I'm tired of crappy relationships, I'm in school, I work and I am a fun and pretty girl from what I've been told. I've completely put my heart out once and got my heart crushed. All guys want now seems to be is sex and I want a relationship...Is that impossible to find?
2007-11-05 15:48:49 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 18 and i feel that way...good luck!!!
2007-11-05 15:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by tkin1507 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys really do want is sex, especially if they are too young to marry and start a family.
You'd be just another stepping-stone.
Now, either you accept this fact and try to enjoy yourself physically at least, killing your heart and putting it on the shelf,
OR,
Maybe you can find emotional fulfilment through physical contact, without expecting commitment,
OR,
You know it is your body he wants? Good.
You know it is your heart you want to give? Good.
Now don't give him your body until he accepts and respects your heart.
No matter how many years it takes.
He wants something, he has to give in return.
Who the hell is he, playing you for a fool like this?
You are a human being, and it is your natural right to preserve your own dignity.
If you do not accept this fact, then carry on with what you are doing, and keep getting your heart crushed until:
- You turn into a cold-hearted b----, using men for whatever you can get
- End up as a dry, disappointed spinster
- You learn -the hard way- not to give yourself away so easily before you earn the respect of your partner-to-be.
If he does not respect you for who you are, and takes you for meat, then do NOT have anything to with him to begin with, unless you take him for meat, and use him and be used by him as such.
If your heart cannot take it, do not sell your pride for a lost hope.
Be strong, girl.
2007-11-05 15:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by aetheru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from the guys you having been dating they are obviously not the right ones. Then talk to a trusted friend or relative about your past choices and try to isolate the good a positive values you really want in your next relationship.
Now dont settle for less than these values when meeting new potential boyfriends. More important, until they have been only friends long enough for you to know if they are worthy of the next level, dont move on...ie no sex!
As you said you are smart, pretty and fun why would you settle for less than the best boyfriend out there??
Good luck!!
2007-11-05 15:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodluck. Guys these days won't change- they want sex and there's nothing we can do about it.
If you're dressed like someone looking for sex, you're going to get people interested in sex. If you dress like you want a commitment, people will treat you with that respect. All guys will be attracted to you at once by how you look, but eventually they will get to know you and love you for who you are.
I'm tired of crappy relationships too. I gave my heart away and all he did was throw it back in my face- nearly three years later. I felt like I was going to die after that, but I didn't. You'll make it through, and you'll eventually find the 'one.'
And if not, you always have girls (just kidding XP).
2007-11-05 15:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jeri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That's not impossible to find. You're only 21. Unfortunately, there's a lot of worthless garbage floating around, both male and female. You just gotta hang tough and hold on til the right one comes along. And most importantly, respect yourself (If you know what I mean). I'm a 23 yr old male and even I get increasingly disgusted by the overwhelming number of sluts whoring around. Don't be one of them. Good Luck.
2007-11-05 15:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by stratostix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to wind up in a good relationship is to not try to be in a relationship. If you are the best you can be in your daily life - friendly, honest, helpful, loving - you will have your pick of good men without even trying. As you point out, you're only 21 - odds are that you have another 55-60 good years ahead of you - what's your hurry? Sow the seeds of the crop you want to come up. Be patient. Enjoy life as it comes.
2007-11-05 16:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya its possible, just don't spend all of your time looking for a man. Just wait long enough and the right man will come to you. I hate how perverted other guys have become, I love my girlfriend for who she is, not for what she could give me. We have both agreed that we will wait to have sex when we are married whether or not we are still together by then. If any man ever tells you that he wants sex before marriage, then it probably isn't worth it. Just tell your next boyfriend that you are going to wait for marriage before you have sex again, if he agrees, then you will know he will want a true relationship.
2007-11-05 15:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for a relationship, and focus on making yourself a happy and well-rounded person. Only then will some decent guy (who also wants a meaningful relationship) notice you.
On the other hand, you could wait another 20 years before you follow the above advice, and just be miserable.
2007-11-05 15:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by teaser0311 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry not all guys r like that. U just have to find the right guy for u! And when u do he will wait for u if u r ready for sex or is still in the relationship stage. Good luck finding ur one true love!@,@
2007-11-05 15:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break. At 21 I'm sure you'll date again. People get stuck in a rut and date the same type of person. Change it up a bit.
2007-11-05 15:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by ezwill29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Linds ... chances are you're going to get your heart broken again ... life's like that ... maybe you need to try a different "meeting" place to meet some of the nice guys out there ... yeah yeah I know ... some say that's a myth ... there are no nice guys ... you'll find one ... you just gotta be patient :)
Good Luck
2007-11-05 15:53:23 · answer #11 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋