"You can't help who you fall in love with".. why is that so?
I've really fallen for this guy, but i don't want to, because i don't think he likes me back. But everytime i go out and stuff i keep comparing everyone to him, and can't stop thinking about him. We are in the same class, and I've tried flirting, like eyecontact and stuff.. and we do talk to eachother.. but he is flirty with every girl in the class, that's just him.. so i'm really confused. Do I dare to make the first move, or will I make a complete idiot of myself..
. I don't know what to do! Any help? How can I forget the guy I've liked for 2 years:S!?
2007-11-05 18:31:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've already made advances toward him to call attention to yourself. So, he is aware of you, knows you are there and hasn't shown any increased interest. I'd say the ball is in his court and it's his place to make a move. If I were you, I wouldn't go out of my way to catch his eye, .......leave it up to him to approach you. Be feminine; not aggressive. Don't try to force something to happen.
2007-11-05 18:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, I would like to share with you two important faces of love (though im not saying that there are only 2, that im not sure of) First is the emotional face, second is the willed face. THe emotional face is the face that gets you high and all that. This face is volatile as it can change rather quickly. This is the face that brings people to breaking up. Because love is not purely emotional. It is partly about emotion. But not all of it, there is also the willed part. A teacher of mine once said that love is in the will. Meaning you can love anyone so long as you will it. This i believe is true. Love is in the will. But the sparks of it is in the emotion. You feel in love, but the verb love is an action which is something you do. And something you do is always connected to the will. The quote you have there is about the emotional love. That's why you can't help it because it is in the realm of the feeling and not the will. That answers your quote. As for the bulk of your question, there is the classical and the modern approach. For the classical approach, you cannot make the first move, because you're a girl and guys are supposed to make a move. But I guess you would want to hear the modern approach. The only time you're going to be a complete idiot is when you don't try. (Unless you have a pretty good reason not to). Feel the wind. If it takes you there, then go. Don't force yourself. Relationships end up bad because of that. But if you don't make the move because of fear, then really, you're like a person who never learned to plug in the refrigerator because she was afraid of electric shock. The move is personal. You determine when you make the move. You don't need to ask the technical stuff like asking people for the right time, because you are the master of your decisions. No one else can feel better when to make the move than you. And if in the end you were wrong and it made you look like an idiot, don't fear, because at least you were strong enough to try. When something goes bad, it could lead to something good.. Don't let fear gobble you up. But remember, it's all your call..
2007-11-06 02:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would make a complete idiot of yourself.
He's just playing the field, boosting his ego, reveling in his good looks and popularity.
You're not really in love with him.
And besides, "love" has many different definitions, meanings, and people relate in a myriad different ways.
The Romero and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde both are either more or totally legendary stories, rather than real life situations.
In most of the non-western cultures, the parents choose who marries who. And believe you me, they don't have the number of divorces, mentally ill people nor drug addicts that this country does.
Most couples who stay married, I would speculate are couples who did not originally get married for love. They came to love each other, after their marriage.
If I were you, I would just forget him. Take a good look around, and try to find a boy who is honest, not stuck on himself, and has regard for the feelings of others. He doesn't have to be an Adonis, for you to like, and probably eventually care for.
Think about it.
And,
Good luck,
Wotan
2007-11-06 02:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Alberich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has been going on for 2 YEARS????? Angel my friend, its time to move on or just do someting!! I know people to have gotten married, have a kid and get a divorce in that amount of time. If you don't have any clue from him by now that he likes you....move on!!!
2007-11-06 02:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi this is shan, Yeh i have idea about that type of love, but i suggest u you must go towards that guy woh loves u a lot, as well as can never flirt with others... bcz when u married that guy he will always teasing u so much i think u know so much...... just simple solution of that problem u must control your self and remember that is short time love............ and after that as u wish dear........
2007-11-06 02:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is very very true ---- my lady is everything i was NOT looking for and yet there was an instant mutual attraction that i still cant really explain i just accept it gratefully ---- best wishes
2007-11-06 02:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. why not . I don't know how old you are , But it sounds like ' you best make the first move' ....(or)...... you will never know. right? of coruse!
2007-11-06 02:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by rrainn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him that much, you should tell him
2007-11-06 02:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by jtfunkymojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another guy
2007-11-06 02:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sebastian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell go for it.........or else never know.....
2007-11-06 02:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by mrliteman001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋