My family is all out of town
I broke up with my BF of 3 years a short while ago - and apparently he was out screwing someone he met at the State game this weekend. Its not making me feel too good about myself.
I only have a couple of freinds, one is going to be out of town, and the other is fighting cancer so I don't want to disturb him.
My best freind of 25 years got engaged a few months ago, and he stopped talking to me because it upset his fiance.
I'll be 35 when I wake up - and I'm not looking forward to it.
Anyone have any advice?
or even just anything you think might brighten my day?
Thanks all - Be well
2007-11-05 16:57:16 · 23 answers · asked by freshbliss 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Happy B day its my daughters too
2007-11-05 17:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
The best thing you can do is what I tell a lot of people. The past is gone. Today is a gift, and that is why we call it the "present". Don't keep thinking about your ex, and what he's doing with other people. That's his business, and the more you think about his personal life b/w other people, the more depressed you will get.
I advise you to take up some new activities. Join a salsa dance class, a belly-dancing class, a poetry reading/writing class, even a skiing class. Do something to get your mind off negative things and occurances..that's the enemy trying to bring you down.
Meet new people. Go out to the movies. Have girls night out, or watch a movie at your house and let everyone bring a dish.
Life is too short. Make something of it. Try new things. Spice up your life. Add some flavor to it. Don't be afraid to experiment. Adventure is the essence of spiritual and physical well-being, individuality, and equality.
2007-11-06 01:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Thalia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday!
Don't let those things get you down. Just think that now that you have broken up, you get to go chasing some one else! You are free and available! Don't worry about him anymore.
You need to get out and have some fun. Go to a party! Let your hair down and have a good time. Even do something more active. like go for a jog or go bowling ( I love bowling)
Even treat yourself and go down to the beauty place and give yourself a new look and go and buy yourself a new out fit (only one, that way you don't spend too much money)...
Retail therapy girl.
I know that this will sound weird but I feel as though I want to be there to help you get through this... I can't because I don't know you...But I hope this helps...Just do something that gets your mind of that loser and do something else. Have a nice long soak in the bath. Treat yourself and try to have a wonderful birthday.
god bless.
2007-11-06 01:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday! There's not much advice I can give you considering the fact that I'm only 17 but as hard is it is to believe, I was in a really serious and abusive relationship and I even though I'm young, I know how it feels to have your heart broken. Your ex is an idiot and in all honestly, so is your best friend. All you can do though, is make the best out of your day and think about the positive aspects instead of the negative ones and try you're best not to dwell on the past and move forward in your life because that's all you can do. :)
2007-11-06 01:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
Sounds like you're in a rough spot right now, but logically you know it's only temporary. It doesn't feel that way for sure, but it will get better. There is someone wonderful out there for you. I know it's cliche but they always seem to show up when you stop looking and least expect it, you know?
If it helps, you seem really sincere ... I don't know you at all and I already like that about you.
Anyways, have a good night. And I bet your friend with the cancer could use your company or a call real soon. Who knows, maybe you're in this place right now so you can kinda be there for him when he really needs it?
2007-11-06 01:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey look on the bright side -- i am still older than you! yeah, i ain't going to lie -- getting old sucks!!
however, look at the positives here... you found out in good time that your BF was a loser -- so now you can continue on with the rest of your life and meet a NICE guy sometime soon when you are ready. it usually happens when you least expect it.
i advise making a list (i love lists) like perhaps things you want to accomplish in the next... week, few months, year. use this at YOU time. join a book club, get out and make new friends. send a nice card to your sick friend. get active in your church (if that's your thing) or a social club or something. do something that you are afraid of doing. if you are wild -- go skydiving. or take some sort of self improvement class. do stuff that will make YOU feel good about YOU.
2007-11-06 01:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Curious_One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday. =) Tomorrow will be another bright start for you. You should make new friends and 3 years? Wow. I'm thinking that maybe you should start looking for someone new. The world is filled with things for you to do, and believe me, most of them require no accompaniment. But who knows, you might meet some new people on the way!
2007-11-06 01:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Galadriel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday! If you like flowers, go out and buy you some! Treat yourself.. You've had a hard time...
When you wake up, feel fortunate you did..
This always kicks me in the behind...
I cried because I had no shoes..
Until I saw a man who had no feet...
Take someone less fortunate out to lunch...
Or take those flowers to an old folks home, you'll brighten many faces, which in turn will brighten yours...
2007-11-06 01:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Zani WM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday :) When you wake up tomorrow and your 35 you have a fresh start on things. Go forward and make it a good year :)
2007-11-06 01:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by lvthebeach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about everything that has happened to you. It's unfortunate but you just have to stay strong. Keep your head up and keep looking for what you want in your life. You are not near old yet, you have a lot of life to live. Enjoy your day for you. Happy Birthday
2007-11-06 01:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Britt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheer Up! Be happy that you have made it through some emotionally difficult situations. Do something special for yourself, or better yet...do something special for someone else.It will make you feel better. Sincerely, have a very happy birthday & many more :)
2007-11-06 01:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋