My husband and I have been married 16 years.
We have five beautiful children.
How can i tell him that NONE of the kids are his?
I have to tell him now.
He thinks they are all his kids.
2007-11-05 16:39:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they all have different fathers
2007-11-05 16:49:00 · update #1
gosh neither of the 5 kids.. what u been upto woman ??????{}
2007-11-05 16:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by who ?? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is more important that the children should know about their parentage for future or present medical reasons.
Better not to tell the husband unless he absolutely must know and how can you be sure none of them are really his. Is he infertile??? If you think you are going to tell him just to ease your guilt then that isn't fair. I'd be inclined to go with the idea "ignorance is bliss" He is probably proud of "his" kids and just think of how that sort of confession will make him feel. Hope you know how to contact the real fathers down the line???? Hope you are not now thinking to "spill" because you are annoyed with him and want to hurt him. That would be so selfish.
2007-11-06 01:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by veraswanee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to tell him the truth now, which you've kept for sooooooo long? I don't know what to say but as you said, your husband believes that all kids are HIS, then so be it. You must bear the guilt for your life time and do not even think about spilling the beans. It was you sleeping around before and it is not fair for your kids to be suffered between you and your husband. Don't forget about their father is your husband.
2007-11-06 01:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Save me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Mahabharata, Draupadi was having different children from different God. But in her case her husband was not well and died after somtime. Even then she hided about Karna, son of SUN GOD because he was born before marraige. After Marriage she had five sons and all have different fathers.
So that was Mahabharata this is Kaliyug. If you only know the truth then it is better not to tell. Because live is going smoothly and forget the old mishappenings and give your full attention in GOD.
2007-11-06 00:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Prince 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to totally destroy this man...tell him..wow you are something else.
Are we to understand that you had a number of affairs with other men while you are married to this man that have resulted in children?
You need to see a counsellor and find a way to deal with this! I've heard some weird ones..but this takes the cake.
2007-11-06 01:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Yner 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All the kids are his, maybe not biological but he's their father. There's no easy way to tell him but I will suggest you tell him when you're guys are alone. And just be honest and don't hold anything back this way he can deal with everything up front.
2007-11-06 01:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to suspect you are lying.. there is no reason to tell him
if true you are a pathetic human being... making a man pay for somebody elses kids.. using him for his money and sleeping around..
plus 5 kids is just selfish and irresponsible in this day and age.. over 6.5 BILLION people and growing - shame on you...
2007-11-06 00:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by MandB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You gotta be making this up! That is insane!
Either the guy is plain dumb, or he chooses to overlook the fact that they probably don't look like him... making the best of a bad situation.
Maybe he is sterile and still wants a family?
Why tell him now? If it comes to divorce, he can demand DNA testing and would be off the hook for child support.
2007-11-06 01:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, what a heart breaker you are, why did you wait so long?
How did you carry that guilt?
Well you must be honest with him now and hope that he can forgive you, I'm sure he loves the children, so that will help, but I wouldn't expect to much sympathy if I were you.
2007-11-06 00:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by okimreadynow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good lord. Start with "I want a divorce" as you obviously don't want to be married to him anymore...seems you never did. Moving on from that will be tricky, but this is something that should've been told to him at baby # ONE, not now after FIVE.
2007-11-06 00:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by amyguesswhat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? Well, what is the point to tell him now? I wouldn't even break his heart like that after so long unless it was absolutely necessary. If it is just take him somewhere ALONE and explain what really happened with no lies involved and tell him how you REALLY feel NOW!!
2007-11-06 00:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by brinab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋