how young is to young to get married??

Question

I was just wondering because i love my bf very much and i am young right now.... I dont want to get married for a couple years but i know friends that want to at 18....

So i was just curious what people thought

I am almost 17... see i dont want to get married untll im around 20-22....

But my bf (19) wants to wait till he is like 27.. so what do i do??

we have been together since 01-03-2006...
He is going to school right now to be a video game designer and i am going to start going to school next year to be a cosmo.... and i want to own my own salon...... (*(my dream!!!!)*)

Answer 1

I'm 19 and I'm engaged, but I'm not getting married until I'm 21...so at least another year and a half. My fiance and I are both sophomores in college (although he's a few years older...)
Don't let being young be a deterrent for you to get married...young marriages can last...but don't be in any rush either. As long as you are both pursuing your dreams and the other person does not hinder that, then go for it. I don't think that getting married a few months before I finish school means that my freedom is going to be taken away from me...my fiance and I are best friends, so the only freedom I feel that us being married will take away is the option to date around--and thats something I don't feel the need or desire to do.
So...don't rush things...but you're not too young to be thinking about it :)
Good luck!

Answer 2

I'd say waiting until you're at least 22 is a good idea. Are you done with HS or are you doing your cosmo as part of a VICA/DECA program?

If you want your own salon, I'd say don't get married until your salon is up and running and profitable. He won't want to marry into a bunch of debt. Either will you. Make sure he's finished his college degree or whatever program he's going into.

You're young... a lot can change in the next 5 years, so let life take you where it wants you to go before you settle down for the long haul.

Answer 3

If I married the guy I was with at 18 I would have been miserable right now. I just turned 28 and I'm getting married next year. First of all, the guy I was with when I was 18 was not good for me, and second I didn't see what the rush was, I wanted to live life and enjoy myself before I started to build a home. Once you get married and have kids there is no going back.
I think your boyfriend feels too young and I don't blame him I think you're too young. Live life have fun while you can don't go rushing into anything.

Answer 4

I think that marriage should have a certain maturity level requirement. I'm not sure that anyone can pin an exact age that you should not get married before. What makes 22 so different than 21, 19 than 18, 26 than 25, etc, etc...?
If you are willing to compromise on almost everything, If you are willing to put your paycheck toward BOTH of your bills, If you can support yourselves as well as a possible family, If you feel as though you have found the "one", then you might be ready for this huge commitment.

Answer 5

I'm 25, my boyfriend is as well. He's in grad school, and won't graduate for another 2 and a half to 3 years. I will finally finish my BA in 2 years, and perhaps after I get a job, I will be able to support us until he can get a job when he graduates. That means that we won't get married for a while. I think that 18 is too young for most people to get married. I think that people need to wait until at least 23. Its a maturity and financial thing.

Answer 6

If you are under 18, you can legally get married with consent as young as 15, but most marriages that young end up in divorce courts. It is better to wait until you have a steady job, finished college, or at least high school. Remember, the desire for sex is not a solid reason to get married.

Answer 7

It really depends on the person. Some people want to get married at 18, others want to wait awhile. I got married when i was 26, and i wouldnt have wanted to get married much earlier than that. I got to go to college and experience life on my own before getting married.

Answer 8

Well, depends on how long you have been together...

I think if you're as young as 18 then you should make sure you were together for at least 3 years before getting married...

But if you are closer to 24 then you should wait at least a year before getting married...

Answer 9

you should definitely be out of college, so that's about 22. then I would think you would want to have a couple years of freedom before settling down and getting married. it's fine to have a bf, but I would say 25 or 26 at the youngest.

Answer 10

Age is relative. I think we should go by a certain checklist...

If you have to rely on your parents or guardian to eat, put a roof over your heads, put clothes on your back and you can't get a job that will support you and have something to save for a rainy day then you are too young to get married.

See how you deal with problems (any kind - emotional, psychological, etc) - do you deal with them maturely or do you run home to your folks and have them solve the problems for you? If you run home to the folks, you are too young to get hitched.

You have to have a good and solid foundation of who you are before you get married. You have to be well-rounded as an individual and "know your own mind" (as they say). If you tend to be fickle with your decision-making, you are too young to get married.