is my boyfriend too old for me?

Question

im 15 years old and my boyfriends 20 , many people have a majour problem with that i do understand where there coming from..but its my descion..hes the oldest guy ive been with but he seems to understand me more than anyone..our realationships perfect but somtimes i feel as if he moves to quick like when he tells me he wnats to have babys with me and marry me and spend the rest of his life with me..it kinda scares me sometimes as much as i love him..i think hes moving too quick but maybe its just because im too young...i dont wanna leave him but i dont know how to tell him hes kinda making me feel scared just beacuse ive never had a guy say half the things he says too me , hes the biggest sweetheart..and i wanna tell him that hes moving too quick and that i might not beable to do this for much longer but i dont really know how to tell him...someone please help:(

Answer 1

Babygirl you can't even spell your words right. Why in the world would you be thinking of having a boyfriend at 15 and he is 20?????????? Get your mind right and think about hitting you school books. You will have time after you graduate to think about boys. He is 20 years old. Are there not any woman his age for him to date? You should leave him alone he only wants one thing...........DON'T GIVE UP YOU COOKIE TO HIM. TELL HIM TO GO FIND ANOTHER COOKIE TO GRAB. Where are your parents? Do they approve of this relationship?

Answer 2

Just tell him that you want to wait until you are at least 18 before anything romantic and that once he turns 21 and can hit the bars he may change his mind, and he may. the fact that he is telling you these things now may even mean that he is into girls your age and perhaps he will not want you when you grow older. He may be nice but so are many pedophiles who are only into girls your age. Only time will tell that. The last thing in the world you need is to have a baby for at least another 5 years and if you want to go to college perhaps even longer. The fact he understand you so much better means also that he is more able to get you to agree to things perhaps that someone else might not. It is good that you are feeling a little scared and you should pay attention to that because while you say you love him and I am sure you do, but the love of a 15 year old is more a process of learning how to love than love itself and anyone who fell in love at 15 and still loved the same person 4 or 5 years later is very rare. If he is willing to wait that 4 or 5 years he may be worth it but if not, you will find the right person in time and the love will be far stronger.
You also have to see what happens when he gets old enough to spend his time in bars, whether he does and how he acts when he drinks, whether he tries to pick up girls in those bars, and many other things that neither of you really know at this time. If he really loves you he will not rush you and will wait but if not, he was just a learning experience and a stepping stone to when you find the love that lasts for a lot longer. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but there's only one reason a 20-year-old man dates a 15-year-old girl, & it's in your panties. Hopefully, you haven't already made the mistake of letting him get that far, because in most states & many countries, he will have committed statutory rape. That being the case, you better pray you don't end up pregnant, because your parents will find out, & chances are they will press charges on him & have him sent to prison, & there isn't really a thing you can do about it. At your age, except in rare instances, the courts say you aren't old enough to determine if you want sex, so your parents can file statutory rape charges on him, & even if you try to tell the judge you consented, you'll be told you don't have the right to consent yet & he's going to jail anyway. If you care about this guy at all, I would recommend you dump him, because if you're sneaking around with him behind your parents' back, jail may be the least of his worries. I know if I had a 15-year-old daughter & found out some 20-year-old man was taking advantage of her, he would be getting a 12-gauge enema before I was done with him, & that would be after I castrated the S.O.B. So, dumping the guy might keep your father out of prison, too.

Answer 4

Ok tell him to slow down. You're not comfortabel with moving this fast. There is the same age difference between me and my fiancee. I'm the younger o the too. I think that yes it is your decision and your parents since your only 15. But the thing is that as long he's good to you and you love him or like him then it's ok. Don't listen to these people. I was 17 when I stared dating my guy and everyone told me that because he was older he was . . .perverted, he wanted to get me in bed, he was going to take advantage of me, etc. I'm glad I didn't listen or I wouldn't be engaged to him! The thing is that you know him. You know how you feel about him. It always scared me to death when I started feeling all these new things for him. And he wanted so much from me, which all it was to be open (but I was a very very private person so it was hard for me). Tell him that "I just want to take it a little bit at a time. I'm not thinking about kids right now ____(his name)____ I'm not thinking about marriage. I'm glad you feel these things. But right now I just want to take it as is" He'll understand. I've got so much to say to you about your situation but I feel like you're going to get tired of reading only my answer. Anyway thought If you need someone to talk to you can e-mail me anytime at [e-mail] or through my profile page. GOOD LUCK and I really do hope to hear from you.

Answer 5

This may sound cynical, and may not be the case, but make sure that he's not with you just because he feels that you are nieve and perhaps easier to take advantage of. I'm not saying this for certain, but be careful. I think that since you are young, it's probably best not even to have a boyfriend. Serious boyfriends are for college. While you're in high school, have fun and date around with lots of different people.

Answer 6

When he says that he cant wait to have babies with you and marry you, that just means that he wants to get in your pants. NOTHING MORE. He probably isnt interested in marrying you and spending the rest of his life with you. He probably just wants to have sex with you and then leave you with the kid and you wouldnt want that.


I'm sorry, but I think its better for you and the rest of your life if you broke up with him. You will find another guy as sweet as him but isnt in a hurry like him (last i heard, the male to female ratio is 3 to 1 so you got plenty of guys your age to choose from) Dont worry so much about relationships now. Focus more on school. Do the relationship thing in college because by then, those college guys (those guys that are currently your age right now) would probably be much more mature (hopefully) and then you can choose from them. There probably is a nice guy that is sweeter than your current boyfriend that you just havent met yet (and he is closer to your age or around your age) and you might just meet him in college.

I'm just saying that you got an entire life ahead of you and your truly perfect guy (your husband) may just be in the life that is wating for you ahead. Tell your current boyfriend to slow down and wait until your at least 18 to have sex (and use protection because of college) If he doesnt want to wait and slow down, then it just proves that he only wants to have sex with you and he isnt interested in marrying you and spending the rest of his life with you.

Answer 7

Yeah, he's too old for you.

But it's not just age, it is where you are in your lives right now. You're going to grow a lot emotionally in the next few years, and if you have a guy around, he should be growing with you. That means finding someone near your own age.

There will be other guys who will treat you nicely and say sweet things, I promise. Don't let the first guy to sweep you off your feet take advantage of you. Let yourself be yourself, and grow at your own pace.

Answer 8

Hi.
You should be away from this guy for he is too old for you.
You aren't even 18 yet, its best for you to be away from this guy before things get worse.
How can you tell this guy about you being scared isn't by words just don't answer his calls or start ignoring him act as if your upset.
As you grow you will understand what this means.
Till then take the advise and best of luck.

Answer 9

I would be careful with this one. If he isn't pressuring you for sex then I thinks ok but only if he's willing to wait for you until you're 18 before having sex with you then I say why not. But if he's pressuring you into doing that then he isn't worth your time or your innocence, that is if you're still a virgin. He could turn out to be the man you're meant to marry only if he's respectful to you and your wishes of waiting. So just make sure he's not pressuring you into something you may not be truly ready for.

Answer 10

Sounds like he's trying to get you in bed. For him dating a 15 year old he HAS to be mentally immature. Trust me honey you want to date someone your age. Find a high school sweetheart.