I need help with my feelings and life....?

Question

I recently discovered I have a mild form of depression, high anxiety & anger issues. Also a lot of insecurities & trust issues. I'm 25 & have gone through a lot of painful experiences & they've made me a bitter person. I feel so lost in life right now. I was going to college but dropped out because I realized a degree in business wasn't what I wanted, when I was so sure of it a year ago. There's been a lot of family drama going on that I feel partly responsible for even though I really am not (I live 4 hrs from my family). I fell in love but we broke up a month ago because I'd pick fights, didn't trust & believe in him or the relationship fully (we were together for a yr, but he had his faults too). I don't have many close friends that live near me. My support network of friends try to help with phone calls & e-mails, but what I really need is someone who cares to give me a hug. I work 3rd shift so getting out during the day for activities & a social life is difficult.

I started therapy a month ago, for many reasons. I'm messed up inside. I feel lost, heartbroken, depressed, lonely. My ex said he knows where I'm at mentally because he's been though this too. However, I can't help feeling resentful towards him for walking away & giving up on me, on us when I need him the most, & when I'm trying my best to change things about myself with the therapy. Therapy has been helping, but it's only been a month & I have so far to go before I feel better and become a better person. I'm not sure what my question is. I guess I just need to hear positive things from people at the lonely hr of 4am. Thank you.

Answer 1

counseling is a good place to start as an outlet to release the emotions you have inside also physical activity helps alot ie jogging rollerblading or walking outdoors. church is also good for inspiration and alot of times when when we have negative feelings inside they are a sign that we need to change something on the outside that we are doing .. think about what you really want out of life and if the things you are currently doing are leading you to fufill your goals and full potential. if they are not change your direction start doing things to fufull your purpose.. if your not sure what you want out of life.. go somewhere like a beach, park, or mountains and reflect for a while and just be alone with your hopes and dreams and all of the endless possibilities that are out there,, it seems that when we are working toward a goalsand making things happen to fufill our dreams you cant help but to feel good.. also find other positive people who share your interest to help inspire you . joining a group. or take a fun class where you can meet new people. take care :)

Answer 2

I'm 5 years younger than you but I still want to try to help you somehow.

It sounds like you are pessimistic. Just like the fact that you have friends helping you out but still tend not to appreciate them and ask for something more you want them to do.
Learn to count your blessings.

You might also be thinking too much of yourself only and focused only on your problems rather than the real things around you.
"Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced."
Take that as having the meaning of enjoying life no matter what (ofcourse to the ethical extent), and stop worrying about problems because you cannot do anything about them. It's reality.
You're thinking too much of the negative aspect and refuse to see the positive ones. It should be the other way around.

Emotions can really affect your health, career and social relationships and the only person who can help you with that is yourself.
Think positive with the future and don't let past heartaches and failures stop you from moving on.

Even the most compatible couples experience the worst love quarrels so just try to adapt in every phase of your relationship and think that love is all that matters. It's ok to feel pain but don't treasure it. Your husband is not a perfect person and you should not blame him, yourself nor anybody. Again, it's just reality.
Keeping heartaches to yourself will torture your mind. Express your feelings and let go of it. In the end, you'll be more comfortable with each other.

Stop talking about your complains coz it will just make things worse and you'll just be pushing your husband and others away. They already know what you feel so don't repeat the same conversations. Sometimes silence and physical communication can be the best way to connect and to have harmony.

Learn to appreciate and make that a natural feeling to do rather than making it as an obligation.
Relax your mind and your eyes and try to smile with your heart.

If you're a religious person, putting your problems to God will surely help you ease your pain.
Just pray and have faith in God.

Here's a good book to read that will help you to be optimistic:
Heaven is so Real!

Answer 3

well my dear fellow sufferer, i am a manic depressant person, i have had a dreadful childhood, but that ceased when this person died, a dreadful working life, that stopped when i left what i thought i wanted to do in life, worked with the elderly instead. as for family dramas if i was not there then i consider this none my fault i live 890yards from my mum, who while i was ill with depression thought she was my enemy, today after 3yrs therapy, she is my best friend, and she helps me all she can she is 81, relationship wise, well i guess i picked men, who i thought loved and cared for me, but like you walked away, you have to realise, that alot of people are afraid when people suddenly get illness that are invisible to see, which affects thoughts feelings, they walk away, they cant handle or help, they have not the knowledge, so when i am depressed i really cant handle a man who says i love you, i will help you, then when it comes to the crunch walk away, thats the last thing you need, your depleated enough, so i learn to love myself, accept that i shall be like this, and let my depression intergrate in my life, folk have to accept you as you are, i too need hugs, go to your closest work friend, you have you trust , take a big gulp, say " i feel awful this morning, give me a hug ", try it, then say thankyou i feel so better, just a little, but enough to face my working day good luck, sincerely hope you get better.

Answer 4

Well I myself at age 49 found that I had no real female in my life so I tryed a internet marage and was ripped off to the tune of 3000 dollers so do not feel so bad you have time I will sune be to old to realy be a fair father to any kids and after this year will likely stop looking

Answer 5

You are depressed person due to your b/f who has not proved trustworthy. He cheated upon and did sex with you whereas you were quite sincre with him. Under these circumstances you should come out of your shell and try to find out better and good relationships which may be everlasting and enjoying. You must try that the guy must be caring loving and educated so that you can live wit h peace and harmoney. Good Luck Do not loose heart

Answer 6

Hi Shannon,

So your 25, single, have nothing holding you at your current location except for your job?

Shannon, the world is your oyster and life is what you make it. You have NOTHING holding you back from going anywhere in the world and doing anything you ever dreamed to do.

Don't focus on the 'Why you can't' focus on the 'Why not'

Just do it.

You only live once.

Kevin ;)

Answer 7

Sounds like Bipolar Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder. Talk to your Doctor about it and find out what you can do to treat it. Good luck!