i really like my boyfriend but theres this other guy that i like and i think he likes me to (not my boyfriend). so is it a bad thing that i am attracted to someone else that is not my boyfriend??? what do you think i should do and please give me some tips on anything?.....
2007-11-05 14:43:28 · 34 answers · asked by person 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out which one you like more. if it's your boyfriend, stay with him. if it's the other guy, then find out if he likes you or not. if he does and you like him more, then go for it. but if he doesnt, and you still like him more, then keep trying. you never know what will happen ;D
2007-11-05 14:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by misslady. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to another guy while you have a boyfriend is a fairly common situation.So while it is not necessarily a bad thing , it is most definitely an uncomfortable position to be in. If you truly like your boyfriend, then cut off the new guy and do not try to explore it ( even though you think he likes you and you like him).But if you believe you might have deeper feelings for the new guy, then please let your boyfriend know and end it with him.Before you decide to do that though, let me remind you of a saying"a bird in hand is worth two in the bush".And also, "what goes around comes around'. Think about it.
2007-11-05 15:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad that your attracted to another guy but it would be if you decided to cheat on your boyfriend with him. That wouldn't be fair. I say you should see how things go with your boyfriend first before you think about breaking up. As always though it is your choice and you have to decide what is best for you and what you like.
2007-11-05 14:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Fabuloso 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I've answered this question before. It is normal to maybe have a crush on someone whenever you are already with another dude. There will always be someone else out there that you are capable of being with, but don't take it to the next step if you are already in a relationship. Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes. You would not like it at all if he fell for some other girl behind your back, now would you?? And guys ALWAYS see another chick that they think is hot, it's just in their instincts. But that would hurt your feelings if you really do love him, and you found out he liked some other girl. N what if he came up to you and was like, I found some one I like more? Wouldn't that suck? So definantly STOP and think before proceeding to try and be with this other dude, bc don't you believe in kharma? Lets say you decided to leave your boyfriend for this dude and the relationship doesn't turn out as good as you thought. What if he cheats on you, or does to you what you would be doing to you current boyfriend, which would be leaving him for another guy. Things like that happen when you do something wrong. How dare you... (coming from me out of love) like another dude behind your boyfriend's back!That's lust, and a sin. Stay with your man girl, don't do him like that. In any case you would break up with him first before trying to fall in love with another guy, but if he hasn't done you wrong all I have to say is DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT do him wrong!
2007-11-05 14:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Aneres 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to figure out how you like him(the other guy). Is it just a crush, stronger feelings, or are you just liking him because you want what you can't have (I do(lol)).
Infact, make sure you REALLY like your boyfriend!!!!
If you ahve strong feelings for both guys, your going to have to see which you like more, if it's your boyfriends then, you have to get over this other guy. If it's the other boy, then find out that he really DOES like you, and break up w/ ur bf.
I don't think it's that bad to have a little crush, becaue you can't really help it. But if you reallly like your bf, you'll just forget about this other guy.
THis is going to be hard but you MUST look in side your heart (korny I know) and see what you REALLY feel!
Make sure your botfriends doesn't find out because he'll have a fit.
And DO NOT I repeat "DO NOT" cheat on your boyfriend, that is just low!
Best of Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-05 14:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the same thing has happened to me before and it really only ended up with my boyfriend and I eventually breaking up. I think you need to just stick with your boyfriend if you like him, because you shouldnt try to mess with your relationship and besides your not even totally sure that the other boy likes you.
HERES THE MAIN QUESTION, would you be sad if you and your boyfriend broke up? because if you dont care enough, then go ahead and like the other boy because your wasting you time with your current one. If you do care, then just take this as a lesson and realize that you really do like your boyfriend and move on.
I know how you feel. I hope this helped :)
2007-11-05 15:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by ilovecheerdude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with your boyfriend?
You'll have crushes and it's natural to be attracted to other people but if you're serious about your relationship, you can't act on those crushes. It would be better to leave your bf (which wouldn't be the end of the world, just a new beginning) before cheating because cheating usually eliminates any possibility of you two being friends after your relationship.
2007-11-05 14:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I'm in the same predicament. Stay faithful to your boyfriend; don't cheat because trust me what goes around comes around. If you ever get strong feelings for the other guy enough to want to act upon them, DON"T! You'll only regret it and its just not worth it. It's not bad to be attracted to other people, as long as you stay faithful and honest to the person you're committed to.
2007-11-06 12:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh its so normal to like another guy
while you already have a boyfriend. Thats
happened to me many many times :] If you
really like your boyfriend, then i would still date him!
If you and his relationship is serious then you & him
will last very long and you'll eventually forget about that
other guy! If you did break up with your boyfriend so
you could date the other guy, then chances are that
he may not like you, and you'll end up boyfriend-less, and
you'll look like a fool! lol :]]
Hope i helped you!! <3
2007-11-05 14:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest that you choose between the both of them 'cause at the end of the day, it's either you win one or loose both. but remember, in making a choice, you have to be wise. do the right thing and not what will make you feel good.
just some sort of advice, take the shoes of your boy friend. think of how it feels like to be in his place given your scenario. what will you feel? what will you do? =) based on that you'll know what should be done.
seek god's help, that's the best thing i would say. =)
god bless! =)
2007-11-05 14:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by 1:57 PM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt wrong at all! just keep going out with ur boyfriend and maybe this guy will ask u out [not knowing that u have a boyfriend] then break up with ur boyfriend to go out with the other guy. dont break up with him now cuz u dont no if the other guy likes you and if u break up with him now and ask out the other guy then he might say no and u would be alone and not happy.
2007-11-05 14:48:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋