Smacking your child: loving discipline or cruelty?

Question

As a last result and within the legal safeguard: Is it appropriate to spank a child for bad behaviour?

Is it simply correction?
Is it simply abuse?

(Roughly speaking) British law does allow for a mark to be left if it does not cause injury and done in an appropriate approach. It is illegal for the skin to be raised or for drawn-out marks to remain (at a guess anything over a few minutes).

Answer 1

Well i grew up with my parents smacking me. My dad even used belts, but that isn't illegal here. But then by doing this i learned about following authority and to be disciplined. I learned to resepect them. Just be sure to show your kids u still love them. Like my mom, she would always say sorry after doing this because she knows she has to even if she doesn't want to hurt me.

Answer 2

A spanking is loving discipline as long as:
1. It is given for a justified offense in order to teach good behavior.
2. It does not leave any bruises or marks, or cause injury.
3. It is no more sever than necessary given the circumstances and the age of the child.

Yes, it is appropriate to spank a child for bad behavior and it is not abuse unless it causes actual injury or leaves bruises.

Answer 3

I believe, spanking, on the bum, not leaving marks or making the child sore is ok. Spanking should be done as a last resort and not out of anger. It should be a calculated decision, not a backlash or a knee jerk reaction to misbehaviour. sometimes, time out doesnt work. Most of the time it does, but there has to be something for a child who wont stay in time out to fear. My daughter has been put in time out and most of the time just the threat of it stops the bad behaviour, but there are times when she goes in time out and defies me by trying to escape it. I then threaten with the spanking, if she keeps it up, she gets the spanking. I have only had to do this once.

Answer 4

I think it depends on how hard you smack them. I was spanked as a child, so I learned not to do certain things. But I'm guessing that it's different for every child. Some kids might be very sensitive to spanking, emotionally and physically, so it might traumatize them. In that case, parents need to take a different route in discipline.

Answer 5

i visit take 2 guesses here and say that: a) alot of the answerers on indexed under are under 30. I make an apology in case you at the instant are not. b) they are 'publicly' pointing out actually NO smacking of any sort, yet at times whilst their toddler is being very rude and misbehaving, i'm going to guess the farm the mother and dad are not calmly sitting them down chatting with them approximately it. rather in the time of those tug-of-conflict fits, or nasty movements on the neighbours, or in the direction of different little ones. i don't think the asker stated "Hitting" in any respect. that shows an entire selection of different sinister connotations. He in basic terms pronounced giving them a sturdy smack on the backside as quickly as in awhile. God help me, inspite of the certainty that i've got in no way openhandedly or otherwise, hit my toddler out of my very very own rage, or temper, or smacked them interior the face, - I do could admit - as quickly as in awhile, i think a mild smacking (yet making your element) is warranted. there's a recent the toddler learns then and later in life - admire, in case you do do it, (at times), and with a mixture of WHY you probably did it. Oh and that i trust the above woman/woman who's considered 'those young ones from H-E-double hockey sticks. i'm confident they have in no way experienced something than 'love'. Alot of robust it rather is doing them interior the long-term, can't wait until eventually they enhance up!

Answer 6

I think it's always okay to beat your child. It is the best way to teach them. I was whiped with the belt when I got in trouble when I was a little kid. There is a difference between simply snaking and abusing. When you get carried away, that's abuse. Or when you do it just for fun, or something like that, then you've crossed the line.

Answer 7

Cruelty? HA I live in the U.S.A and I must say kids these days suck yeah I said it! they are rude and mean for no good reason I was checking the mail once and A kid riding his by me just call me a Bit*ch! and he looked like he was ten! but you can't hit them Because the "smart ***" ones say "I'll call the cops for child abuse!" So I say Yell at them 1st and if you did a good job they will do as you ask, but if you got "one of those" kids then I say beat away, but not fists just a spank don't give them an inch!

Answer 8

And that's why all your kids are going to turn out to be spoiled little prince's and Princess's, because you dont beat them. Kid's these days are horrible punks, you can tell they're parents did a horrible job at raising them. I was beat as a kid, i was beat with belts, mom even smacked me once in the can, knocked my tooth out, punched me in the stomach once, and i came out fine.

I'm the most well behaved person you will meet. Is it out of fear of getting beat? Maybe so, but that only proves that it works. I wont go to that extreme when disciplining my kid, but hitting em a few times when they act up? Hell Yes, i'm all for it.

Answer 9

Depends upon how it is done and why it is done! Sometimes a swat to the bottom is a necessary thing. No you shouldn't pop them upside the head or beat them that is abuse but a swat to the bottom for extremely bad behavior never hurt anyone! Perhaps if more parents did that we wouldn't be over runned by kids who are so antisocial!

Answer 10

Quite often it shows a lack of control with the disciplarian....I don't have kids but I have 2 dogs and I'm sure disciplining them is pretty much the same as it will be for kids - usually I use my voice to convey emotions good, bad or indifferent - it's when I raise my hand to them to tap them on the nose or across the hind legs, it's when I've lost control of the situation and usually over-reacted. I would like to think I won't use the smacking method with kids but it's usually what your experience has been as a child that determines if you're a smacker or not. I was smacked on ocassion when I was a kid but it was never something that really stands out in my mind as being either extremely effective or extremely detrimental. I suppose it's the manner in which its delivered and the severity of it. Certainly a belt was never used and it was usually a brief and immediate response rather than the approach of 'wait til your father gets home' which I'm sure would have struck the fear of God into me. That is terribly cruel in my mind. I have to say the tone of voice and the very thought of what MIGHT happen as opposed to the actual occurence of it was what worked with me and my siblings. We respected our parents and loved them in equal measure and yet, slapping, as a disciplinary tactic wasn't a feature I would associate with them as parents. I would say therefore that it depends on the manner in which it is delivered but certainly it is a better (and more effective) thing to NOT slap as oppose to choose to slap as a standard punishment / disciplinarian approach.

Answer 11

correction when i'm baby sitting my little cousins(i'm 16) and they missd behave i smack them(not sore just enough so that they feel it that sends the message if you don't do as your told you will be punished! and if they continue i smack them again a bit harder till they relise it's in there best intrest to behave.
also never smack out of anger that isn't right. it will only make it worst, and leave them crying . once you've smacked the child if they appoligse saying there sorry accept the appology!
this alloows them to know that there no longer in trouble.