I have a one year old daughter who is constantly either saying mama or dada and trying to get our attention. When we are trying to have fun on the computer or just trying to watch tv while she is playing with toys she will automatically stop and try to bug us. I love her to death but it aggrevates me to death! She also gets into stuff that she knows she isnt suppose to to get attention and she cries alot at night. I dont know what to do about it so could someone please give me and my hubby advice?! Thanks.
2007-11-05 20:30:35 · 11 answers · asked by joeysgirl89 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hard to answer not knowing how much play time you and your hubby have with her. She's going to require that you spend time one on one with her and time together as a family. Socialization is hugely important and she can only get that interacting with others. That said, there are kids who are demanding beyond what's acceptable. I would say that at one year, it's pretty tough to explain that to her.
Tantrums, ahhh...good times, good times. Ignore her, period.
Let her kick and scream and hold her breath. If she has a tantrum in a store or in public, stop what you're doing and take her home. After that, leave her there with a sitter or your hubby the next few times you go and be sure to explain why. Most importantly, reaffirm that you love her but will not tolerate the behavior.
2007-11-05 21:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is screaming out for attention!!!
Turn off the computer/tv until she is asleep at least, and play with her! Take her outside, read a book, put music on and dance, anything and everything you do with her she will love and I guarantee the tantrums will stop! She wants her parents to be with her, not sitting ignoring her while they entertain themselves. She will stop getting into things if she is occupied as well. Obviously you are trying to get a child that has no capability of entertaining herself to do just that. She is one! what did you expect?
As for the sleeping at night, she is still vying for your attention then also, so if you show her love, attention and affection during the day, she will sleep better at night because she will be contented. Its not going to change overnight but if you spend more time with her and less time being selfish you will reap the rewards and so will she.
You only get one shot at being a parent, make the most of it.
2007-11-05 21:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We've always used the bottom step method. If your daughter is doing something wrong, then warn her nicely once to stop, and if she continues, put her on the bottom step for a minute. If she gets up, then gently put her back. You may have to stand next to her for the minute, but don't communicate with her, just stand there.
Also, your child is still young. If your child interupts your computer/tv time, then postpone your tv time until when she is in bed. When your daughter is up, play with her and give her attention. Let her know that that time is family time, and when she is in bed, it is adult time. Don't try to mix the two. Having a young child is all about compromise, and at this age, its the parents who have to compromise!
2007-11-05 20:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by zebrazoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering the fact that she isn't having tantrums at her Dad's, then it style of feels it rather is something she will administration. something that commonly worked with my 4 babies, and works extremely nicely with my 4 one million/2 one year. previous granddaughter, is to take the exciting away. while she starts off to throw a tantrum, we are saying, almost like have been happy, "Oh boy, a tantrum! Get available so i'm able to watch!" "Stomp your toes, bounce up and down!" "bypass forward, can not you yell any louder than that?" "Hit the floor which contain your fists." and so on. And no rely how no longer common that's, we smile each and all of the time. rather quickly it stops being exciting for her. Now while she starts off, all we might desire to do is start up our cheering squad, and she or he stops. What exciting is a tantrum if no one cares? It diffuses the placement plenty swifter than the rest we've attempted, and have faith me, we don't permit her wreck out with merely something. We use outing and status in the nook often, or maybe spankings while no longer the rest worked, yet those merely appeared to make tantrums worse, yet no longer being concerned and tense she carry out them while she have been given all started took the fervour out.
2017-01-05 00:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by kegerries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, your child is more important than tv and computer games. You really should start playing with her more. Its not going to hurt you. Instead of watching your show put something on you all can watch, if your on the computer go to seasme.com and play the games with her. They are only little once. Remember when she is a teenager she isnt going to want to spend time with you. Cherish her willingness to spend time with you. She is still just a baby. Also with the tantrums just ignore it and walk away. She is testing you. I dont know what else to tell you. I feel bad for your daughter.
2007-11-05 20:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and play WITH HER she is only young. Move all the things she should not touch and put out a nice selection of things she can, changing the selection regularly.
Why have children when you want to play on the computer?
Make sure she is warm clean comfortable and well fed at night. Establish a routine and calm her before you put her down - supper, bath, songs or nursery rhyme cd and a warm comfy bed to sleep in with a favourite teddy to cuddle.
2007-11-05 20:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by ann b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
welcome to mother hood...respect that when your daughter is awake your time is her time...if you know what i mean. She needs that attention and you will have to put off going on the computer and doing other things of leisure until she has a nap...that is what I do. She is saying mama and dada alot because it is what little one year olds do....and she is getting into stuff she shouldnt because she is to young to know any better regardless of what you might think.
2007-11-06 03:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Completely ignore them. Kids only do it to get the attention of others looking at them. As soon as she starts, tell her that thats bot how big kids act, then just walk away. My daughter did the same, i walked away from her, and she stopped like 3 seconds later.
2007-11-06 02:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, she wants attention! Give it to her, that is your job as a parent! She is only 1 and you should be including her in most things you do, from doing the shopping, cooking dinner and laundry. Watch tv when she is in bed, that is what most parents do.
2007-11-05 21:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kenny K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and she should eventually get the message that you aren't interested or have a 'naughty chair' or 'naughty corner' which is isolated and she is put there when she continually annoying you. I don't know where you live but I live in New Zealand and it's illegal to spank your kids here but if it's legal in your country then try that method instead.
It's all about rules and boundaries.
2007-11-05 20:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋