Me and my guy just made love for the first time a few weeks ago.. Eversince then, he has been very happy and acts even more loving to me. I know its awful but I feel a little resentful to him. I know that I wanted to do it too but I kind of regret it. I love him very much and can't see myself without him but I feel like I let myself down. I always promised myself that I would wait for marraige.......So now I feel like a complete failure. I can't help but look at him and think he's the cause of it all..........although I KNOW that is unfair to him. Am I a jerk for feeling this way? What can I do to stop feeling these regrets :-( Please save any RUDE comments.
2007-11-05 15:30:54 · 7 answers · asked by Lonely Love 06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i wouldnt know about saving it till marriage but maybe i can help. Im all for waiting till marriage to have sex but thats not for me. I think you should be happy that you had your first time with someone who really cares about you. At least u were in love when you lost your virginity and the person loved u back, what more could u ask for.
U didnt have a one night stand, u didnt get drunk and hook up with the first guy u seen. i know how important waiting is... my biggest fear isnt that i'll make a mistake and choose the wrong person, a person who really doesnt give a damn and are just in it for the pleasure. U found someone that cares about u and respects u. He didnt dump u right after, something is keeping with u and that something is love. and thats what making love is all about. U had that so there should be no reason to regret a thing.
but if this still doesnt help you you can always talk to your bf about it. about how u really wanted to wait for it but be CAREFUL... in the way u word it because u could hurt him and make him feel rejected. he might think that you dont want him. i hope this helps and just know, for the first time everyone wants you two have. u dont need a ring to tell you that you love someone...
2007-11-05 15:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jukebox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are very natural, and a very common reaction. As long as you are feeling regrets, what you actually need to stop is anything that may lead to more regrets. You do not mention an age, but if you are very young be ever so careful to protect your physical and emotional well-being. Never ignore your gut feelings or your inner core when it is talking to you. A solid test to your relationship will be if you feel comfortable talking openly to your boyfriend about your feelings. If he is someone worthy of the gift you just gave him, he better be someone you could tell your innermost feelings to... and those feelings be respected and appreciated. He better also be someone who is understanding and compassionate once he's told of your mixed emotions and reservations. However, do not beat yourself up about something you cannot take back. Ten million women ahead of you in line can tell you that's a waste of time.
2007-11-05 15:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's is the one time a jerk regrets being a jerk whilst they are historic and on my own. I've obvious it and heard it from male household contributors. Men must darn close hit rock backside at the social scale to remorse being @ssholes.
2016-09-05 11:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. there's nothing you can do to change what's done, but what you can do is work on your future right? Take some time off, think about what you really want, and more importantly, what God would want for your life. You may feel like a complete failure, but remember--God loves you, He's got good plans for you, and He never gives up on you! Just ask Him for forgiveness, and guidance on what's next for you. Take heart sister. God bless you. :)
2007-11-05 15:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by liberty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, girls can't be jerks, they be...what's the word
no, i don't think you are a jerk.
2007-11-05 15:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah. gee, it may be natural in a way to feel that way. don't be like that. if you truely love him and he loves you as well then, it's a good as it gets. what more do you want?
don't throw it away. :P
^^ goodluck.
2007-11-05 15:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by IMBroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try prayer it works and god is still into listing to them . my honest thoughts . ?
2007-11-05 15:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋