My eighteen year old brother has know for years that he would have to find his own place once he reached the age of eighteen. I always thought that was fine since I moved out when I was eighteen and became more self-sufficient, responsible and independent for it. Unfortunately, he isn't like that. He asked me if he could live with me and I told him that if he did it would be because there was something he wanted to accomplish that would best be done in this city. So far, he's hardly done anything but watch tv. He doesn't want to go to school (he dropped out of high school a few times) and it seems like he's trying to not find a job. I don't care whether he studies and works part-time or works full time, but I don't want to have to support him when I'm going to school full time and working.
2007-11-05 16:48:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Look on your calendar give him a deadline where he is suppose to have a job say like 2 or 3 months. Tell him if you don't have a job by this date you have to go you love him but you're not his mother.
2007-11-05 16:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kinda harsh that your parents kicked him out. Not everyone knows what they want to do right out of high school. If you knew you wanted to go to college then u are lucky. He may just have a hard time picking a path. I would talk to him, and set some ground rules. He has to get a job and help out. But everyone needs the help of their family. Im sure he would do the same for you.
2007-11-05 16:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Filthy Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him a time limit. 90 days to get a job and start helping to pay for the bills, or else he's out. It's not fair to have to take care of him and yourself.
And when 90 days comes, if he still doesn't have a job lined up, make sure you follow through. Otherwise you're doomed!
2007-11-05 16:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to draw the line. Make a deal for him. If he won't do anything productive then he might as well find another place to live in. You have every right to kick him out since it's your place and even if he is your brother, he's still doing nothing to help himself.
2007-11-05 16:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Galadriel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree... you need to draw the line.
Sit your brother down for a frank discussion and lay down the law... he must either work, or work AND go to school, but you are NOT someone he can mooch off of indefinitely.
You are not his mama!
Tell him he has to get out and find a job, and his share of the rent is $___ and his share of the utilities is $____, and you expect to be receiving half of his first paycheck.
Give him a do-or-die deadline... to get employed or get out.
Watch his movements carefully and get ready to change the locks and leave his stuff out on the front stoop.
2007-11-05 17:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably smoking pot...and happy bludging because people enable him..like yourself. by letting him stay there without either going to school or working, he feels that so long as he is getting away with it why bother changing.. U need to force this change by laying down the law. tell him so stop his crap or you will boot his *** to the highway.. i know cause i used to be just like him..he will either pull his socks up and start working or leave your house and mooch off whoever comes along next.. good luck i hope you make the right choice
2007-11-05 17:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay down the law. Let him know that he is staying with you and not a baby sitter. Tell him he has has a certain amount of time to become a certain way, and if he doesn't he's out of there.
2007-11-05 16:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by laksha_ward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a date that he has to find a job by and if he doesn't stick to that date with you, kick him out. If he doesn't act like he's going to leave, grab up all his stuff and dump it outside.
2007-11-05 17:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by ling L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really wants to help him than don't encourage him to live with u,unless he jumps in water he can not learn how to swim,let him learn his own lesions.
2007-11-05 18:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's ya brother, tell him in a polite way, be nice
2007-11-05 16:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋