My stepdad has purchased porn through or satalite Provider, and my mom does not no about it. He also has porn Magazines. I know if my mom finds out, she will divorce him. Im the only one that noes about it. Should i tell my mom or Not?
2007-11-05 15:09:47 · 25 answers · asked by bamaboy4325 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This has the potential to create an enormous problem in your family. You apparently realize that. But, you also seem to know that she disapproves of this behavior and I assume HE knows it as well. If I were your Mother and I found out that this was going on behind my back and you didn't tell me....I would be p*ssed royally. Right now, you're aware of it and YOU are allowing it to continue by hiding it. He is making you just as guilty as he is.
I would suggest that when you confront Mom you do so WITH proof in hand to show her that what you say is FACT because I imagine he is going to try to deny it.
Go easy on Mom, okay? If she feels this strongly about the porn issue, this is going to hurt her heart very badly. She's going to need all the support she can get from you.
If he revealed this to you himself and your mother doesn't know then there are some major issues going on here that need to be addressed immediately. That's NOT normal. Not only is he treating your mother unfairly but he is exposing her children to something that she clearly objects to as well. That's just wrong and it makes you wonder what else he's hiding.
If I were you, to keep from being stuck right in the middle of it, I would take Mom by the hand and lead her to proof that this porn exists. Tell her to check the Directv bill... or lead her directly to these magazines. Then he can't point the finger directly at you because Mom found it herself.
Good luck sweetheart. It's nice that you're willing to stand up for your Mom. You are a good child to be so concerned for her. Bless your heart. Do this carefully...people backed in a corner can be mean and hateful...and he is REALLY backed in a corner if you tell Mom what he's doing.
2007-11-05 15:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. Is your step-dad a nice guy? Does he treat you and your mom well? I'm guessing since he has porn that he obviously isn't respecting her all that well. Maybe I would talk to your mom and ask her what she thinks of it and then talk to your stepdad and let him know what she said. Whatever he decides is the answer to your question.
2007-11-05 15:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how canniving you are... you could totally bribe your dad into getting you whatever you want, and I think it would really hurt your mom, unless she doesn't already know about it... i bet she does. But yeah, use it as blackmail, but if you're going to do that, go steal the magazines and hide them so your step-dad can't just move them. Great stuff, though. You could probably bribe your way through childhood...
2007-11-05 15:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by californication 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce over porn? You mom sounds very uptight. Your stepdad needs to run away from her asap. So yeah go ahead and tell you little snitch.
2007-11-05 15:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rosha N 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! Let your Mom and Dad work through their own problems. She'll find out sooner or later anyhow as secrets always have a way of coming out!
2007-11-05 15:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a rough one! I'm wondering how you know but she doesn't. I guess I'd be loyal enough to tell her if I were in this situation. The fact that he's into porn suggests he may have bigger problems that she needs to know about for her own safety and well-being.
2007-11-05 15:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should stay out of this one. People who tell you porn is some horrible thing watch too much Oprah.
2007-11-05 16:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are going well, and you get along with your stp fa, you could drop a hint that if Mom finds em well we know but does he. Or I`d let it go. Guy`s are Guy`s
2007-11-05 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by js 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you have been SNOOPING into other peoples business !! So you are finding things out about their private lives and threatening to tell ! ? Shame on you, you should find something else to do besides nose into others lives.
2007-11-05 21:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by mom23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will she really divorce him!? that's a little harsh. i get furious when i notice my husband has been watching porn. i get over it. i think you should tell her. not because of what she'll do about it but because of what you're being exposed to by his indiscretion. good luck!
2007-11-05 15:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by About that.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋