Help me with my cousin's drug addiction!?

Question

I have a cousin who is 19 years old that needs help. Ive seen him grow up, in fact he is the only cousin I can remember almost everything he did as a child. I can remeber as far back as the delivery and what complications his mom went threw to give him life.Now he could loose his life from drugs! He was such a good kid! What happened to him? Why would he choose this life? I heard he was on meth and he is quit violent at times. what is there to do? Any help please?

Answer 1

Do you belive in GOD ?
If yes, Then Call HIM. Ask HIM to HELP your cousin.

If not, Go to different doctors, organisations, search website
and help him personally directly or indirectly

Answer 2

It's sad. It makes you mad for a while, then you think back over the years, with tears running down both sides. It's a matter of dissapointment, anger, and fear. I'm dealing with a cousin the same way. He's not Kevin anymore, drugs have claimed his body. He's addicted to crack cocaine and god only knows what else, probably heroin. Then I have a nephew going the same direction. My cousin though, "guys" have been after him many of times over "bad" deals. We know we're going to find him one day and it's not going to be good. He's divorced as a result, daughter got married a few months ago and she had her step-dad walk her down the aisle instead of him! Yes, it was dirty, but he was never there for her growing up and the step father was, so whattya expect? His whole life, shot. He's lost his teeth, he's bald, nightmare, when he used to be the guy all the girls wanted! I feel for you, but I totally understand what your saying. There's nothing much you can do if they dont want to get better, and that's exactly what addiction is, it's a serious illness, only they control it with they're brains. If they don;t want to stop, then they won't, no matter what. Stopping is something they have to make themselves want. At 19, try committment into a facility first, strict inpatient for SEVERAL months, not just 2 months and out. Mental Health in many areas will help with the payment, check around. Good luck though, and I really mean it. Take care.

Answer 3

It's commendable that you want to help your cousin. But you need to understand a meth freak isn't a normal human. They are only concerned with staying up. I say this from experience, I was hooked on meth for 15 years. I've been clean for slightly longer. No one could have helped me, I had to do it on my own. When you're hooked on meth, it messes with your mind. You get paranoid that people that are actually trying to help you are against you. Your emotions are out of control, you can be elated, depressed, paranoid, and violently angry all within a 24 hour period. Unless you have a group of people ready to go in a physically restrain him, kidnap him and get him to a rehab center that he can't escape from, don't bother. After nearly 20 years of not using crystal, still to this moment I don't know if I could resist if someone offered me some. It's that strong of a drug. That's another dilemma of the drug. I had to change my lifestyle, change my friends to keep away from it.

If you want to help him, try to talk to him. If you're lucky he may not be too far gone and you can reach him. Good luck. Sincerely, good luck.

Answer 4

Meth is the devil's drug. It is VERY tough to kick the drug and it is awful for you. There isn't one natural ingredient in the drug, unlike heroin, marijuana, cocaine. Meth is 100% poison.

You can tell your cousin that you care for him. You can tell him that he needs to quit and you'll help support him by being there for him. Even though he is 19, talk with his parents. Don't hide the fact that he his a drug addict. Don't allow anyone to support his habit by giving him a place to stay, giving him money, or anything. Tweakers need to hit rock bottom. The only way a meth user will stop using the drug is if they really want to stop. There is nothing else you can do but give him someone to talk to while sobering up and staying clean. Good Luck to you and your cousin.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I am so sorry about this. Having been through this with an addict brother, I have some insight.

Ultimately, it is up to your cousin himself to decide whether his addiction is a problem and whether he needs help, so that alone will determine whether any treatment will take.

Your cousin's parents need to step up and haul the kid into some kind of treatment facility. At the very least it will give everyone a chance to stop and think about things.

If he gets out and continues to choose the drugs, your cousin's parents need to consider taking some measures to protect themselves against any of his drug-induced tirades and other behaviors. They need to put a deadbolt lock on their bedroom door. They should also reinforce one of their bedroom closets and deadbolt that in order to turn it into a safe... to store anything he might be interested in... prescription drugs, firearms, jewelry, etc.

They should also consider getting a tazer in case he gets violent and starts tearing up the place... talk to the police.

They can expect to kick him out of the house multiple times before anything seeps through to his tiny brain. They are in for one heck of a roller-coaster ride.
YOU CANNOT TRUST AN ADDICT.

Answer 7

You could try an intervention where you get together all of his close friends and family members to tell him how much you love him and how you don't want him to die. You can also try to get him to go into rehab. Unfortunately, in the end there is not a whole lot you can do. The best thing you can do is be supportive of his recovery if you can convince him to go into rehab, and not do anything to promote his drug use.

As to why? It's hard to say. There's lots of reasons ranging from something as dumb as peer pressure, to possibly he went through something traumatic that you don't know about, and is using drugs to try to cover up his pain.

Answer 8

I am acutally the same age as your cousin and am now 6 months clean and sober. Now I do have to start of by telling you that just telling him to stop will not work, but you most likely already know that. What you have to do is remind him of you he used to be, tell him of how his addiction effects you and everybody that knew him before he had this addiction. It is difficult for addicts to realize the emotion stress they put on other because they get so consumed by their own need for whatever vice they have. It is a tough road and in the end it is a decision he has to make for himself but, believe me, it is good for somebody to help you along the way. I hope I may have helped you in some small way and good luck.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, there's not too much you can do. He is at that rebelious age and nobody can change him but himself. He's got to realize that there is a problem and want help. Sometimes it takes something major to make them want to change. For me,it was getting pregnant at 20, and when i found out, i quit cold turkey. My brother was on heroin and overdosed 4 times, but what changed him was finding his soul mate and adoring and wanting to be the best he could be for her and her daughter. Everyone is different. Intervention with a court order, love and prayer are all I can think of for this situation. Good luck and never give up.

Answer 10

Intervention, also you can get him arrested (though I think that is the worst option because jails do not help ANYBODY!). I'd consult his parents and talk to counselors in his area and look for treatment centers. But sadly, he's going to have to want to quit in order for anything to wok.

I'd also find some kind of grief counseling for you and the other family members because often times the family knows there is no one solid answer and in an attempt to avoid dealing with their own grief about the situation they try to fix the person who doesn't want to or isn't ready to be fixed.

Answer 11

In all honesty, most people on drugs don't learn their lesson the easy way. My parents didn't learn theirs until they got busted for selling and making meth. Then my dad was sent to prison/jail. He is back home, but we think he started again, despite his chance of going back to prison.

Same with my little sister. She isn't on meth (that I know of) but she is on other drugs. She never learned her lesson although she knows the crap my parents went though.

What you could do is have some kind of an intervention with your whole family, his friends, and people who care about him. The intervention might help, but then again it may not. We had one for my mom before she got busted and she said that everyone was just f***ed up and left the house.

Why he did it? Who knows.. from what I hear it is highly addicting, and you can be hooked for just doing drugs like meth once.

If you ever need anyone to talk to about it feel free to message me, I know how much it sucks to have family members on drugs. I feel like I am the only normal one in my family..