think they should be done. Make him plan time each day to make his bed and pick up his clothing and just take a few things at a time so it is not overwhelming to him. Give him the attention he needs to succeed.
2007-11-06 00:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personely think you should either take everything out or I think you should clesn his room
you should make him pay you for you cleaning his room
eventaly he will not want to loose any money and if you do this every week or so then you should give a days worning so he has a chance to clean it
2007-11-05 23:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by bobble head 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give him no money or no respect or anything till he gets his room clean and eventually he will give in and actually clean his room but make sure he gets NOTHING!
2007-11-06 00:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list for him. And supervise.
2007-11-05 23:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋